re: dear daughter, i am sorry

Well the hardest part he was right by my side the whole pregnancy and he said he would be there but now he's nowhere to be found my guess is he found something more important to him. where did all good men go? 

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brie Fleurs:</b>" Well the hardest part he was right by my side the whole pregnancy and he said he would be there but now ... [snip!] ... be there but now he's nowhere to be found my guess is he found something more important to him. where did all good men go? "</blockquote>




They are married  

My bio dad was pretty much in and out...I really only saw him at Christmas and my birthday. If it wasn't for his girlfriends or mother I probably wouldn't have saw him at all. I had Daddy issues and it messed with every frickin relationship I've ever been in except the one with my current SO. I had to learn to let to of all tr hate before I could have a decent relationship. It also helps that he knows how to handle me when I have "moment" lol! I always wondered if it would've been better had he not been around at all. My Mama met a great guy who has been in my life since I was one and he has loved me as if I'm his own. There are men like that out there and you will find one!

This just broke my heart for you OP.

But, your daughter is so very lucky to have a caring, loving mum such as your self. It sounds like it's better he stays away if he can't be a permanent fixture in her life then to come in and out or to be in it but not a positive parental figure.

We all do the best we can, some days it feels like it just isn't enough but in your daughters eyes I am sure you go above and beyond.

Sorry you and your girl are going through that its very sad but sometimes if a parent your bd is not involved has no desire to be involved it maybe heartbreaking for your little girl but she will end up a stronger person for it and she's saving not having to be let down consistently. We had a so called dad he would keep us waiting for days looked after his wife's kids they had a dad that was involved in their life. Said hurtful hateful things to us girls and never let us forget he would have rather had a son. We ended up walking away from him when we were old enough my mom never said anything bad about him and encouraged us to have a relationship with him but in the end after we are all adults with our own children she finally told us she use to feel bad we had such a crappy dad but now she knows its time to end the heartbreak and move on we love and appreciate her much more for looking after us and loving us unconditionally your little girl will to good luck

Quoting momma melissa85:" For bringing you into this world without a father in your life. I did not have a mother, and I hurt a ... [snip!] ... life but I have made it worse. I am so sorry baby, that I cannot protect you. I thought I would be enough but I know I can't."

I blamed myself too for bd not being in my sons life. You dont know how long you Ive been wanting to make a post like this. Its hard growing up without a daddy but its even harder growing up without a mommy. I didnt grow up with my daddy after turning 5 I didnt see him again till I was 9. The next time I saw him was at his funeral last year. Its not as bad as you think it is. When you grow up without that father figure in your life it really isnt that bad, because you dont know what its like when he is there. I hope you feel better cause its not your fault mama.

Quoting Brie Fleurs:" Well the hardest part he was right by my side the whole pregnancy and he said he would be there but now ... [snip!] ... be there but now he's nowhere to be found my guess is he found something more important to him. where did all good men go? "

I am going through this now, My BD and i where best friends for years, then we got together, been together for almost two years, and she is now eight months old and two weeks ago he told me he wanted out, that he is not ready for this and needs to have "a normal life" and go persue his dream.. Ive posted all about it in "Single parenting"

I'm going through this too. My BD though has not been there much in 11 yrs!

Quoting momma melissa85:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Mallo (::</b>" It hurts to read this. My daughter is almost ... [snip!] ... about her being all alone when I grow old. She is so innocent and beautiful. I am sorry you are going through that momma"

I think it's even harder for my daughter because my sons father is in his life. He goes with his dad for 3 months in the summer and AJ will never have that. Luckily, I met someone who is AMAZING with her and I am so beyond grateful. You will find someone who will actually want to be part of her life!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:</b>" My bio dad was pretty much in and out...I really only saw him at Christmas and my birthday. If it wasn't ... [snip!] ... been in my life since I was one and he has loved me as if I'm his own. There are men like that out there and you will find one!"</blockquote>



Thank you. I know what you mean. I had mommy issues that affected all my relationships   I just hope I can teach her to be ok without him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Idlehands:</b>" This just broke my heart for you OP. But, your daughter is so very lucky to have a caring, loving mum ... [snip!] ... do the best we can, some days it feels like it just isn't enough but in your daughters eyes I am sure you go above and beyond. "</blockquote>



Thanks  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs cree:</b>" Sorry you and your girl are going through that its very sad but sometimes if a parent your bd is not ... [snip!] ... on we love and appreciate her much more for looking after us and loving us unconditionally your little girl will to good luck"</blockquote>



Thank you  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ozzie & BamBam:</b>" I blamed myself too for bd not being in my sons life. You dont know how long you Ive been wanting to ... [snip!] ... isnt that bad, because you dont know what its like when he is there. I hope you feel better cause its not your fault mama."</blockquote>




I am sorry you went through that   ugh baby daddy just seems to want to come in and out. He says he wants to be there and acts like he makes and effort but doesn't. Idk how many chances I should give him  

<blockquote><b>Quoting JazziRay Carrier:</b>" I am going through this now, My BD and i where best friends for years, then we got together, been together ... [snip!] ... is not ready for this and needs to have "a normal life" and go persue his dream.. Ive posted all about it in "Single parenting""</blockquote>



That sucks! He wants out? Wtf

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Mallo (::</b>" I think it's even harder for my daughter because my sons father is in his life. He goes with his ... [snip!] ... who is AMAZING with her and I am so beyond grateful. You will find someone who will actually want to be part of her life!"</blockquote>




I have no doubt that someone will love her and want to be there for her, but I gotta find someone to love me first   I feel too damaged to be loved. Ugh so many issues.