Quoting Holly's ♥ Mommy:" So how to do you single moms deal with the holidays like halloween with your kids fathers? I know in ... [snip!] ... to be disappointed. I want him to be in her life but he's making in difficult and it breaks my heart when she's crying for him."
In my mediation agreement we agreed that I'd make ALL the holiday plans because no matter how pissed off i am at BD, the holidays is something i absolutely love and want to always include her dad in them. Its about family.. and while he pisses me off and we're not together, he's still her family.
For halloween, i obviously invited him, but he choose not to come.. His loss.
I try and do something separately with my family then we usually meet up and do something quick and small together, so she has the 'family' time and then i let him take her to his dads so they can see her.. or at least thats how we usually do it.
I always ask him what he wants to do. most of the time he only wants a little bit of time..