16 and pregnant!!!!! HELP!!!

I'm 16 and have 12 weeks left! i'm excited to have my baby girl in my arms already, BUT I am so afraid about labor, money, being a good mom, and giving my baby everything she needs. Like I said 12 weeks left and i still don't have anything for her, I litteraly have no money, I dont even have a safe envierment to bring her home to. I don't know what to do at this point. My biggest fear is not being able to provide for her, or giving her what ever her little heart desires. I'm freaking out! I wish i was more carefull, and not have gotten in this situation would i cahnge anything? Not ever i wouldn't take it back for nothing. Is there anyone out thier who can tell me it will all work out, that I'm worrieing for nothing? I feel helpless and weak.

Hello. I had my baby at a young age too. Have you considered adoption or abortion? What makes your home at a bad environment? Have you tried applying for jobs? Being a young mom is very hard but its doable. Is the daddy still involved?

Um, have you considered adoption? Since you said you don't have a safe environment to bring her home to, I would think you'd want to change that..
Is your family being supportive?

It's not my place to parent you because you already have parents, but have you considered a women's shelter where they can help you? You may need to be immancipated in order to do this but if you do not have a safe environment to bring the child home to it may be time to turn to help from others who can give you the stepping stones you need to stay on track. Possibly talk to welfare in your area and see if they can help you out. Good luck!

<blockquote><b>Quoting May ♥:</b>" Hello. I had my baby at a young age too. Have you considered adoption or abortion? What makes your home ... [snip!] ... bad environment? Have you tried applying for jobs? Being a young mom is very hard but its doable. Is the daddy still involved?"</blockquote>




Abortion at 28 weeks?



Op what makes the home environment unsafe?

<blockquote><b>Quoting May ♥:</b>" Hello. I had my baby at a young age too. Have you considered adoption or abortion? What makes your home ... [snip!] ... bad environment? Have you tried applying for jobs? Being a young mom is very hard but its doable. Is the daddy still involved?"</blockquote>



Little late for an abortion lol.

But OP, you should be considering adoption if your family's unsupportive, you have no money, and the baby has NOTHING she needs, how can you raise her?
Babies need SO much more than love.

I don't know what state you live in but most have safe houses for pregnant moms. It helps you have place , find job, and get food. So you can take care of the baby and get on your feet. Do you have a planned parenthood where you live? If so they can point you in right direction and give you all information and numbers. Not be rude but where are your parents? It's hard but you can do it, don't let anything get you down.

If you can't provide for her I'd consider adoption. Not that it's easy, but neither is raising a child with no income or support. You could give your baby a good life and be a part of it even if you aren't parenting.

My sister was in your situation, but my mom helped her out. Don't let anyone try and tell you that you have to give the baby up for adoption their are people who will do that. If I were you I would research the area you are in and find churches who will help you as well as places that are there to help new moms we have a few in our town, as much as this may sound wrong to is look for a shelter also, we have a shelter here also that is here to help women with kids to get onto their feet, they help you find a place to live and a job, go to des and get assistance and ask them of there is anything else they can help with like Section 8 housing and everything, its always hard to be a new mom but believe it or not their are a lot of people in the same boat as you. Just don't let people discourage you. Hope this helps

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elena Dawn's mommy:</b>" If you can't provide for her I'd consider adoption. Not that it's easy, but neither is raising a child ... [snip!] ... a child with no income or support. You could give your baby a good life and be a part of it even if you aren't parenting."</blockquote>

Google 'First Call For Help' & the state you live in. It will give you a number to call. When you speak to them, they will give you a list of phone numbers of organizations that help prepair for an unplanned pregnancy if you decide to parent & adoption agencies if you decide to give her up for adoption. Some will help you financially, others will provide you will baby clothes, maternity clothes, baby toys, diapers, wipes, bottles, a crib, bassinet or a pack n play, a carseat or anything else you need. I hope this helps, good luck with your LO.

Yes I think about it everyday, I hate the idea of someone else raiseing her but it's not about me, If i gave her up she would have everything she needs and have a great life and lots of love. My family is very supportive, everyone of them helps out any way they can, and my mom is trying her hardest to find a house and get all we need. But i feel like a burden somtimes, like i can't even provide for my own child and she isn't even here yet so my mom has to do it all. My homes a bad invierment because its to cold for a baby there are animals everywere and everyones stressed out constantly, were staying with my aunt untill we find a house, and yes he is still around hes been by my side through every bit of it hes my rock i would have givven up long ago without him.

Quoting Courtney Jo Conn:" Yes I think about it everyday, I hate the idea of someone else raiseing her but it's not about me, If ... [snip!] ... and yes he is still around hes been by my side through every bit of it hes my rock i would have givven up long ago without him."

^ Have you applied for wic and food assistance ? They will help with cost food so your eatting and if baby needs formula for some reason you aren't able breast feed. There are so many church that help you get baby stuff you need , between clothes, cribs, car seats and so on.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Courtney Jo Conn:</b>" Yes I think about it everyday, I hate the idea of someone else raiseing her but it's not about me, If ... [snip!] ... and yes he is still around hes been by my side through every bit of it hes my rock i would have givven up long ago without him."</blockquote>




Good luck with whatever you decide   bg is a great place for advice and support.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Courtney Jo Conn:</b>" Yes I think about it everyday, I hate the idea of someone else raiseing her but it's not about me, If ... [snip!] ... and yes he is still around hes been by my side through every bit of it hes my rock i would have givven up long ago without him."</blockquote>


If your mom is helping you then you can do it my sister wanted to give up she was 15 her bf beat her my mom steped in and took her and the baby she still has her and is now married and has her third baby on the way, and her husband is trying to adopt her first. It's hard but right now your daughter won't know if you are poor or rich they don't care as long as you and dad and family are there and love her that's all they want. Go get state assistance its there to help people like you that should help some and look around for places that help pay deposit for housing and stuff so you can move out. Don't feel like you are a burden on your mom she wouldn't be doing it if ahe didn't love you. Check out churches too. Don't give up it will all work out in the end. It always does.