Dating for single moms?

Okay.. so I split up with my Ex SO in March of this year on the 16th of Nov it will be 8months and I have met a few guys since then, two were just friends with benifits so they never met my kids (my one friend did though because he brought his kids to my neices bday party), but i met soemone i like and might see myself dating, we've been texting and talking on the phone and yet have to meet face to face.. I am just wondering how long you should date someone before they can meet your kids, i say when you know for sure its going to work or perhaps 3months..

I would say when I felt entirely comfortable and trusting of that person. I would just introduce them as a friend and not show anything in front of LO until LO is comfortable with them, too.

I don't remember how long is was exactly with my now-hubby...things moved pretty fast with him, probably because I had a LO and was ready to settle down. I guess it was just when I knew he was serious and he wasn't going anywhere anytime soon. Then I gradually started bringing him around more and more.

It's good that you're being careful about it though....I know too many single moms that just bring men in and out of their children's lives, or push their children to call them "daddy" and then they break up or something. My son's father was never involved so I didn't want him to feel the disappointment of multiple men walking out on us...

I think it depends on the situation.

IDEALLY, it should be when the relationship is serious, but sometimes it just doesn't work out like that.

The guy I'm talking to met my kids the first time I met him, mistake? maybe, but, I don't have anyone at all that'll watch my kids for me, so I don't really have any other choice  

It depends on how old your child is. I don't mind the men I date meeting LO, because she is only 4 months and I know she won't remember/miss them if we break up. It is important to me that men are willing to accept that I have a daughter and want to meet her. If they want nothing to do with her, I won't keep them around.

In my custody order, it states that neither my ex nor myself can introduce my daughter to a new partner before dating them a minimum of 6 months.

I waited longer than that before I introduced her to my husband.

Double Post

the guy I am talking to wants longterm and he is older than me, and i know he wants serious.. but i don't want my kids meeting people who aren't going to be around, my ex had one girl around my kids who parties and does drugs all the time and it pissed me off because he lied.. (i saw his phone where he was saying she hadn't met my oldest yet (who is his adopted son) ), I am always honest with him when im going to see men.. were trying to be friends.. but anyways yeah.. it feels like this could be more

Me and SO just split and the thought of some strange man being around her, terrifys me ..Like.. i dont care how much i THINK i know a person.. people have come in and out of my life and always proved me wrong.. and i just dont see myself really trusting her with anyone else but my family my BD's family or Baby daddy himself.

I waited a little more then 2 months to finally introduce my SO to my son... And it was just a casual meeting we went to a local park and 4 months later my son loves my SO! It's just when you feel the time is right... Good luck momma!

I didn't wait as long as I had planned. My lo is 2 and it made it easier to see my bf. I made sure he called him by his name. My son never had a father so I didn't worry to much about him getting confused not with me always saying "say hi to will or whatever" but he has kids to and he's taking it slow around my son since he doesn't want to get attached or the other way around tell were pretty sure were we stand.