Lol I actually felt worse for my husband having to watch me give birth than I felt for myself having to give birth. Not because he had to be subjected to the sight, but because he had to watch me scream and be miserable and in pain and there was nothing he could do about it.
I'm completely over giving birth, I've forgotten the awfulness, but he remembers every detail, and he still feels awful that I had to do it.
But I don't think any sight in the world could dissuade my husband from wanting sex...
My husband can be a dick sometimes, but he's never, ever made me feel bad or like less because of my body's changes. He says if you want something (the baby) you accept the changes it takes to make it happen. I actually don't want him in the delivery room with me because being in pain in front of other people makes my anxiety skyrocket! But he demands to be given a chance before I throw him out
I don't understand this whole trauma thing about guys viewing birth. I understand people can be squeamish and that's okay! But you can be there and not exactly be on the front line, so to speak. Unless you are on the side of the highway talking to an emergency dispatcher, you don't have to catch! Have various focal points to switch to when things get intense or something and man the eff up!
My boyfriends loves my post baby body. He says I'm more womanly. And I've got the post-BFIng flatter boobs and a big ol csection scar. He makes me feel good about me. Says I have a "mom butt"...which is a good thing...I think? He was with me through the whole 24 hour labor. Never left my side and was absolutely amazed by the csection process (which I eventually had to have) and this guy is SQUEAMISH. I think this guy needs to get over himself. I doubt she wants to have sex with him anyway. What a dickhead. Maybe he should consider a vasectomy so he doesn't have to see any more horrific births.