How Do You Handle This The Right Way?

DH has a friend that was in jail for 4 years and just got out. Amidst his drunken stupor last night (in his defense, he hardly ever does get that drunk), he decided he was going to THROW/HOST a huge party for him down in the valley, six hours away, while I'm 37 weeks pregnant and we are trying to save every little penny this month because we are moving and have a newborn expected to arrive very soon. [End rant] Well he didn't even run this past me first off. Then he decided he was going to invite everyone he knows on his Facebook to his mother's house, to throw this big party for a guy his mother doesn't even like. And he didn't let me know anything until after the fact.

So after he was done throwing up and he was passed out. (smh lol) I got on his Facebook via his mobile (which WE do this all the time just out of boredom, so the fact that I was on his FB isn't a big deal) to access the damage. I ended up writing his friends, that he sent messages to inviting them, that something came up and never mind... I probably over stepped there but I wanted to turn out the fire before it turned into a wild fire and his mom caught wind of what her son had done.

So... I don't know how he feels about me doing that. He did write me a message on FB about how we will talk about it later. But he's stupid if he thinks he's going when I'm this close to my due date. If he decides to do this, what do I do? How do I fight right about this?

No. I think that was extremely immature of you to uninvite friends he invited to a party. Even if it was a dick move to not ask/tell you, it still wasn't your place.  

You should have let him mom know what her son was planning to do rather than get on HIS facebook, act like HIM and message HIS friends. Both you and your husband are immature.

Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" No. I think that was extremely immature of you to uninvite friends he invited to a party. Even if it was a dick move to not ask/tell you, it still wasn't your place.  "

Well that is what happens when you don't get on baby gaga and ask for advice prior. =/ I admit I was wrong but there is nothing I can do now about it. So... what do I do?

Not sure there's any way to wiggle out of this one. I think you should have talked to him about it rather than send messages to everyone cancelling the invitations. And if he still decided to go... what is there that you can really do about it? You can't control what he does. I'm not saying that I wouldn't also be extremely irritated if I was in your situation, however.

Quoting ♥GarciaMommy:" Well that is what happens when you don't get on baby gaga and ask for advice prior. =/ I admit I was wrong but there is nothing I can do now about it. So... what do I do? "

Wait and watch the smurf hit the fan because he is going to be pissed at you.

Quoting Jas ♥:" You should have let him mom know what her son was planning to do rather than get on HIS facebook, act like HIM and message HIS friends. Both you and your husband are immature."

Okay well, thank you. This is so helpful.

I'm asking what to do now... I can't change anything that has been done.

Quoting ♥GarciaMommy:" Well that is what happens when you don't get on baby gaga and ask for advice prior. =/ I admit I was wrong but there is nothing I can do now about it. So... what do I do? "

Just apologize and tell him that you know that it was wrong... just talk to him. He's going to be upset, for sure.

I honestly think that you overstepped your boundaries on that one. He should have been the one to cancel this party and you should have left him to deal with the consequences of his actions regardless of how you feel about it. I don't really think you have any room to "fight right" about this... you were wrong in what you did. I understand where you are coming from, but if he was drunk when he did this and realized when he woke up that he shouldn't have done it then you should have left it for him to deal with.

Well, I think that you should have waited until he woke up and then talked to him about it. And if you felt compelled to try to extinguish the fire before he even woke up then I would have sent his friends messages from your fb telling them that the party is on hold and not to make any plans until your SO got back with them if it was still going to happen.
If I was him then I'd have been pissed to tbh. I get that you guys allow each other on your fb pages, but sending out messages posing as him is just wrong imho.

Quoting ♥GarciaMommy:" Okay well, thank you. This is so helpful. I'm asking what to do now... I can't change anything that has been done. "

I would first apologize to him and let him know that you handled things wrong. Tell him that you understand his reasoning behind WANTING to throw a party, but talk to him about why it concerned you (money, timing, etc). See if maybe he had a plan or something. Other than that, there isnt much else you can do, besides talk about it, admit that you handled it wrong, and hear him out. Then give him a chance to hear you out as well.

Quoting The Purple Penguin:" Just apologize and tell him that you know that it was wrong... just talk to him. He's going to be upset, for sure."

I know. lol omg, Maybe I'll luck out and he wont be. But that is still really messed up of him. I'm not going to bring it up. I'm just going to let him start the conversation luckily he wont be home till later tonight so it will give him time to cool down. hopefully.

Quoting ♥GarciaMommy:" Okay well, thank you. This is so helpful. I'm asking what to do now... I can't change anything that has been done. "

Keep scrolling because I told you. There isn't much you can do but wait. Oh and you should be honest and tell your husband that you went through his things and sent messages to his friends on FB.

Quoting Mc Lovin:" Well, I think that you should have waited until he woke up and then talked to him about it. And if you ... [snip!] ... to tbh. I get that you guys allow each other on your fb pages, but sending out messages posing as him is just wrong imho. "

He leaves at 6 am. He's hung over today so he probably wont be in the mood to talk any ways. But he still has a week and a half, so he can re-invite them if all else fails. I didn't say the party was canceled. Just told them change of plans.

ya, I was wrong.

you way over stepped your boundaries & you can't let him not go. He has to make those decisions for himself.