re: 12 Year Son w/ ADHD ***HELP PLEASE***

Quoting Epic Big Head:" It could be puberty, testing his boundaries or maybe he is just bored. He may need more structure and ... [snip!] ... more until you are back to a point where he is doing his homework. We still have to do that for my 15 year old son sometimes."

Communicating with the school he is in, is easier said than done , I have been trying to get a conference with his teachers for 6 weeks now, and I FINALLY got a return phone call yesterday , only to be told I need to enquire about a conference after christmas break, she says her schedule is too busy right now

Quoting Jennifer Lohrman:" Communicating with the school he is in, is easier said than done , I have been trying to get a conference ... [snip!] ... , only to be told I need to enquire about a conference after christmas break, she says her schedule is too busy right now"

What a horrible teacher. Can you e-mail her? My parents are teachers and i am sorry... but that is just stupid. I would call the principle.

Quoting Jennifer Lohrman:" Communicating with the school he is in, is easier said than done , I have been trying to get a conference ... [snip!] ... , only to be told I need to enquire about a conference after christmas break, she says her schedule is too busy right now"

Your kid has a need for an IEP then. Do some research about it and request an IEP for him. The school is federally required to do this for any child with any type of physical, intellectual or mental disability - ADHD included.

Quoting Is that still my name?:" Oh also, you can explain the situation to his teacher/s and they will tell you his grades, his test scores ... [snip!] ... and when he has homework so he won't lie about it. It will get better in time. My step-bro was at his worst 6th-9th grade."

I'm not going to give up, but it aggravates me because his teachers won't communicate with me. Hoping and Praying that it gets better... Thank you again for the advice

Quoting Is that still my name?:" What a horrible teacher. Can you e-mail her? My parents are teachers and i am sorry... but that is just stupid. I would call the principle. "

I have emailed her, the counselor and several other teacher, and no response...

Quoting Epic Big Head:" Your kid has a need for an IEP then. Do some research about it and request an IEP for him. The school ... [snip!] ... is federally required to do this for any child with any type of physical, intellectual or mental disability - ADHD included."

we came from a different county than last year and I told them he has always been in an IEP class and /or 504 Program, they still have yet to get off their butts and put him where he belongs... 10 weeks into the school year and they finally got his records from the other school 2 weeks ago and he began the year where he is now, he wasn't a new student...

Thank you to everyone for all of your advice and please feel free to post any advice you may have, I am calling it a night, I have an early morning ahead of me...
Good Night ALL

Quoting Jennifer Lohrman:" we came from a different county than last year and I told them he has always been in an IEP class and ... [snip!] ... finally got his records from the other school 2 weeks ago and he began the year where he is now, he wasn't a new student..."

You can request an iep meeting at any time and they have to do it. If you have documented proof that you requested it, and they did not schedule it, you can file a grievance with the state board of education

Quoting Jennifer Lohrman:" I have emailed her, the counselor and several other teacher, and no response..."

Oh wow. Then I'd suggest getting a different school... I mean, it is a hassle, but it is your son's well-being at stake. You can even take it to the board of supervisors. This IS their duty as a teacher/school administrator. I hate feeling so much like a gung-ho person.... but I am very passionate about this kind of stuff...

Quoting JAL & JLL:" He is in the 6th grade and since he started middle school, OMG he has turned into a different child, ... [snip!] ... I feel so helpless , we have tried everything to get through to him.... Any and ALL advice is VERY Welcome and Appreciated..."

Hi, I just wanted to share with you that I am going thru a similar situation with my 12 year old stepson who was diagnosed with Asperger's. He has also had the don't care attitude and lies about homework and has been very hard to deal with this school year. We are a little luckier though, we have great contact with the school and his special education teacher calls or emails me weekly. Once you get into contact, ask that they check his planner at the end of the day to make sure all homework is written in, as well as in his binder/folder to take home. His teacher is doing an incentive program with him where he gets signatures for each class period if he stayed focused, was well behaved, etc. He then gets to "cash" those signatures in for prizes/rewards like computer time, iPad time, smart board time, extra such and such.... it seems to be working a lot better than doing nothing before. He still gets "late" on assignments and sometimes has off days. I am getting him into the therapist to see about his meds - although he's been on these for awhile and they have worked, he's also going thru puberty and he's changing physically and emotionally. My stepson is very impulsive and obsesses over things easily so we try to use positive reinforcement with him by allowing him to get things with good behavior. He also goes to a boys and girls club after school where I keep in contact with the teen director, but he has been in some trouble there as well for behavior issues. Any child that has any form of disorder whether it be ADHD or Autism will go through different phases and stages. My stepson is socially awkward and doesn't read social ques so he often finds himself out of place with other kids - it's something they need to learn by being put into those positions. We keep him at BGC so he can learn to socialize and help him make friends. I wish you the best of luck! It can be a real struggle with no support from teachers.... But keep pushing for his IEP and getting him the proper help he deserves!

Quoting Epic Big Head:" It could be puberty, testing his boundaries or maybe he is just bored. He may need more structure and ... [snip!] ... more until you are back to a point where he is doing his homework. We still have to do that for my 15 year old son sometimes."

this!

Quoting Epic Big Head:" It could be puberty, testing his boundaries or maybe he is just bored. He may need more structure and ... [snip!] ... more until you are back to a point where he is doing his homework. We still have to do that for my 15 year old son sometimes."

this!

Quoting Epic Big Head:" It could be puberty, testing his boundaries or maybe he is just bored. He may need more structure and ... [snip!] ... more until you are back to a point where he is doing his homework. We still have to do that for my 15 year old son sometimes."

this!