Quoting ×ø×K·ßear×ø×:" maybe just review how they punish her when shes over there and just explain to them they need to be more ontop of it and more strict"
She is 16 months. I finally got her to stop throwing fits by covering her mouth when she starts and telling her no. The thing is, I have told her nana certain things that I request her to do, and she doesn't do them. And I later find out that she wasn't doing what I asked, but with someone who is a liar and is good at it, it is hard to have a strong foundation to make decisions from.... for example, I told her she could absolutely not take her to the house boat until she could swim. About a year later, she started to slip details that lead me to belive that Lilah was at the house boat and then reworded her story... but I don't have solid proof of it... I did tell her that Ididn't want her to take her around her son (dd's dad) and especially without my knowledge... he told me he saw her, and his mom never did. And both times I asked, she ignored me. It's a lot of factors.... it's just difficult knowing what to do because the situation is so screwed up with her deadbeat father...and I've been trying to figure out for a long time if his mom was being manipulative like he is... however, without solid facts (because they both withold information) how can I make a decision?