re: Official single moms/dating thread!

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" Thought id post this kinda like an update after that crazy fight, BD was trying to talk to me and apologize ... [snip!] ... friend again.. It just makes no sence to me if he really hates me so much why he keeps coming back and wanting to be friends.."

You said why.... he's selfish and is using it to get out of trouble. Take it from me.... if did it once, they'll do it again and again and again. You HAVE to cut emotional ties. FOR your family.

hey ladies! nothing good to add here... but... I'm close to getting BRN!! not that they really matter... but smurf. I was close once.. and had to delete my account and start a new one (ok'd by Mara) because of an ex husband e-stalking me. Then... close again... reset because of the counting thing.. which I didn't even know about.

so... after almost 5 years on BG.... about to hit 10K!

dating... smurf. army guy and I decided to be open... see other people if we met someone. I went on a lunch meeting (insisted it wasn't a date).. but whatever.. and army guy ran into me. (ugh)

he's in the middle of dealing with court smurf... but we talked.. and were still seeing each other. Then.. I found out he had a girl at his appt the other day. I have no real right to be upset... but smurf.

he insists it was nothing.. just a friend. liar. : D there was a makeup removal pad in bathroom trash. women don't just show up and take off smurfing makeup.

anyway.. open to meeting someone.. but focusing on school now

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" hey ladies! nothing good to add here... but... I'm close to getting BRN!! not that they really matter... ... [snip!] ... trash. women don't just show up and take off smurfing makeup. anyway.. open to meeting someone.. but focusing on school now"</blockquote>



I've been a member for 4 years. And I'm not even to 3000 yet lol

ok, smurfing random.

back in sept when army guy and I broke up.. I dated a trooper for awhile. didn't work out. He wasn't ready for a relationship... was sorta an ass.. but obviously not on purpose. He'd been married 15 years, and was just bad at dating. I ended it because ... while there were feelings there, he had a bad habit of making me not feel good about myself... and I won't tolerate that.

so.. today.. I get a text from him asking if we can talk. umm.. ok. so he calls and tells me he thinks about me all the time. He was out on a date last night... and apparently talked about me so much.. this lady told him he's in love with me and needs to resolve smurf. He tells me he wasn't ready for a relationship then, and the feelings scared him etc..

wtf.. idk. smurfing cops and alcoholics... that's all that's ever available around me.. and I dont' know which is worse

Quoting snglemama:" ok, smurfing random. back in sept when army guy and I broke up.. I dated a trooper for awhile. didn't ... [snip!] ... etc.. wtf.. idk. smurfing cops and alcoholics... that's all that's ever available around me.. and I dont' know which is worse"

def cops lmao jk

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" def cops lmao jk"

LOL... there's a big court hearing going on in my city right now about 8 cops using exessive force. They killed someone and falsified docutments. Not even ten years ago there was a cop circle busted... they were impounding cars and using them in a chop shop.

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" def cops lmao jk"

haha.. yea.. well, stupid me agreed to meet him monday to talk. now I want to cancel, but he keeps texting me about how excited he is to see me.. so I;d feel bad canceling. I made it clear that agreeing to see him does NOT mean I'm getting back together with him.

haha.. omg, are you kidding me?

after my divorce I fell head over heals in love. I didn't know love could be like that.. completely.. loved everything about him. He isn't perfect.. but he made me feel like everything was like it should be in the world. we meshed.

we broke up because of custody issues.. he wouldn't move away from his kids, I can't move away from mine. We were looking at houses halfway between us.. but then he decided he just couldn't wrap his mind around living half an hour away from his kids. it's been a mind smurf since then. Everytime I think I'm find to move on... he contacts me again.

anyway... last week.. I told him to please stop contacting me. we kept trying to be friends... but I told him I just can't.

today.. he texted asking me to dinner on Thursday. wtf? does he realize Thursday is valentines day?

I can't respond. I should run for the hills... but... what if he DOES realize it.. and is finally ready..? ugh ugh ugh ugh ugh..... I don't want to go.. and get my heart broken again on V-day.

this whole thing makes me laugh. I decide I'm ok alone.. to focus on school. I decide I'm going to stop looking for a man... and what? all my ex's are suddenly going to contact me? wtf??

Quoting snglemama:" haha.. omg, are you kidding me? after my divorce I fell head over heals in love. I didn't know love ... [snip!] ... focus on school. I decide I'm going to stop looking for a man... and what? all my ex's are suddenly going to contact me? wtf??"

Oh God, April. Oh God. WTF.

Quoting snglemama:" haha.. omg, are you kidding me? after my divorce I fell head over heals in love. I didn't know love ... [snip!] ... focus on school. I decide I'm going to stop looking for a man... and what? all my ex's are suddenly going to contact me? wtf??"

Are you going to go? I don't even know what to think; I don't even have an opinion.

Quoting snglemama:" haha.. omg, are you kidding me? after my divorce I fell head over heals in love. I didn't know love ... [snip!] ... focus on school. I decide I'm going to stop looking for a man... and what? all my ex's are suddenly going to contact me? wtf??"

But you were SO into that guy.... I'm sure he realizes it is V-day. If you reconnect with ANYONE it should be him... not the other guy. I hope you don't actually meet up with the other guy.... it sounds like disaster on wheels. lol

Quoting Little Vine:" Are you going to go? I don't even know what to think; I don't even have an opinion."

I texted back... told him my idea of a good valentines day was NOT sitting across from the man I'm in love with and getting my heart broken all over again. That I don't want to have dinner and not see him again. That... he knows I wnat to have dinner with him every night for the rest of my life. He said.. I really think we should have dinner. So.. I told him no to Thursday, but asked if he wanted to meet for coffee tonight. That Im saving Thursday to get drunk alone and remind myself why all men are smurfs! : )

so... coffee. turned into 3 hours of chatting... just like normal. Intelligent and funny conversation. We;re both big nerds. He' a scientist. We discussed research, vaccines, medical conspiracies, hibernation cycles of bears (yes, I know!! but it was GOOD conversation for us!)

and... he asked me out for Thursday again. I asked for what? A date.. or friendship. He grinned, and said a date. (insert butterflies)

damn.. I know this will end in heartache. but... seriously... other half, soul mates, he makes the world feel RIGHT.

and... he kissed me.
butterflies!! I am not working... and can NOT sleep. I'm anxious, happy, worried... HAPPY... sigh.

Quoting snglemama:" haha.. omg, are you kidding me? after my divorce I fell head over heals in love. I didn't know love ... [snip!] ... focus on school. I decide I'm going to stop looking for a man... and what? all my ex's are suddenly going to contact me? wtf??"

well, why dont u go. dont get ur hopes up and dont expect anything at all from him. just go for a nice dinner and see what happens from there?? at the very least u get to go out and have a nice night. i love getting dressed up even if i know its just for my own benefit

Quoting snglemama:" I texted back... told him my idea of a good valentines day was NOT sitting across from the man I'm ... [snip!] ... and... he kissed me. butterflies!! I am not working... and can NOT sleep. I'm anxious, happy, worried... HAPPY... sigh."

yayyyyyyy for butterflies!!!!

in my book, if u still get butterflies, then he's still worth it lol

I hear ya about exes or guys contacting you when you decied to give up..
I was texting this guy for like four days that my friend suggest i text because he is such a nice guy and not like the other guys ive dated or hung out with and blah blah blah.. so text with this guy for a few days and he seems nice and I feel like I could like him, hes my age, dont care i have kids etc.. than he starts asking for pictures I sent some like clothes pics nothing sexy and than he asks for more in my PJ's and keeps asking for pictures, than I said i wasn't going to send naughty ones and hes like if you liked me you would.. well that puts him in smurf category and me dissapointed and back at square one. ...
I dont even know why i bother with men at all.. why are they all the same>?