re: Official single moms/dating thread!

Quoting Alfies Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" that sounds like him to the tee~!!! ... [snip!] ... daughter. I don't want to do that again. We will see if I start my period next week. Would you be upset if you got pregnant?"

yeahhh that doesnt sound good if he is scared to be a father but doesnt pull out?? i would talk with him about it!!!

i would, but both of us have spoken about the possibility of my getting pregnant and he knows that if i do get pregnant, i wont abort. he is ok with that and says he will take care of his responisbilities BUT that we should be more proactive in prevention

Quoting Is that still my name?:" I thought I'd post this here.... Long story short. I went to pick up my daughter from her grandma's house ... [snip!] ... most important thing on this planet when they can't respect my simple and well justified wishes... What would you have done?"

you handled it well...i would say hi to the girl and introduce myself as your daughters mother. that wouldve been it, i would take my kid say good bye and be out. i would however, have a talk with BD and his mom... and ask them to warn u about others coming around in advance.

Quoting Is that still my name?:" I thought I'd post this here.... Long story short. I went to pick up my daughter from her grandma's house ... [snip!] ... most important thing on this planet when they can't respect my simple and well justified wishes... What would you have done?"

honestly... as much as it sucks.. you need to gt over it. He's obviously going to see other people. He's being a douche. but you can help the situation by making it not a big deal. Let him know it's OK to date other people. His mother did NOT disrespect you. Neither she . nor your ex have any obligation to have you meet anyone new in his life. It sucks.. but it's a reality of divorce

Quoting Alfies Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" that sounds like him to the tee~!!! ... [snip!] ... daughter. I don't want to do that again. We will see if I start my period next week. Would you be upset if you got pregnant?"

I don't understand this. It's not his responsibility to prevent pregnancy.. it's both of yours.

Quoting snglemama:" I don't understand this. It's not his responsibility to prevent pregnancy.. it's both of yours."

this is true. but to me, if i tell u multiple times lets use a condom, and you dont want to, and if i talk to u about the possibility of pregnancy, and you are OK with it, then we arent preventing it anymore. we may not be jumping headfirst and TTC'ing but if it happens neither will be upset.

Quoting snglemama:" I don't understand this. It's not his responsibility to prevent pregnancy.. it's both of yours."

this is true. but to me, if i tell u multiple times lets use a condom, and you dont want to, and if i talk to u about the possibility of pregnancy, and you are OK with it, then we arent preventing it anymore. we may not be jumping headfirst and TTC'ing but if it happens neither will be upset.

Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" this is true. but to me, if i tell u multiple times lets use a condom, and you dont want to, and if ... [snip!] ... it, then we arent preventing it anymore. we may not be jumping headfirst and TTC'ing but if it happens neither will be upset."

men think with their dicks. Unless they SAY they are ok with the responsibility of a baby... it's not all clear to go. They're just being stupid. Pulling out sucks. Imagine if the guy pulled out everytime you were about to finish? it definitely effects the quality of sex for a man.. as does a condom. Therefore... they're willing to risk it instead of being smart.

Quoting snglemama:" honestly... as much as it sucks.. you need to gt over it. He's obviously going to see other people. ... [snip!] ... Neither she . nor your ex have any obligation to have you meet anyone new in his life. It sucks.. but it's a reality of divorce"

I don't think you're understanding the situation.

Hello ladies....i havent been on this site in like forever....I have a question.....im a single mom of a 4 yr old boy....been dating this guy who lives 2 hrs away.in bk nyc,...but im getting a lil frustrated.....he is off weekends...my days off rotate. We been dating for the past 3 months and mostly he drives to me to be able to spend time with him.....or together....but i feel like its might end soon because the distance and mostly because my days off rotate which is the reason why we dont see eachother as often.....i want to do things when we do see eachother instead of being stuck in my apt....any suggestions? i dont want it to get boring.....but its cold out lol ......ohh bu byt the time he gets off work im at work so it sucks for i like at leat to talk over the phone but mostly are text msgs back and forth.........and i cant have my cell inside the prison where i work.....

<blockquote><b>Quoting Is that still my name?:</b>" You asked if he doesn't want children why doesn't he pull out???? welcome to the VERY FIRST steps ... [snip!] ... a condom.... I wouldn't want to date him. lol He sounds like an irresponsible bastard.... but hey... maybe I'm just bitter. lol"</blockquote>


I mean we are both irresponsible with not protecting ourselves. He has the fear of being a dad becaus he had a crappy one. He is disappointed in his dad and he is afraid his child would feel like that towards him. He wants kids we talked about it he just has that fear. With his childhood I can understand why he has held off on having kids. Honestly he is a good guy, he just has some past issues that haunt him but hey who doesn't.

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" I don't understand this. It's not his responsibility to prevent pregnancy.. it's both of yours."</blockquote>




I agree with you. It's both of our responsibility to prevent it. I won't go on birth control because I don't like what it does to my body. I had the mirena for two years after I had my daughter and it was just a bad experience for me. I like to keep track of ovulation and to help prevent it. I screwed up this month. I wouldn't blame just him if I got pregnant because I could have done something about it too.

Quoting Alfies Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" I don't understand this. It's not his responsibility ... [snip!] ... it. I screwed up this month. I wouldn't blame just him if I got pregnant because I could have done something about it too."

look into contraceptive film. It's a little less pain in the ass than condoms. You can insert it a couple hours before sex.. or if you think you will have sex.. then you dont have to worry about condoms. (though, they don't protect against STD's)

Quoting Alfies Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" that sounds like him to the tee~!!! ... [snip!] ... daughter. I don't want to do that again. We will see if I start my period next week. Would you be upset if you got pregnant?"

Well your there to you need to be responsible for you and protect yourself until your sure

Quoting Is that still my name?:" I thought I'd post this here.... Long story short. I went to pick up my daughter from her grandma's house ... [snip!] ... most important thing on this planet when they can't respect my simple and well justified wishes... What would you have done?"

Id be mad as hell at this.. actually my ex like had this girl he was banging around my kids, I know for sure becaue she tells me on facebook how cute my baby is.. UM EXCUSE ME .. and now they dont even talk was like a fling.. so I understand this completely how you feel your trust is breached..
Sounds like someone is jealous of his past and cant accept you have a child togetehr.

Thought id post this kinda like an update after that crazy fight,
BD was trying to talk to me and apologize for being a douche, and I avoided it not sure what to even say but I guess Im stupid and hold a small spot for him still, maybe I still hope we will be a family again.. BUT im still proceeding with teh lawyers, I know he don't have one and now is just being nice so that he can avoid court and havin to pay for a lawyer but I made that mistake already before..
We hung out Sunday, monday and Tuesday (played monopoly lmfao) and I really enjoy his compnay it's like coming home.. but I feel like i dont deserve any sympathy if he drops me as a friend again.. It just makes no sence to me if he really hates me so much why he keeps coming back and wanting to be friends..