Quoting JAL & JLL:" He is in the 6th grade and since he started middle school, OMG he has turned into a different child, ... [snip!] ... I feel so helpless , we have tried everything to get through to him.... Any and ALL advice is VERY Welcome and Appreciated..."
Hi, I just wanted to share with you that I am going thru a similar situation with my 12 year old stepson who was diagnosed with Asperger's. He has also had the don't care attitude and lies about homework and has been very hard to deal with this school year. We are a little luckier though, we have great contact with the school and his special education teacher calls or emails me weekly. Once you get into contact, ask that they check his planner at the end of the day to make sure all homework is written in, as well as in his binder/folder to take home. His teacher is doing an incentive program with him where he gets signatures for each class period if he stayed focused, was well behaved, etc. He then gets to "cash" those signatures in for prizes/rewards like computer time, iPad time, smart board time, extra such and such.... it seems to be working a lot better than doing nothing before. He still gets "late" on assignments and sometimes has off days. I am getting him into the therapist to see about his meds - although he's been on these for awhile and they have worked, he's also going thru puberty and he's changing physically and emotionally. My stepson is very impulsive and obsesses over things easily so we try to use positive reinforcement with him by allowing him to get things with good behavior. He also goes to a boys and girls club after school where I keep in contact with the teen director, but he has been in some trouble there as well for behavior issues. Any child that has any form of disorder whether it be ADHD or Autism will go through different phases and stages. My stepson is socially awkward and doesn't read social ques so he often finds himself out of place with other kids - it's something they need to learn by being put into those positions. We keep him at BGC so he can learn to socialize and help him make friends. I wish you the best of luck! It can be a real struggle with no support from teachers.... But keep pushing for his IEP and getting him the proper help he deserves!