regret

I feel like I'm not allowed to mourn the loss of my baby even though I aborted it... Like its my fault that she isn't here so why should I have that right? It's this dirty little secret right now and its so painful. I didnt want to have the abortion but everything in my life was unstable and it would have taken away from the kids I do have. Now wasnt the time, But I felt like it was so wrong and i wish i had listened to that voice

You did what you thought was right. I'm so sorry you are regretting your decision. Just try to remember why you did it in the first place.

Quoting bbbt:" You did what you thought was right. I'm so sorry you are regretting your decision. Just try to remember why you did it in the first place. "

This.

And you have the right to mourn. I did. Im not ashamed. You shouldnt say that you shouldnt be able to mourn because you chose this.

Quoting bbbt:" You did what you thought was right. I'm so sorry you are regretting your decision. Just try to remember why you did it in the first place. "

For the most part I have to remind myself of the reasons, but i have so many weak moments where i just want to cry and cry

Quoting Whattodo:" For the most part I have to remind myself of the reasons, but i have so many weak moments where i just want to cry and cry"

Cry. You can mourn. Grieve, mama.

Quoting Whattodo:" For the most part I have to remind myself of the reasons, but i have so many weak moments where i just want to cry and cry"

Do it. Cry. Cry your heart out. Dont hold it in.

You did what you needed to to.

You absolutely have the right to grieve, hon. You did what you know was right for you. <3

I was the same for a while, but then I realised its ok to grieve. Its still a loss of a baby.

Its ok to let yourself grieve and cry. Some ladies have also found it helpful to have something to remember the baby by. I have an engraved bracelet I wear, no one else knows the meaning behind it, but I do and thats all that matters. I know some others have had necklaces made, or nice wooden box to keep things in, or there is always the idea of planing a flower or tree in the babies memory. Maybe something like that could help?

its just hard, having this scret and the healing process is the hardest part. thank you all for giving me support i really need this right now. I know i did what is best at the time but i regret it so much and feel confused. how can i know i did the right thing but then have motional break downs

Quoting Whattodo:" its just hard, having this scret and the healing process is the hardest part. thank you all for giving ... [snip!] ... at the time but i regret it so much and feel confused. how can i know i did the right thing but then have motional break downs"

But the thing is you arent keeping it a secret. You have told us. You can vent and cry it out and type it out here whever you feel like it. I know how hard it is.

Quoting Yellow Diamond:" I was the same for a while, but then I realised its ok to grieve. Its still a loss of a baby. Its ... [snip!] ... things in, or there is always the idea of planing a flower or tree in the babies memory. Maybe something like that could help?"

thats actually such a good idea.... I think that could help me heal a great deal

Quoting Whattodo:" thats actually such a good idea.... I think that could help me heal a great deal"

 
I know it helped me.

You can grieve, no matter how you look at it you still lost a child.
You did what you thought was best momma.
My heart hurts for you.