Quoting momma melissa85:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ozzie & BamBam:</b>" I blamed myself too for bd not being in ... [snip!] ... and out. He says he wants to be there and acts like he makes and effort but doesn't. Idk how many chances I should give him "
I can tell you what I did and see if that helps.
In the beginning (during pregnancy) BD said he's to young to be a dad and isnt ready for a son. When I was 5 months he said he wanted to be in his sons life, I gave him that chance. Gave him my new address and even told him I would pay shipping. At my babyshower he was a no show. I said I was never giving him another chance. He showed up 3 days after his son was born held him long enough for a pic and left. Chance number 3 came when he seen his son 2 more times and hasnt seen him again since may. He was 3 months then and is 9 months now. He doesnt know what a daddy is yet but I can assure you he wouldnt know his daddy from any other man. Child support said he can visit the 1st 3rd and 5th saturday for 17 saturdays a year. I gave him the chance AGAIN because his off day was friday. NO CALL NO SHOW. I have yet again to allow him the oppurtunity to pick.
I know this is kinda long but my son doesnt know him as daddy he knows him as D'marcus. I told him if he cant play daddy all the time and not only when he is forced to then he wont be known as daddy.