re: Sons father vs New Boyfriend...

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" lol yea I noticed that after I posted it... and I broke up with my sons father and he has been begging me every since to fix his family... he didnt leave me and my son he loves seeing his son"

May i ask WHY you guys ended?

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" May i ask WHY you guys ended?"

well we were living with my mom at the time which puts a lot of stress on a relationship not having your own place to come home to. So that was very very stressful.. we both worked but had to come home to a someone elses house, I wanted to go out with my friends and he used to get mad... so I cant talk to my friends about this kind of stuff... and my dad dislikes him... so it wasnt like he cheated or anything on me he was very faithful just a stressful situation..

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" well we were living with my mom at the time which puts a lot of stress on a relationship not having ... [snip!] ... and my dad dislikes him... so it wasnt like he cheated or anything on me he was very faithful just a stressful situation.."

All of that sounds fixable to me. You would really need to lay down the rules as far as what is gonna happen on the friends end of things.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" All of that sounds fixable to me. You would really need to lay down the rules as far as what is gonna happen on the friends end of things."</blockquote>


Well that's why I'm stuck and have all these thoughts running through my head because of him and my current boyfriend..

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" All of that sounds fixable to me. ... [snip!] ... Well that's why I'm stuck and have all these thoughts running through my head because of him and my current boyfriend.."

All i can say is follow your heart.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" All i can say is follow your heart."</blockquote>

That seems to be the answer to it I just wish it was easier and less confusing then that...

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" All i can say is follow your heart."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... your heart."</blockquote> That seems to be the answer to it I just wish it was easier and less confusing then that..."

*sigh* It never is mama

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" *sigh* It never is mama"</blockquote>



Well thank you for listening Mama! It means a lot... I guess I just have to think about this whole and and hope I don't get rid of the wrong guy for good  

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" *sigh* It never is mama"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... Mama! It means a lot... I guess I just have to think about this whole and and hope I don't get rid of the wrong guy for good  "

I would just tell your SO you need some time to yourself, and figure it out that way.
So you're not so lost on what to do, and don't regret your decision in the end or hurt anyone.
Maybe go out with your ex once, and see how it goes, talk to him...
if you're having doubts, and think maybe it's a good choice too get back with him, you and your current SO should take a break so you can figure it out and be 100% happy  

good luck!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Evelynns Mama!:</b>" I would just tell your SO you need some time to yourself, and figure it out that way. So you're not ... [snip!] ... too get back with him, you and your current SO should take a break so you can figure it out and be 100% happy   good luck!!"</blockquote>

That sounds like a good idea but what do I tell my current SO if I go out on a date with My BD?.... I mean we have hung out before and it always goes good... But like I said before I don't wanna hurt my SO... I'm scared to say lets take a break and then lose him...

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Evelynns Mama!:</b>" I would just tell your SO you need some ... [snip!] ... always goes good... But like I said before I don't wanna hurt my SO... I'm scared to say lets take a break and then lose him..."

Ughhh, I don't know.
If he loves you, i'd say he'd understand. But, that's not reality nowadays. Just tell him you're confused...
This happened to me, with my SO before I was pregnant but kind of in a backwards way..
I was with my SO for a year or so and we broke up because i was confused and thought I still cared for my ex ( before my SO *M*) Well, we broke up I told him I just had to figure out what was going on and what i needed to do, i was honest with him... And went out with M a few times, and realized that wasn't what I needed. Tried to get back with him, he ignored me and ignored me, it hurt... but eventually he came back to me and I got pregnant.

I'm going to be honest, and say I still do care for my ex in some ways, and I will never understand why. But I always run back to my SO, it's odd. We fight a lot, but we love each other a lot. Our relationship is odd. He tries to control me, maybe that's why i still think about my ex because he NEVER did that. But all in all, i'm happy with my decision and wouldn't change it. I love that my SO is always here for my little girl...

You just have to figure out what YOU want, and what completes YOU. I now, couldn't imagine NOT being with my SO because of our child. She makes him light up, makes him a new person. And he does the same to her.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Evelynns Mama!:</b>" Ughhh, I don't know. If he loves you, i'd say he'd understand. But, that's not reality nowadays. Just ... [snip!] ... NOT being with my SO because of our child. She makes him light up, makes him a new person. And he does the same to her. "</blockquote>



Ok and if I decided to give my BD another chance how do I deal with my friends and father hating me? My dad watches my son while I work... So I know he won't talk to me or want anything to do with me... And all the court I had to go through will be for nothin and if it doesn't work again then ill have to go to court all over again.

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Evelynns Mama!:</b>" Ughhh, I don't know. If he loves you, ... [snip!] ... all the court I had to go through will be for nothin and if it doesn't work again then ill have to go to court all over again."

If you truly love him, every bit of it will be worth it. and, if he's truly changed, your father AND friends will see that, and hopefully give him another chance.
that's what happened with my SO, noone in my family liked him, and he's changed... he's a better person now (well, better than he WAS) and they see that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Evelynns Mama!:</b>" If you truly love him, every bit of it will be worth it. and, if he's truly changed, your father AND ... [snip!] ... my SO, noone in my family liked him, and he's changed... he's a better person now (well, better than he WAS) and they see that."</blockquote>




This just sucks ya know it would be so much easier if I was single... But I'm not I'm in a relationship with a guy who I care a lot about and that's what's making it hard  I never had to do this before

Quoting Camden's Mommy!!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Evelynns Mama!:</b>" If you truly love him, every bit of it ... [snip!] ... not I'm in a relationship with a guy who I care a lot about and that's what's making it hard  I never had to do this before"

It's gonna be hard.
Good luck!!1