Quoting queso +2curdles( :" Ok, let him start this new job. And see where it goes from there. In the meantime, if you really want ... [snip!] ... it doesn't have to cost. Just putting a little effort into showing him you're still his girl, might make all the difference."
Thanks so much for your advice. I realize that I haven't been doing the "small things". I've just been like a big slob and lazy because I've been so stressed about my work situation, that I've almost just given up. He says he's stressed from turning his job position around, but we had a conversation and I told him it's not about status. It's about doing what makes you happy and making money doing it. He told me that I'm right and that he could be a trash guy or a doctor, but as long as he's happy and making money, then it's fine. He told me the other day that we should go on a trip to rejuvenate our relationship.We literally get one day together. He's always complaining about his boss at his old job, so maybe it's not just me. Maybe I'm not the whole problem. I think it's probably just easier to take out your stresses on people that you're closest to.