re: Official single moms/dating thread!

Quoting Miss-Maia's Mommy:" So, my BD and I got out of a really bad relationship a few weeks ago. He was breaking everything in our ... [snip!] ... me that he really doesnt care about me so Im done trying to make things work. It hurts but I dont have a choice but to move on."

I'm not one that usually says don't date yet... but a few weeks out of a really bad relationship, where you lost everything...and are pregnant.mama.. really you should focus on getting your life back together. Otherwise you'll chase men away anyway. The thing I hear most from men is they want a woman with their smurf together. You're a mom now. You want a responsible man... and a responsible man is going to want a responsible woman.... so the type you should be looking for... won't want to go near a woman with so much smurf going on.

be patient...

SO off topic, but OP you're a nurse, right? What was it like going through school with kids? I want to go to school this fall and I have no idea how I'm gonna do it with kids, and trying to afford child care, etc.

I've been dating my dude for about 6 months now. Things are a lot more serious and we're talking about moving in together this year sometime... but for the last few weeks he has 'talks' with me almost every day. Like 'do you love & trust me' talks. I get that he's scared.. blah blah.. it's hard to trust someone when you've been through so much smurf but gahhh these talks are going to be the death of me..

Quoting Mama Mallo (::" SO off topic, but OP you're a nurse, right? What was it like going through school with kids? I want to ... [snip!] ... kids? I want to go to school this fall and I have no idea how I'm gonna do it with kids, and trying to afford child care, etc."

yes. It was hard... but worth it. And.. it taught my kids to work hard for what they want. Their dad is always miserable at work, complains about his job, and never has money for what he wants. I LOVE my job, and make a good income.

You ahve to schedule everything, and never procrastinate.

I'm actually in school again. I have my associate RN degree... and now 5 years experience. Life calmed down (as much as possible with 4 kids lol). I started last week back for my BSN, and will continue to get my masters in nurse education.

I also work night shift... and do a lot of my homework during downtime. I did it that way the first time as well. I was a CNA in a nursing home.

I pay a sitter $30 to sleep on my couch at night... and then 3 of them go to school during the day so no daycare expense there.. just for my youngest.

Quoting snglemama:" yes. It was hard... but worth it. And.. it taught my kids to work hard for what they want. Their dad ... [snip!] ... on my couch at night... and then 3 of them go to school during the day so no daycare expense there.. just for my youngest."

My oldest will be in kindergarten this fall so that helps out a lot and I'll only have 1 child to send to day care.

I also want to be a nurse but I know it's a tough program. but hell, if you did it with 4 kids, then I think it's manageable with my two.


Thanks!

Quoting Mama Mallo (::" My oldest will be in kindergarten this fall so that helps out a lot and I'll only have 1 child to send ... [snip!] ... but I know it's a tough program. but hell, if you did it with 4 kids, then I think it's manageable with my two. Thanks!"

The first time I started college with 1 child, and planned 1 more to be a year old when I started clinicals. Lol.. I ended up pregnant with twins (yikes) but knew I couldt' afford to support 3 children (even with a husband) without an education. So... I started the nursing program with 3 under 3.
we had one more a year after I graduated.

now I am divorced, and a single mom of 4. (he has them half time) I've decided to protect my future I need to further my education.

Quoting snglemama:" The first time I started college with 1 child, and planned 1 more to be a year old when I started clinicals. ... [snip!] ... I am divorced, and a single mom of 4. (he has them half time) I've decided to protect my future I need to further my education."

Gahh, just wrote a long post and it all got deleted   Wahh

That's pretty much where I'm at. I can't find a decent paying job here to save my life! I ran a daycare before and made OK money, plus didn't have to pay for child care. However, I moved to another state and the rules are different here so it's not even an option anymore. I've been living off child support & savings for almost a year. O_O

To get your AAS was it a 2 or a 3 year thing?
Also, did you start at a community college and transfer to a university? I wanted to go to a CC for the first year to save some money but now I'm not even sure if the hassle is worth it. I also heard that transferring classes doesn't always work out- like they won't accept a class you took, so you have to re-take it, etc.

Soooo.... I'm 3 days late  

I did get a prescription for BC, but it was the wrong kind and I couldn't take it while I'm nursing. (don't remember if I posted that in here or not) I called the nurse to get something else, and she told me I just needed to make an appointment, since I haven't had a pap in over a year. So, that kind of messed up our plans, and we decided we would pull out until my appointment in 2 weeks. I made sure it wasn't my ovulation week first. Maybe I was wrong!! Today is cycle day #29. It's usually 26 days. Blah!! I have little cramps, but I can't count on those lol. When I was pregnant I had terrible cramps just like my period.

I guess it wouldn't be the most terrible thing if I am pregnant, but we wanted to have our house first and be married.

Now I just have to wait!! Maybe I'll go buy a test  

Quoting Mama Mallo (::" Gahh, just wrote a long post and it all got deleted   Wahh That's pretty much where I'm at. I can't ... [snip!] ... that transferring classes doesn't always work out- like they won't accept a class you took, so you have to re-take it, etc."

if you start at CC... check with both schools first and make sure everythign will transfer. You could save a lot that way.

Associate is generally 2 years... though in nursing it takes most 3. I did it part time in 4 years. ... went to a university.

You're in TX>... you'd make GREAT money as a nurse. Honestly... with cost of living adjustment.. TX is number one for pay for RNs in the country. Sure... you can make $40/hr in CA, but it costs so much to live.. the last chart I saw with cost of living adjustment.. put CA in the 30's as far as how well RN;s do.

TX is number 1, MN is number 2. (I live in MN)

I tried for yeras to get my ex to move to TX. IT's the only state south of the mason dixon line (WARM)... that RN's make good money!

You'd likely start out around 26/hr as a new grad with a 3 year degree. Unfortunately.. it's getting harder to find jobs as a ADN nurse... which is why I'm going on for my BSN. If you ahve a choice... go straight for BSN.

Quoting Olive ♥:" Soooo.... I'm 3 days late   I did get a prescription for BC, but it was the wrong kind and I ... [snip!] ... if I am pregnant, but we wanted to have our house first and be married. Now I just have to wait!! Maybe I'll go buy a test  "

go buy a test!!

I can't be single mom anymore. Nope, I can't handle it.

Quoting FaithLovesPussyCats:" I can't be single mom anymore. Nope, I can't handle it."

meaning? don't get with someone just because single is hard. Being in a bad relationship is even harder.

Gahh, I better get started on this now. I always think I have all this time then the enrollment deadline passes before I know it!

Wow, i didn't know that- that's awesome :-) All the more reason to be a nurse! So if I decided to go straight for the BSN, would that be like.. 5 years of school, full time?

Quoting FaithLovesPussyCats:" I can't be single mom anymore. Nope, I can't handle it."

Why hon? I love being a single mom. It's so nice not having someone tell me what to do/how to raise the kids.

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" meaning? don't get with someone just because single is hard. Being in a bad relationship is even harder. "</blockquote>




It's so hard doing everything by myself. No one will even look at me because I have a child.