re: Sons father vs New Boyfriend...

from EXPERIENCE only because i was in this same situation. DONT DO IT. I was with my daughters father for 4 years we broke up for 7 months tried to get back together...lets just say it lasted 2 weeks. if your not supposed to be together your not supposed to be together. and a person can only change so much about them selves never mind in a short amount of time. stick to the new guy. he may have talked to someone else but thats it, and everyone makes mistakes dont dwell on it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jo&Ry:</b>" from EXPERIENCE only because i was in this same situation. DONT DO IT. I was with my daughters father ... [snip!] ... of time. stick to the new guy. he may have talked to someone else but thats it, and everyone makes mistakes dont dwell on it."</blockquote>

Ugh I don't know...

It sucks, but its better for your child to grow up loved in happy homes, than in a home where his parewnts fight all the time or are just unhappy. they know more than we think sometimes and it sounds like its not bad with the new guy, could end up being something awesome.

Quoting Jo&Ry:" It sucks, but its better for your child to grow up loved in happy homes, than in a home where his parewnts ... [snip!] ... they know more than we think sometimes and it sounds like its not bad with the new guy, could end up being something awesome."

yea I mean the only reason we broke up is because we were living with my mom and it was very stressful which made us fight... we hardly fought when we had out own place

First of all. I know how you feel. I still love my sons father and.want us to be together. Sometimes I feel its destined not to work out cuz of our problems.
Why did u and sons father break up? If its something u can forgive and.work on then it sounds like hes trying. Actions speak louder than words though.I know how hard it is when your parents don't like/approve the person you're dating or have a child with. my dad hates my sons father. It been on and off for the last year. 4 years on with him
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<blockquote><b>Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:</b>" well we were living with my mom at the time which puts a lot of stress on a relationship not having ... [snip!] ... and my dad dislikes him... so it wasnt like he cheated or anything on me he was very faithful just a stressful situation.."</blockquote>



I posted earlier why we broke up... I mean as of right now I'm leaning towards my current boyfriend... I mean if me and my sons father get back together I just don't feel like dealing with everyone hating me for it ya know...

Do what you feel is right, but let me tell you something, my HUSBAND acts the same way, wouldnt work, i busted my butt everyday working, i spent all my college money on bills because i couldnt pay them with my job alone, he used my car and everything i had. I never got anything financially out our relationship. I am due in 9 days, with our baby girl. We have been together for 3 years and he never took the role of being a supporter, so its hard for me to think he could do well at being a dad. Sometimes i think i should move on and make my life easier, by being with someone who can financially support me and my daugther but i know in my heart if my husband buckle down and actually grow up and carried a good job, it would be the happiest moment in my life. That is all i ever wanted from him, and the looks of your story yours too. It seems you were lucky to have him realize he needs to man up and has gotten a job and wants to be responsible, i on the other hand pray for that to happen to me. With your current bf having trust issues with you, i wouldnt put it past him that hed do it again. I say give your ex another shot, try to have a family the right way this time, with support from both parents, financially. And if it doesnt work all you lost is a bf who has talked to other girls behind your back and the knowledge that your ex isnt worth trying a family with again. Plus your child being with its rightful father, especially when he wants to be there for his child, is a good aspect. i cant make you decide, but id say take advantage of having him want a family, not everyone is so lucky. My husband is in jail and will be while my girl is born and years after, what id give to have him come and want to make a responsible change!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kaila Ducote:</b>" Do what you feel is right, but let me tell you something, my HUSBAND acts the same way, wouldnt work, ... [snip!] ... jail and will be while my girl is born and years after, what id give to have him come and want to make a responsible change!!"</blockquote>


Wow I wish the best for you when you little princess comes! Maybe he will grow up once he sees his beautiful baby girl! And that advice has been the best yet mama! Thank you! It's something that I have to decide and it sucks because I'm always scared I'm going to make the wrong decision!