'Seeing my wife give birth put me off sex for a YEAR!'

I think we should take a moment of silence for the pain our partners suffer WATCHING us give birth.





http://updates.jezebel.com/post/34771537393/man-says-watching-his-wife-give-birth-scared-him-away


Man Says Watching His Wife Give Birth Scared Him Away From Her Vagina



Here’s the Daily Mail trolling us again, this time with a first-person account of how one man was so “traumatized” by witnessing his wife give birth to their son that he was “turned off” from having sex with her for an entire year. He says the “memories of childbirth”—which, BTW, he only looked at, and didn’t actually, you know, feel—affected the way he viewed his wife, adding that, “There’s no denying that having a baby changes a woman’s body immeasurably. People don’t like to talk about scars from the Caesarean, saggy stomachs or greatly increased nipple size, but that’s the reality.” Grab your pitchforks and torches.
Sure, being face-to-episiotomy with a graphic vaginal birth is freaky. But even guys who get all “Ew!” will eventually want to stick their penises back in there once their boners override their feelings and emotional immaturity. Martin Daubney’s wife, however, had a C-section. He insists that watching her in pain during a three-day long, difficult labor and seeing the toll that it took on her body had a devastating impact on him. Poor baby!
Daubney claims that plenty of men experience this kind of turmoil but “suffer in silence.” He was brave enough to share his story of no longer wanting to smurf his wife, whose major abdominal surgery and pregnancy-related back pain left her a “hobbling shadow of herself.” So. Smurfing. Courageous.
He also shares some stories of friends of his who were equally traumatized by how grossed out they became when their wives became mothers, like “Stephen,” a 41-year-old stockbroker who said that watching his wife breastfeed their baby made him never want to have sex with her again because. He explained it by saying, “I felt my wife’s body was no longer mine.” Guess what, Stephen. IT NEVER WAS YOURS. Oh, and then he started having an affair with one of his wife’s colleagues. And childbirth and breastfeeding are what’s gross to these people?
Daubney blames these problems on modernity:

Today’s dads see it as an intrinsic part of their role to accompany their partner through every step of childbirth. To suggest otherwise is seen as a dereliction of duty, an act of misogyny.

That’s because it is. Why the smurf would you think that creating a family wouldn’t be a group activity? And it’s not that husband are expected to be present during childbirth these days out of some kind of “duty.” Instead, it has to do with the fact that when you go through the most painful, difficult, and transformative experience of your life, you want your best friend there with you. Because that’s what spouses are supposed to be, right?
Still, he insists that “couples would have more chance of normal intimacy after a birth if men saw less of delivery.” Or maybe normal intimacy would be possible if men like Daubney could, you know, just get over themselves. Their wives already have one baby.

I just saw this on your FB.   I'm so glad Chris handled it like a champ. He obviously missed K's birth, but he was amazing with M's. Apparently, when I was pushing some...liquid?...went everywhere and almost landed on him   he said that was the only part that was a little gross, haha.

This scares me lol
I've already told DH he will NOT be watching me actually give birth to LO for this exact reason :/ Then again, I'm the type of Momma who isn't interested in seeing myself give birth either lol

Quoting the grace life:" I just saw this on your FB.   I'm so glad Chris handled it like a champ. He obviously missed K's ... [snip!] ... some...liquid?...went everywhere and almost landed on him   he said that was the only part that was a little gross, haha. "

It seriously made me O.O

Holy smurffff    

I was so mad when I read this. OMG.

My husband has done so well with not being grossed out by my body after giving birth. And he has no problems with my breastfeeding, either.

I can *almost* see this behavior from young fathers who are immature and just can't handle the adult things associated with giving birth....but a grown man? It disgusts me.

Sure, whatever. DH watched a 8lb baby come out of my vag, tearing it in the process and I still can't keep his hands off me.

Quoting NevviesMom:" This scares me lol I've already told DH he will NOT be watching me actually give birth to LO for this ... [snip!] ... to LO for this exact reason :/ Then again, I'm the type of Momma who isn't interested in seeing myself give birth either lol"

My partner was amazed watching me give birth, he saw my strength and is more attracted to me than he ever was. Women are amazing and giving birth is something they will never be able to do.

How weird and smurffy. My so said he wasnt even going to be in the room, yet there he was holding a leg and saying push god i see her heaf shes just right there, then later he tells me he watched the doctor cut me "like sweeney todd" still talks about it, still loves the hooha.

Men who feel like this done DESERVE to ever go near their wives vaginas again.

Quoting NevviesMom:" This scares me lol I've already told DH he will NOT be watching me actually give birth to LO for this ... [snip!] ... to LO for this exact reason :/ Then again, I'm the type of Momma who isn't interested in seeing myself give birth either lol"

DH basically thought I was the most awesome person ever after watching me have our son.


And the breastfeeding thing, DH loved seeing me nurse the babies. Not in a sexual way or anything, but he just really loved the sweet bonding that it brought...even for him, as I'd hand him the kids and he'd get skin to skin as soon as I was finished.

How ridiculous. Of course having a child changes your body but I my husband's words.... It is incredible and makes him love me more. Every stretch mark being a reminder of what we created.

That dick can go smurf himself. I hopehis wife left him.

SO got there when I was pushing. He took 1 look, I thought he was going to puke, especially when the placenta came out

Quoting TantricLemons:" My partner was amazed watching me give birth, he saw my strength and is more attracted to me than he ever was. Women are amazing and giving birth is something they will never be able to do."

I don't think DH would ever think of me differently. He's seen my body change with this pregnancy and is probably more turned on than ever lol :/ Its just something I've heard about and am not comfortable with DH seeing my gaping vagina lol. I feel bad because its supposed to be this beautiful thing, but I don't see it like that.

Good thing I have a man and not a pussy.