Relationship falling apart *vent*

So for the past few months, financially we have been struggling because of my job position. It's very seasonal, so when winter comes along, money takes its toll for the worst. I promised him in the beginning of the season, that we wouldn't be financially like we were last year. Well here we are, having financial issues. My job has slowed down, I'm not making money like I was. I promised him I would get a job, which I did, but the pay wasn't good enough, so I looked for another. Today I went to an orientation because I got hired at another place. So that's a good start. The thing is, we haven't had sex in a month. His job has been stressful, I've been stressed out because of lack of money. He's basically the bread winner right now, and in our relationship, that's not how it works. We try to be as equal as possible. So our sex life has lacked tremendously. His job has drained him so much, and we have maybe one day off together, the rest of the time I don't see him. He's quitting his job this evening, to start a new job position, where the pay will be better, and less hours, but the job he is quitting was a good start on a career. But it was a big pay cut. I didn't want him to have to stop his career, but it's what has to happen in order for us to survive. But our relationship isn't surviving. It's just getting worse and worse everyday. I don't think we're falling out of love with one another, we're just falling out of like. I don't want financial problems to come between he and I. We had plans to get married, and now we don't even talk about them. We talked about trying for kids, that's totally out of the picture now. I feel like this is all my fault. I cannot lose my relationship or my best friend. Help):

Ok, let him start this new job. And see where it goes from there. In the meantime, if you really want him for your husband, make an effort. NOT saying that you haven't been. Show him you REALLY love him. How? Well you know him the best. What does he like? What are chores around the house he hates doing? Do them instead of him. Find little ways to surprise him. That could be, you naked on your bed or in sexy lingerie waiting for him when he gets home, or little notes in his lunches.... or anywhere you could put them. It doesn't have to be big stuff and it doesn't have to cost. Just putting a little effort into showing him you're still his girl, might make all the difference.

Quoting queso +2curdles( :" Ok, let him start this new job. And see where it goes from there. In the meantime, if you really want ... [snip!] ... it doesn't have to cost. Just putting a little effort into showing him you're still his girl, might make all the difference."

Thanks so much for your advice. I realize that I haven't been doing the "small things". I've just been like a big slob and lazy because I've been so stressed about my work situation, that I've almost just given up. He says he's stressed from turning his job position around, but we had a conversation and I told him it's not about status. It's about doing what makes you happy and making money doing it. He told me that I'm right and that he could be a trash guy or a doctor, but as long as he's happy and making money, then it's fine. He told me the other day that we should go on a trip to rejuvenate our relationship.We literally get one day together. He's always complaining about his boss at his old job, so maybe it's not just me. Maybe I'm not the whole problem. I think it's probably just easier to take out your stresses on people that you're closest to.

Quoting Lana Del Rey:" Thanks so much for your advice. I realize that I haven't been doing the "small things". I've just been ... [snip!] ... Maybe I'm not the whole problem. I think it's probably just easier to take out your stresses on people that you're closest to."

absolutely. A trip sounds like a great idea too   Even if you guys just went to a close city and spent the day together AWAY. Relationships are work. Its hard. But they are worth it.

Quoting queso +2curdles(10):" absolutely. A trip sounds like a great idea too   Even if you guys just went to a close city and spent the day together AWAY. Relationships are work. Its hard. But they are worth it."

We ended up having some time together, and got to spend 1-1 time. It's what we really needed, he agreed we needed it as well. I think he was overly stressed out and almost depressed about his previous job position. Today is the last day of my job training, so hopefully (fingers crossed!) I'll be making a little bit more income. I hope we just had hit a bump in the road, and now things will get better.
Thank you so much again!