re: Cheating

The cheater is being selfish they often use tactics like you weren't being affectionate not enough sex or communication as an excuse for their behaviour if you love someone you try and work on it not cheat

My SO said he cheated on me because he was stressed. I was pregnant he wasn’t ready he was 4 hours away from me and his car broke down and his account was overdrawn. Went to a bar drank and someone approached him and he thought he would never get the chance again. Said he was so stressed out with everything.  

I think people cheat for various reasons. But it is always 100% the cheaters fault.

Depends on the person I guess. I think more often than not it has nothing to to do with the person they are with.
Some people do it because they get a thrill out of the sneaking around and trying not to get caught. A lot of people have self esteem issues and it makes them feel better at the time. Some people just feel entitled to what they want regardless of who it effects.


I feel there is never an okay reason to cheat. I think people who cheat are pathetic.

Oh and "I was drunk" is never an acceptable excuse.

Quoting Nicola =):" Depends on the person I guess. I think more often than not it has nothing to to do with the person they ... [snip!] ... want regardless of who it effects. I feel there is never an okay reason to cheat. I think people who cheat are pathetic."

They are.  

Quoting CRSx2Mommy:" grass is greener/attention. That's why I did it  "

This. That's why I did too.

Quoting *Demon Llama*:" This. That's why I did too."

I was an smurf and I should have known better. I regret every second of it. Sorry you dealt with similar  

Quoting CRSx2Mommy:" I was an smurf and I should have known better. I regret every second of it. Sorry you dealt with similar  "

Even though it was an smurf thing to do, I am glad I did it. It ended a 7 year relationship that I thought was good, but in hindsight was terrible for both of us.

Quoting *Demon Llama*:" Even though it was an smurf thing to do, I am glad I did it. It ended a 7 year relationship that I thought was good, but in hindsight was terrible for both of us."

well i'm glad it worked out for you for the best. For me all I did was break my husband's heart. We are still together, although to this day I still don't know how he forgave me

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" I think people cheat for various reasons. But it is always 100% the cheaters fault."

Absolutely.

ALWAYS.

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Black Kid™:</b>" Yes....insecurity is a big one."</blockquote>




I have cheated once. It was on my exboyfriend with my husband. He was incredibly abusive and controlling. He constantly called me awful names and accused me of cheating even though I never had. He wouldn't let me break up with him and would follow me around my college campus and confront and occasionally assault the people I interacted with. He sent naked pictures to my family and my work and got me fired from more than one job(I worked with kids). He was a psychopath.
Technically I had been trying to break up with him for over a year and he was just not accepting it. Still honestly believed we were together. So in his mind in cheated on him, and I feel guilty about that but I don't that i really should.
As a matter of fact he tried to claim that my oldest was his even though we hadn't been together sexually in almost 2 years when I had him.
I'm not sure if what I did counts as cheating.

My ex cheated and I think it was because he wanted his cake and eat it too. He had his women at home taking care of the kids and laying in his bed, then something new someone he could get away from his family life and act like he doesn't have a care in the world with.