re: Official single moms/dating thread!

Quoting snglemama:" I disagree. If it's that hard to match schedules... Id give up and move on. I don't want to plan all ... [snip!] ... dates weeks ahead of time. It might work for a first date...but what then? you hit it off... but can never find time together?"

Yeah so I just gave up on him and decided to just keep my FWB going.. Sure its only like once or twice a month at most we "hook up" but our sons have become friends so I am able to hang out with him a bit more than before only one problem his daughter doesn't like me at all that I can tell..
She was fine in summer when they cam for a party, in december she also came for another party for my son and we had a playdate once in december and she was fine with me than but this last time I was there she like standing watching us talk and kept coming and sitting inbetween us and like gared at me a few times, he asked her what was wrong and she looked at him shifted her eyes in a glare at me than looked back at him and looked MAD.. I felt soo bad for making her so upset in her own house.. so don't know lol he said not to take it personal.. i joked to my friend well if she dont like me sitting talking to her dad than she prob wouldnt like what happens when there are no kids around lol..
Also tuesday we were talking at my sons party and she started to cry, i don't know why these past couple times it bugs her so much..

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" Yeah so I just gave up on him and decided to just keep my FWB going.. Sure its only like once or twice ... [snip!] ... we were talking at my sons party and she started to cry, i don't know why these past couple times it bugs her so much.. "

she might think u are trying to take her mommys spot?? maybe she isnt used to seeing her dad pay another woman attention? kids can take dating hard especially little girls

ok this is gunna be long...

I am in love with this guy but.. before i moved 8 hours away he told me we couldnt be together anymore... i said ok. he said he didnt have anything to offer me and he couldnt promise to be able to care for me like a man should care for him woman. i understood his position, we are both hella broke and at the time we both worked at a convience store...

anyways.

he is from miami (where i moved to/grew up). and he has been talking about moving back for a while. his FB status says : Moving to Miami" as of yesterday.... im SO excited. idk why im so excited. he always said we would be together if he moved back here... that he could see me being by his side if he came back.

i feel elated. but i havent had a chance to ask him about it cause he worked last night and i have been with my sister all day. anyways.. what do u think? should i be excited? WOULD YOU be excited??

Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" ok this is gunna be long... I am in love with this guy but.. before i moved 8 hours away he told me ... [snip!] ... last night and i have been with my sister all day. anyways.. what do u think? should i be excited? WOULD YOU be excited??"

I'd be excited for sure!

Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" ok this is gunna be long... I am in love with this guy but.. before i moved 8 hours away he told me ... [snip!] ... last night and i have been with my sister all day. anyways.. what do u think? should i be excited? WOULD YOU be excited??"

I'd be excited, but concerned. Why hasn't he contacted you yet if he plans to be with you? (not to be a debbie downer...but that's what I'd be anxious about)

A couple days ago SO came to pick LO and I up and go out for dinner. It wasn't a special occasion, just felt like eating out somewhere. So while he was getting the car seat put in, he told me my seat was pretty messy and I'll have to brush it off before i get in. I open the door to get in, and he has a dozen of my favorite roses sitting on the seat for me   He said it was just because he loves me. Soo sweet!

I just thought I'd share one of my happy moments   I've never been this happy and content before!!

Quoting Olive ♥:" A couple days ago SO came to pick LO and I up and go out for dinner. It wasn't a special occasion, just ... [snip!] ... he loves me. Soo sweet! I just thought I'd share one of my happy moments   I've never been this happy and content before!!"

yay!~ was the the first "I love you"?? how long have you been dating again? (too lazy to go back and read past posts)

ok.. I know looks aren't everything... and not even the most important thing to me. BUT... I'll be honest.. height is a deal breaker for me. I've dated some people my friends found very unattractive. But.. I just can't date short.

when I look at online profiles.. first thing I look at is age, education.. then if they smoke... then height. They could be HOT, well educated...but if under 5'10... I just can't do it.

so... what are your shallow deal breakers? not character traits..but what matters in looks?

I'm also not a big fan of facial hair.. or bad teeth. but... neither of those are as bad as short to me. (well, within reason. I coudlnt' date someone without teeth, and certainly not someone with bushy, unkempt beard)

height though...mmm... for every inch taller... they could be LESS attractive...and I'd still find them hot. I dated a guy who was almost 6'5... could NOT get a good picture of him. Not until after we broke up did I realize.. he was ugly. But.. I found him HOT because he was so smurfing tall!

Quoting snglemama:" I'd be excited, but concerned. Why hasn't he contacted you yet if he plans to be with you? (not to be a debbie downer...but that's what I'd be anxious about)"

thats what i was anxious about... but he texted me and said it will be a busy weekend. he gets his daughter all weekend, and he only gets to see herlike once a month or every 2 months (her mom is deployed, andshe lives with her grandparents 2 hours away)

anyways.... i didnt really get to talk to him so im being patient. iknow how important his time with his kids are so i let him be

Quoting ♥ pinkman:" I'd be excited for sure!"

im sooooo excited. ughhh i cant wait..

Quoting Olive ♥:" A couple days ago SO came to pick LO and I up and go out for dinner. It wasn't a special occasion, just ... [snip!] ... he loves me. Soo sweet! I just thought I'd share one of my happy moments   I've never been this happy and content before!!"

awwwww congrats that really is sweet!

Quoting snglemama:" ok.. I know looks aren't everything... and not even the most important thing to me. BUT... I'll be honest.. ... [snip!] ... picture of him. Not until after we broke up did I realize.. he was ugly. But.. I found him HOT because he was so smurfing tall!"

height is an issue for me to an extent. im so extra short that if u are my height or shorter, thats a problem lol. i prefer 5'6 and up, since im only 5'2

Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" height is an issue for me to an extent. im so extra short that if u are my height or shorter, thats a problem lol. i prefer 5'6 and up, since im only 5'2"

see.. I think the short women should take the short men! haha.. jk.. kinda!

I'm 5'6. so.. yea. I get it. 5'10 is already on the short side for me.

I have been messaging someone.... he's 6'3... just chatting. Not really looking for anything....life is busy. but.. not against it either. I just don't trust army guy. He's nice... and comfortable... but wouldn't hesitate to move on either. (complicated)

Quoting Is that still my name?:" Man, being a 100% single mom trying to date is IMPOSSIBLE! The guy I'm talking to has 50/50 custody and ... [snip!] ... while back I think kind of gave up because I'm never available. it's hard to form any sort of bond when you're never there.  "

This is the problem that I'm have too. I only have ANY availability every other Saturday night. I don't want my daughter to meet anyone till its serious and this doesn't really even hardly allow enough time to meet, much less date

Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" she might think u are trying to take her mommys spot?? maybe she isnt used to seeing her dad pay another woman attention? kids can take dating hard especially little girls"

He and I arent dating eachother we hang out a couple of times a month and we dont show affection infront of the kids.. but he was being teasy with me she might have picked up on it that way