ADVICE!! how should i handle this??

Recently there has been some issues when it come to my son and people around my fiance ( not my fiances fault clearly). So not sure where to start and how to keep it short so here it goes. ... My soon to be mother in law was at the dollar store meeting with my step kids mother they where in the store and she picked out 3 trick-r-treating bags ( one for my 2 step kids and one for my son) well my fiances ex ask who the 3rd bag was for and she told her well his ex goes on about how its not her damn grandkid why the f would she by my son a damn thing blah blah... i got upset but oh well i let it go. then the next night the 2 step kids where helping her make the elderly ladies bed we take care of and my son came in to help too well the elderly lady ( my soon to be MIL's boyfriends grandma) screamed at my son to get the hell out and swatted his butt.. My MIL said something to her and the ladies reply was you and amber dont always get along so why does he get to help ( i was not told this until the following day) then that following day my fiances ex was texting my MIL and she asked me to c who texted so i opened it and there was a text of my MIL telling her how horrible she was being downing my son and the exes text read " i didn't say anything about the smurfing ugly lil kid!" SO i am clealry pissed as u can see.. HOW WOULD YOU GUYS DEAL WITH THESE SITUATIONS??

Quoting AmberlBurke:" Recently there has been some issues when it come to my son and people around my fiance ( not my fiances ... [snip!] ... anything about the smurfing ugly lil kid!" SO i am clealry pissed as u can see.. HOW WOULD YOU GUYS DEAL WITH THESE SITUATIONS??"

I would not expose myself or my kids to such hateful pieces of smurf.

I would pretty much cut contact.

Ignore it. Definitely not worth your time or stress.

It sounds like your mother in law is handling it good. But I wouldn't want him around her boyfriends mom anymore. And it sounds like she would respect that.

Quoting AmberlBurke:" Recently there has been some issues when it come to my son and people around my fiance ( not my fiances ... [snip!] ... anything about the smurfing ugly lil kid!" SO i am clealry pissed as u can see.. HOW WOULD YOU GUYS DEAL WITH THESE SITUATIONS??"

I wouldn't dignify her with a response, honestly. Arguing with her isn't going to do any good. It's just going to make you look immature. Ignore her, your MIL should ignore her, and when she runs her mouth around your son in front of you or your MIL, tell her it's not appropriate, and walk away.

As for the MIL's bf's grandmother, she's old... unless she puts her hands on your son again, leave her be. If she TOUCHES your son again, then have some words with her. The easier option would actually be to not let your son near the woman again, honestly...

Take the high road.

Well it seems like your FMIL really IS trying so I can't fault her but just ignore the ex gf and the old lady after telling her that bitting your kid is unacceptablr.

i do have a lil bit of an anger problem so i went off on the ex she then called my MIL and tried yelling at her about me reading the text my MIL told her off at that point .. but continues to always talk to her... the ex is continually in our business she has me blocked on face book i dont talk to her ever but she always seems to know everytime i post a picture or i go somewhere or if me and my fiance have an arguement.. i try my hardest to control myself and act decent to her for the sake of the step kids but she always calls n text talking crap and then stalks us... literally stalks us she even tried calling the cops on me once cause she was convinced i didnt have my license and she circled us until we were done talking to the cops and jumped in the truck.. WHO HAS THAT MUCH TIME ON THEIR HANDS??? as for the old lady i brought it up to her one night and she denied it

I guess what i just cant seem to figure out is my kids about to 3 ... how the f*@* is my and my MIL not always getting along his fault?? and how is the ex hating me for her leaving my fiance his fault??? i have never blamed a damn thing on a kid nor called a child a name like ugly!! ( minus when there in my belly lol then i blame my puking moodyness and back pain on them lol) but seriously how can someone do that?? how would she feel if i talked about her kids that way/

Quoting AmberlBurke:" I guess what i just cant seem to figure out is my kids about to 3 ... how the f*@* is my and my MIL not ... [snip!] ... and back pain on them lol) but seriously how can someone do that?? how would she feel if i talked about her kids that way/"

She is a TWAT. Don't sink to her level. She's already an immature idiot, why act any way like her??

it is seriously hard to not just punch her in the face... thankfully i dont really c her cause i avoid her at all cost!

Quoting AmberlBurke:" it is seriously hard to not just punch her in the face... thankfully i dont really c her cause i avoid her at all cost! "

Then keep avoiding her. Plain and simple. You're not going to do your child any good if you're in jail for assault.

i know i know...