re: Official single moms/dating thread!

Let's see.. I've been separated from my kids' dad since Feb 2011..got divorced officially in June of this year. Been open to dating since Feb of this year. Met a guy who was also separated. Been involved with him on and off since then. It's smurffy that he was the first guy I've dated since my ex-DH. He put me through so much, its unbelievable. My friends are starting to hate me (not really, but ya know what I mean), because I keep taking him back into my life. Just got yelled at by a friend because I let him come over tonight and had sexy time. lol. But in all seriousness, all my friends absolutely hate him. He's a nice guy..he just has so many personal issues and he dragged me down with him.
But I can't help it.
Doesn't matter - he's deploying soon anyways.

Quoting Ꭶwan♥Nemö:" So all of a sudden my boyfriend is barely responding to my texts and outright ignoring me since Saturday. ... [snip!] ... now Im not feeling very confident on where I stand now. Why do men do these sudden 180's? I didnt know anything had changed."

My on/off guy used to always, always do this.
These games kill me!

Quoting Diana plus 2:" Let's see.. I've been separated from my kids' dad since Feb 2011..got divorced officially in June of ... [snip!] ... so many personal issues and he dragged me down with him. But I can't help it. Doesn't matter - he's deploying soon anyways."

Just remember friends usually see things you don't.

but yea.. i know whatyou mean. I had my heart crushed after my divorce. when I'm honest with myself.. I still have feelings for him. but.. my friends yell at me if I even bring up his name.

Quoting snglemama:" Just remember friends usually see things you don't. but yea.. i know whatyou mean. I had my heart crushed ... [snip!] ... divorce. when I'm honest with myself.. I still have feelings for him. but.. my friends yell at me if I even bring up his name."

They do, but I get annoyed cuz I know they're right. That's the worst - you know he's so bad for you, and you're well aware and swear you'll never talk to him again....until you see him and you just forget.
But I guess it's silly to think that "the one" will come right after your ex-dh...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Diana plus 2:</b>" They do, but I get annoyed cuz I know they're right. That's the worst - you know he's so bad for you, ... [snip!] ... you see him and you just forget. But I guess it's silly to think that "the one" will come right after your ex-dh..."</blockquote>




I think we all do it though. I remember thinking odds were bad that he was the one because i met him so soon

So, I haven't been on much this week. My on again off again guy came back sunday night.. and things ahve been great. I should stop worrying about the future and just go with it. He's a sweetie.. just has his issues. but... he loves me. I love him... it's just complicated. But.. great sex, sweet guy... what am I complaining about??

Quoting snglemama:" So, I haven't been on much this week. My on again off again guy came back sunday night.. and things ahve ... [snip!] ... issues. but... he loves me. I love him... it's just complicated. But.. great sex, sweet guy... what am I complaining about?? "

Is this the army guy? idk.. I think it's important to think about the future. If you know he's going to have to relocate- and you won't be able to, then whats even the point?

Quoting Mama Mallo (::" Is this the army guy? idk.. I think it's important to think about the future. If you know he's going to have to relocate- and you won't be able to, then whats even the point?"

yea... its the army guy.

the point.. idk. He makes me laugh, is great company, and is great in bed... and there's no one else I want to date now anyway. So... is it worth breaking up with him, being alone through the holidays, making him alone through theh olidays... just to be alone?

idk... that's why I keep going back and forth. I agree with you half the time... and agree with what I just typed half the time.

Quoting snglemama:" yea... its the army guy. the point.. idk. He makes me laugh, is great company, and is great in bed... ... [snip!] ... that's why I keep going back and forth. I agree with you half the time... and agree with what I just typed half the time."

rofl.. I know myself, & it'd probably stick around. Sometimes that feeling is kind of nice.. enjoying what you have knowing that one day it'll be gone.

I was just like that with my ex. I always knew I'd leave, but I still stayed & enjoyed it. but I also left the option open for me to find someone else. Does that make sense? haha

Right now i'm kind of feeling being single to leave my "options" open.. kind of feels good. haha

/sigh.

My boyfran has just gone weird on me. Hes "sick" although at this point, I feel he might be exageratting. I mean... he might just want space, but I wish he would just tell me that. He doesn't like ever text me now, I had been calling when I was done with work like we always do... Wtf mayne. He is acting like a weirdo...


I want to talk about it, but I haven't seen him and he doesn't want to talk about our relationship over the phone, I mean, I do get that it is impersonal, but I hate this smurfen smurf. I am just not cut out to not know where someone that I really care about stands.

<blockquote><b>Quoting .tay.:</b>" /sigh. My boyfran has just gone weird on me. Hes "sick" although at this point, I feel he might be exageratting. ... [snip!] ... it is impersonal, but I hate this smurfen smurf. I am just not cut out to not know where someone that I really care about stands."</blockquote>



Hugs, it's hard, but try to give him his space. Give him time to miss you

We are on a break.. or break up. I am not even sure what we are. But we are giving eachother space. I have no desire to talk to him till I have to see him on Sunday since we work together. I plan on making sure I look super put together and well hot... I have no desire to contact him till he figures out what he does/doesn't want in this relationship. We are supposed to talk on Sunday though. So it gives me a few days to get over the hurt and be more on my A game.

I thought I fell easy, but I am starting to think I don't fall as easy but I fall HARD.... This sucks! I am gonna need to stay really distracted so I don't contact him.

Quoting .tay.:" We are on a break.. or break up. I am not even sure what we are. But we are giving eachother space. I ... [snip!] ... to think I don't fall as easy but I fall HARD.... This sucks! I am gonna need to stay really distracted so I don't contact him."

what happened? was there a fight? did he just back off? sorry mama!

Quoting snglemama:" what happened? was there a fight? did he just back off? sorry mama! "

It kind of started a week ago when I discovered he had lied to me about his age. Animosity grew, he got sick, said I was being difficult, BLAH BLAH.... so he needs space. He said a break but I think that if we are gonna go on a break without dealing with anything then thats just silly and we should just split.

We both agreed we love each others company we just aren't to sure where to go with this relationship at this point. We haven't aloud ourselves to breathe since we are together ALL THE TIME... and that has played a huge factor in what has been going on. It sucks. But I will be okay.