Sons father vs New Boyfriend...

Hey ladies... I really have no where else to turn for advice... so maybe you ladies will be able to give me some.. My son is 2 years old and his father and I were together for 5 years and ended it in March... He was the kind of guy to live off of me and my family and would get mad if I wanted to see my friends so of course all of my friends hate him... my dad doesnt like him either for numerous reasons. He is currently working a very very good job and has a place of his own, we went through all the court crap and he has his days he gets our son and the amount he has to pay in child support... Now I have been dating this new guy for 6 months now and I care for him a lot... All of my friends love him as well as my family and especially my son. ABout 3 months into our relationship I caught him talking to someone else via facebook messaging and every since then he has been trying to prove his trust to me.. so far its working and I am very happy... My question is my sons father has completley turned his life around and has been trying to get back together for the past 7 months and wants his family back... so I am so confused and stuck because I dont want to hurt my boyfriend but at the same time I know it would be good for my son if me and his daddy were back together... any advice would be amazing!! Thank you again ladies for taking the time to read this book  

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" Hey ladies... I really have no where else to turn for advice... so maybe you ladies will be able to give ... [snip!] ... his daddy were back together... any advice would be amazing!! Thank you again ladies for taking the time to read this book  "

can you try 'dating' both of them?
Sounds sorta smurfed up.. buttt you should explore both options.

I think just because he got a job doesn't mean he's completely changed his ways...he probably still won't want you around your friends..

Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" can you try 'dating' both of them? Sounds sorta smurfed up.. buttt you should explore both options."

I wish it was that easy... I just feel so confused and lost...

Who do you want to be with???? Also I wouldn't get back with your ex cause of your son. Do it cause it is in your heart.

Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" can you try 'dating' both of them? Sounds sorta smurfed up.. buttt you should explore both options."

I agree

I do still care about my sons father... I tried dating before and always went back to him since we were together for so long I feel so comfortable around him...his mom texts me all the time claiming how much he has changed and watch to try it again.

In my experience, men seldom change. I wouldn't do it if I were you.

I hate to sound cliche, but he is your ex for a reason. Yes, people do change, but you really need to sit down and think everything through. Of course it'd be awesome for you to be together for your son, but you also have to think if it doesn't work again, then that's more added confusion for your son. He's not a baby, he's 2, he is gonna notice the chance if you were to break up again. That being said, do what you think is best for you and your son. Just think through ALL possible outcomes.

Quoting Laneys*Mama:" In my experience, men seldom change. I wouldn't do it if I were you."

You got a REALLY bad jackass of a guy though :/

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" You got a REALLY bad jackass of a guy though :/"

I really did, but I'm not the only one with that issue lol. I've got several friends that have had the same situation, as well as one on my PT who is posting about a similar situation right now.

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" I hate to sound cliche, but he is your ex for a reason. Yes, people do change, but you really need to ... [snip!] ... to break up again. That being said, do what you think is best for you and your son. Just think through ALL possible outcomes."

I am believe me I am not going to make a quick decision on this but my son notices something wrong and daddy goes to his house after he drops him off... And he constantly says "mommy and daddy.. where did they go" or "where did dada go" I know it sounds so cliche for guys to claim they have changed thats why I am just so torn... and then with my current boyfriend like I said he messed up 3 months into our relationship and I constantly worry who he is talking to or whos trying to talk to him.. and when we go out i just get upset because he blaightenly stares at other girls asses not even knowing he is doing it

I tried the whole getting back with the ex thing. We were together 5 years he left me when I was pregnant with our 2nd. I was a dumbass and thought oh things will be different this time blah blah blah....yeah here I am 1.5 years later a single mom with 2 kids. Honestly I wouldn't get back with the ex especially if your main reason is because it would be good for your LO. See where things go with this new guy and even if he's not the one you are going to be with down the road oh well. Just take it day by day. Things will work out.

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" I am believe me I am not going to make a quick decision on this but my son notices something wrong and ... [snip!] ... to him.. and when we go out i just get upset because he blaightenly stares at other girls asses not even knowing he is doing it"

He's isn't blatantly doing if he doesn't even realize it lol
Hell, i stare at asses ALL the time and then realize what i'm doing. Just follow your heart. Don't get back with him just for your son. It has to be in your heart, or you guys would be doomed from the beginning.

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" He's isn't blatantly doing if he doesn't even realize it lol Hell, i stare at asses ALL the time and ... [snip!] ... heart. Don't get back with him just for your son. It has to be in your heart, or you guys would be doomed from the beginning. "

lol yea I noticed that after I posted it... and I broke up with my sons father and he has been begging me every since to fix his family... he didnt leave me and my son he loves seeing his son