Quoting Roll Dawg:" When is the right time to introduce the new guy to the babies? Usually I would say a while, but after watching 'Think like a man' My perspective has changed a little."
I havne't seen think like a man... or even know what that is. But.. I dont' care what hte man thinks lol... I care more about screening my guy before meeting the kids.'
I think.. it depends on the kids, how old they are, how your relationship is with them, and their maturity level.
My kids have met 2 guys. First one.. I loved dearly, planned to move in with, and eventually marry. When we broke up.. the kids took it REALLY hard. I waited until I was sure about him, and dont' regret it, but it was still hard.
I dated others, and my kids told me they felt left out of my "other life" when they weren't around. (dad has 50% custody). I explained it wasn't healthy for them to meet every guy i date, but woudl tell them. We have an open honest relationship. Next relationship.... I waited 2 months. I explained to my kids that we were dating, good friends, but that I would NEVER marry him. THey still wanted to meet him. So... they did. He's great with them. We remind them occasionally that we will never get married, and they're ok with that. I dont' want them to ever hope, or pretend something that isnt' there. We're kinda on again and off again. but are still good friends.
just... never use your kids to screen your guy. WHen I hear women say they want the guy to meet the kids to make sure they can handle it, or to make sure their intentions are good... it turns my stomach