Quoting Mara:" Don't get personal: We are here to debate issues, not people. Attack someone's argument all you'd like, ... [snip!] ... your viewpoints in an attempt to invalidate them. This is not an attack on you or your beliefs, it is the nature of debate."
So true lol. The way I figure is you have to appreciate the other person who has an opposite opinion of you, being able to argue it in a sensible fashion.
Thats how great ideas and inventions happen. Sadly when we are pregnant or just protective mommies we are a bit more like poked bears than reasonable to see both sides *sigh* but such is life