SO is no help this time around

With my last pregnancy my SO was very helpful in making sure we had everything ready before our son was born. he went shopping with me for all the big baby items like swings, cribs, bedding. But this time anytime I bring up what we still need or even talk about the baby he cuts me off. I just dont understand it. We only have until Friday at the latest for our baby to arrive and we dont even have diapers. I have all the clothes ready and the carseat washed, but thats about it. I asked SO if I could buy diapers and he actually said no. I asked him if he would carry the baby swing up from the basement because I cant fit through the stairway with my huge stomach and big ol swing and he wont do that either. We havent even decided on a name yet because he shoots every name down. I feel like he doesnt want this baby or that hes punishing me or something. I just dont get it :-( I feel like we wont be prepared.

I'd be telling to pull his head out of his ass and step up. The baby could be here anytime, you shouldn't have to ASK to buy diapers   I'd get myself to a store and buy them myself, or get someone to pick them up for you.
Do you have family or friends that can help you, since he's being such a jerk?

He sounds like hes being selfish, DH at first before I got to huge and was extremely exhausted all the time, he would actually help out. But now that ive gotten so huge I can barely walk and my feet hurt all the time, I ask him to do dishes once or laundry and he just says he not the cleaning type that its my job. And Ive told him how tired I am and he wont budge. So I get stuck with all the cleaning. So Im kinda in the same position. I just wish men knew how it felt to carry a baby inside them for 9-10 months and then they would actually see how it feels!!

Quoting ProginoskesII (SuperKink):" I'd be telling to pull his head out of his ass and step up. The baby could be here anytime, you shouldn't ... [snip!] ... myself, or get someone to pick them up for you. Do you have family or friends that can help you, since he's being such a jerk?"

Im on maternity leave so I have no income at the moment and have been staying home with my 7yr old and 2 yr old. He refuses to give me any money for anything. I have to fight for money for groceries......its beyond rediculous. he was never like this before. I talked to my dad and he told me to try not to stress and that SO will step up, but our baby's going to be here by the end of the week. I know my parents won;t let any of my children ever go without. I just wish that SO would be the one to step up and me not have to rely on my dad. I'm 25 and SO is 33..........I shouldnt have to be asking other ppl to support our kids. I just hate feeling like this :-(

Quoting Bri An Brad Fitch:" He sounds like hes being selfish, DH at first before I got to huge and was extremely exhausted all the ... [snip!] ... I just wish men knew how it felt to carry a baby inside them for 9-10 months and then they would actually see how it feels!!"

I know how you feel! I asked SO to change one diaper for me yesterday because I had just changed 3 in about an hour and my feet were swollen really bad, and I just wanted to lay down. When I told him he could at least change one diaper a day or a week, something to help out. And he goes, "well its not a competition". And he never changed it, I had to. Not that I mind diapers, its just the point that a little help would be nice.

Quoting Fharyn:" I know how you feel! I asked SO to change one diaper for me yesterday because I had just changed 3 in ... [snip!] ... competition". And he never changed it, I had to. Not that I mind diapers, its just the point that a little help would be nice."

Yeah I see where your coming from. Its not like your sitting there being lazy 24/7 and telling him to do everything for you and clean..etc..
He really needs to step up cause if the baby is so close to being here and you dont have diapers you def need them ASAP!, I hope everything goes good(:

Quoting Bri An Brad Fitch:" Yeah I see where your coming from. Its not like your sitting there being lazy 24/7 and telling him to ... [snip!] ... up cause if the baby is so close to being here and you dont have diapers you def need them ASAP!, I hope everything goes good(:"

thank you :-)

Thank god my SO isn't like that but my ex was when I had my daughter I stayed at home and did everything well he would come home spend an hour with her and then if she needed a diaper change he would say well I changed her the last time so its your turn now! WHAT I've changed her 30 times and u can't change her twice in a day whatever some men r like that and its stupid! They didn't mind making u pregnant but now that's its said and done they don't want anything to do with any of it! WORTHLESS

Quoting b 7:" Thank god my SO isn't like that but my ex was when I had my daughter I stayed at home and did everything ... [snip!] ... They didn't mind making u pregnant but now that's its said and done they don't want anything to do with any of it! WORTHLESS"

agreed! I've been trying to let the things he does just roll over my shoulder and not let it get to me. But this last week I think everything is just piling up and I can't take it anymore. I feel like Im going to have a mental breakdown or something. Hopefully things will get better once LO is here. If not I guess I always have other options :-/

<blockquote><b>Quoting Fharyn:</b>" agreed! I've been trying to let the things he does just roll over my shoulder and not let it get to me. ... [snip!] ... mental breakdown or something. Hopefully things will get better once LO is here. If not I guess I always have other options :-/"</blockquote>


Its so easy for them they don't have to mess with kids if they don't want plus all that a baby does to a womans body it can be stressful I feel like crying a lot and my SO helps me a lot but I understand what u mean that's how it was with my ex he was lazy and that's y we aren't together I always looked at him and I could just snap because I kept thinking man is he worthless! Finally I left and said screw it I do it on my own anyways and I took him to court got child support and I do it mainly on my own! Women r strong and god made JK not all men r like that but a lot of them r

Quoting b 7:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Fharyn:</b>" agreed! I've been trying to let the things he does ... [snip!] ... got child support and I do it mainly on my own! Women r strong and god made JK not all men r like that but a lot of them r"

yea, Im to the point where I couls snap just by looking at him. I just keep reminding myself that one year from now I will be finished with my program and then I can afford to raise 3 kids alone. Just gotta get there first