re: Official single moms/dating thread!

hey ladies! im back from my out of town visit... it was super crazy =/

<blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" hey ladies! im back from my out of town visit... it was super crazy =/ "</blockquote>

Bad crazy?

Quoting .legendTAYry.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" hey ladies! im back from my out of town visit... it was super crazy =/ "</blockquote> Bad crazy?"

idk, me and P (dude im in love with) were really reckless, as in he decided he weasnt pulling out. i didnt realize i was ovulating this week, so i took the plan B asap. but i dont know if it will work because they say it is less effective during ovulation. we spoke and i told him that i was taking it and he said we should use condoms from then on, because he didnt want me to go thru another bad situation.... it was bittersweet. i want a kid but i dont know if now is a good time esp with someone i am not in a relationship with and that i live 8 hrs away from. the night ended with lots of crying and i miss u's. it was stupid.... and painful.... but im just crossing my fingers

<blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" idk, me and P (dude im in love with) were really reckless, as in he decided he weasnt pulling out. i ... [snip!] ... from. the night ended with lots of crying and i miss u's. it was stupid.... and painful.... but im just crossing my fingers"</blockquote>


I'm going through the same thing. I thought I wasn't ovulating until next week so I didn't really think twice about him not pulling out, until I checked my calendar and saw that I was ovulating. I'm trying not to freak out and I haven't told him about it because I don't want to freak him out. I also find it odd that he has always pulled out and I mean always until recently. It wasn't just once that he has forgotten its everytime now. I told him this morning that he needs to start pulling out or we need to start using condoms. We are basically playing with fire now. I hope the best for you.

I just need to vent..
My EX has really gone off the deep end this time. A friend of mine whom we've had a rocky year because of the break up because my ex with go and tell her things that are not true and twists peoples words to get people fighting and cause drama.
ANYWAYS he claims to be in love with my friend and would like to get married and have a baby, she is still in love with her babys dad and also has told him she doesnt think of him in that way and NEVER WILL. This was why there friendship ended the first time in May 2012 he would just not stop with I love you's and I want to date you's and acting like they're dating and it caused alot of drama.
So she gives him another chance to be friends but said she didnt want a repeat, he could stop for smoke breaks sometimes casualy and text here or there and he promised her it would not happen again.. well guess what it happened again, and he had she and I fighting and not talking again.. finally we decided we weren't going to play anymore and he does not like this..
He started again saying I love you, want to date you, buying her stuff, and she told him NO and he doesn't get it he would show up at her house without asking, and follow her to walmart and attack me over her and tell me to leave her alone, finallly tonight there was a huge blowup. He got told all week and for a month straight she does not like him or love him or want to date her, he got so mad he said infront of witnesses he wants to kill me and I am bitch and I just dont want them to be friends.. and it's so high school.. It's stressful..
He is mental and I don't want to send my kids with him and to top it all off i found out he kicked my son and hit him for trying to steal a toy from this friends home, and im scared to send my kids with him he has become very unstable..
Wouldnt you get the hint after losing a friend previously and being told NO i dont like or love or want to date you someone is not intrested!..

Quoting Alfies Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" idk, me and P (dude im in love with) ... [snip!] ... needs to start pulling out or we need to start using condoms. We are basically playing with fire now. I hope the best for you."

that sounds like him to the tee~!!! when i asked hiim why he said "i thought we were past that". da fuq? NO! i hope the best for u as well.... if you got preggo would u be upset?

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" I just need to vent.. My EX has really gone off the deep end this time. A friend of mine whom we've ... [snip!] ... hint after losing a friend previously and being told NO i dont like or love or want to date you someone is not intrested!.. "

oh SmUrf no!!! that is not okay for him to take his anger out on your LO. i would definately not send him over there again or file a report, whatever u have to do in order to keep him safe.

as for the other drama, maybe u should step back from the friendship, becuase it sounds like it isnt worth the drama right now. not on a sour note just on a "me time": kind of hiatus

Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" oh SmUrf no!!! that is not okay for him to take his anger out on your LO. i would definately not send ... [snip!] ... friendship, becuase it sounds like it isnt worth the drama right now. not on a sour note just on a "me time": kind of hiatus"

She and I sacrifised our friendship in the summer for this and it wasn't fair and also for a few weeks before christmas but we really are close like sisters and he THINKS he loves her.. It's not fair to us

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" She and I sacrifised our friendship in the summer for this and it wasn't fair and also for a few weeks ... [snip!] ... and also for a few weeks before christmas but we really are close like sisters and he THINKS he loves her.. It's not fair to us"

well in that case, ask her if she would mind ending the friendship completely and get a restraining order. he sounds like he might just go violently crazy on her

Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" well in that case, ask her if she would mind ending the friendship completely and get a restraining order. he sounds like he might just go violently crazy on her"

This is the part we are afraid of like he doesnt for some reason get it that she doesnt want a romantic relationship with her, when i say it to him infront of her and she says it its like he doesn't hear it and that is the next step she is going to be taking sadly.

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" This is the part we are afraid of like he doesnt for some reason get it that she doesnt want a romantic ... [snip!] ... it to him infront of her and she says it its like he doesn't hear it and that is the next step she is going to be taking sadly."

smfh. those situations are always sticky but that is a good way to get the message across

Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" smfh. those situations are always sticky but that is a good way to get the message across"

sadly aye? i hope he gets medicated and he will see what he lost and how his behaviour was not ok

I thought I'd post this here....
Long story short. I went to pick up my daughter from her grandma's house an hour away from where I live. Normally when I get there, I use the rest room, and then we chat for a while. This time, the second I pulled up, Nana, her husband and DD's dad come racing out of the house. Mind you, he REFUSES to talk to me. He NEVER sees his daughter, and I hadn't seen him and rarely heard from him in the past 6 months. He acted like a total jackass. He wouldn't even hand me my daughter... he refused. So I asked if I could use the rest room. Everyone got silent and his mom said yes. So I went in. DOUCHE FACE said "here we go..." SO I knew his GF was in there. She stood and faced the wall when I walked by. I came out of the restroom and walked straight to her. His dad tried to get in my way but I walked around him. I said "Hi. I'm Erin." and shook her hand. She said "Jennifer" all half assed. I said nice to meet you, and she walked away. So I went back to my car and continued to talk with Nana and DD's Uncle, whom I haven't seen in about 5 years. DOUCH SmUrf quickly walks, no runs, away and doens't look or say a damn thing. I feel VERY betrayed to by his mother. I have told her REPEATIDLY that IF that girl is around her, I have a right to know as a mother. She disrespected me and has made her father afraid to even communicate about his own child.... given he is a peice of smurf for choosing to act that way. She was so unbelievabley childish. I find it appalling that with SIX adults in the room, I am the ONLY one who could act like an adult.

I am livid. I have NEVER wanted to keep anyone away from DD. It is the very last thing I want. But my trust is broken. This girl is disrespectful and obviously has some sort of childish issue against me and the well-being of my child. I also asked his mother to tell me when Douche smurf saw her so I could eventually gain trust with him being around her. She refused. I'm not mad about either of them being around DD. I am disgusted and afraid with teh audacitiy for their childish behaviors. If they act this way to me...how do they act to my child. How can I trust them with the most important thing on this planet when they can't respect my simple and well justified wishes...

What would you have done?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" that sounds like him to the tee~!!! when i asked hiim why he said "i thought we were past that". da fuq? NO! i hope the best for u as well.... if you got preggo would u be upset?"</blockquote>


I haven't even asked why he doesn't pull out anymore. It kinda has me puzzled because his biggest fear is becoming a father. So I'm sitting here thinking, you're afraid to become a dad but yet now you're not preventing it. I don't know if I would be upset, maybe at first because right now is not a good time to have a baby. Plus our relationship is still new. I also got pregnant 3months into my relationship with my ex husband and we forced our relationship to work for our daughter. I don't want to do that again. We will see if I start my period next week. Would you be upset if you got pregnant?

Quoting Alfies Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Beanie's Breeder:</b>" that sounds like him to the tee~!!! ... [snip!] ... daughter. I don't want to do that again. We will see if I start my period next week. Would you be upset if you got pregnant?"

You asked if he doesn't want children why doesn't he pull out???? welcome to the VERY FIRST steps of becoming a dead beat father.... I got Mirena just to protect myself from incidents like that.... If he can't make a responsible decision right now about at least using a condom.... I wouldn't want to date him. lol He sounds like an irresponsible bastard.... but hey... maybe I'm just bitter. lol