strict parenting

i think im just more stuck in my ways n have certain expectations for how children should act.. i have pretty much been a single mom for almost 3 years since ive had my son so im stuck on how i raise him n how ik my whole family raises children.. well im engaged n my fiance has 2 of his own kids a 5 yro n a 2yro .. when it comes to my soon to b mother in law there is alotta conflict well recently there was a fight because mine n my fiances sons where fighting so i kept saying something n pulling them away from eachother n i asked my fiance to help me n say something .. well not the first time its been said but his mom in the midst of the arguement says im not getting close to this baby n i feel bad for it i cant imagine how she'll raise it .. NO MY QUESTION IS AM I WRONG ?? IK NOT EVERY CHILD IS LIKE MY CHILD MY SON IS ADVANCED FOR HIS AGE N EVEN MY OWN FAMILY SAYS NORMAL 2 YRO DONT HANDLE THINGS LIKE MY SON .. BUT HOW CAN MY PARENTING BE QUESTIONED WHEN I HAVE RAISED A PERFECTLY HEALTHY NORMAL SMART ALMOST 3 YRO ALREADY??

LMAO at you thinking you've raised a kid.

Your child is 2 and you sound like a right hard ass. Don't like your MIL stepping in or saying smurf otherwise? Move out.

And it's "strict" by the way.

Quoting Just Ames:" LMAO at you thinking you've raised a kid. Your child is 2 and you sound like a right hard ass. Don't like your MIL stepping in or saying smurf otherwise? Move out. And it's "strict" by the way. "

This!

And you seriously don't know how to spell STRICT?

I'm strict and raise my daughter to be a little lady, but you sound like a hard ass. Your kid is two, so you are overreacting.

that was incredibly hard to read first off
and second just because you raised your 2 year old in a different way than someone else doesnt make you better

and fyi how you raise a child has nothing to do with how "advanced" he is

Quoting Just Ames:" LMAO at you thinking you've raised a kid. Your child is 2 and you sound like a right hard ass. Don't like your MIL stepping in or saying smurf otherwise? Move out. And it's "strict" by the way. "

Agree and for someone claiming their child is so "advanced" I don't see how it is possible when you cant even spell strict correctly LOLOLOL or write in full completely readable sentences.

I don't think any of the details you gave say much of anything about how you are raising your kid vs how your SO is raising his tbh... 2 year olds should be able to act baby'ish with their grandma or any family member for that matter though.

Quoting My Lil' Monsters:" Agree and for someone claiming their child is so "advanced" I don't see how it is possible when you cant even spell strict correctly LOLOLOL or write in full completely readable sentences. "

*snort*

ok maybe i didn't explain that right i allow my child to act like a child its not that ... n i could care less if i live with someone gives them no right to step on my toes when it comes to parenting my kids.... but what im asking is should i let the boys beat the smurf outta eachother .. was it wrong i told them it wasnt nice to hit n pulled them away from eachother??? i work in daycare since i was 17 i understand not all kids r the same n ive repeated ik my childs mentality is not that of an average 2 yro ... but me not allowing the boys to beat the hell outta eachother cannot be a bad thing???

Double post.

<blockquote><b>Quoting AmberlBurke:</b>" ok maybe i didn't explain that right i allow my child to act like a child its not that ... n i could ... [snip!] ... is not that of an average 2 yro ... but me not allowing the boys to beat the hell outta eachother cannot be a bad thing??? "</blockquote>




How is his mentality not that of a 2 year old?

Quoting AmberlBurke:" ok maybe i didn't explain that right i allow my child to act like a child its not that ... n i could ... [snip!] ... is not that of an average 2 yro ... but me not allowing the boys to beat the hell outta eachother cannot be a bad thing??? "

What does this have to do with your 2 year old? OMG  

I can't believe you work(ed) in a place to guide and teach children.

<blockquote><b>Quoting AmberlBurke:</b>" ok maybe i didn't explain that right i allow my child to act like a child its not that ... n i could ... [snip!] ... is not that of an average 2 yro ... but me not allowing the boys to beat the hell outta eachother cannot be a bad thing??? "</blockquote>




I really think you should invest in spell check.

Let them fight it out. Eventually one or the other will give in or give up. Children need to learn to find their boundaries but when the boundaries become dangerous (blood and weapons) then you need to step in. Otherwise let them do what they are going to do. It wont kill them and I know they will not kill each other.

Quoting My Lil' Monsters:" Let them fight it out. Eventually one or the other will give in or give up. Children need to learn to ... [snip!] ... need to step in. Otherwise let them do what they are going to do. It wont kill them and I know they will not kill each other. "

thank u for some actual input ... all I've been trying to explain is i don't know how to handle several kids together when it comes to having them live together. apparently downing my grammar and spelling is more important then giving me advice on how to deal with suddenly gaining 2 new soon to be stepchildren. i don't ever post stuff on forums or blogs because i absolutely suck at putting things into words to get people who don't know me personally to understand ... so some actual input would be appreciated .. its the boys constant arguing and fighting that I'm finding hard to handle