Quoting ashley noel [16 days!]:" Me too! If I had given birth in a hospital with my daughter I would have almost definitely been forced ... [snip!] ... born perfectly healthy in water, 9lbs 3 oz, 10 apgar scores, and I didn't have a single tear. All because I trusted my body. "
I had my son at the hospital, went into labor on my own at home & didnt actually go in til i was 8cm. I was letting my body do its thang to have this baby and when my body would push during a contraction, my doula suggested we call someone in so then the nurse (aka stupid bitch) came in and made me get on the bed & lay on my back (i had been standing and leaning on my bed) & told me NOT to push bc my dr hadnt arrived to the hospital! So I back on the bed, and pretty much told her to shove it cause I was letting my body take over. She got frusterated and called a resident dr to come in and then they were like PUSH PUSH PUSH! DS's heart rate dropped so they shoved an oxygen mask on me, told me not to "moo" even though it was helping me, they said it wasnt effective and were yelling at me to push and push hard. They werent helping stretch my perineum, just standing there looking at my hoo-ha and reading the monitors
so when he started crowing, they pressured me & I took the damn oxygen mask off and pushed so hard it felt like the biggest smurf i had ever taken and DS came out all at once. I ended up with a 2nd degree tear
23 mins of pushing wasnt enough for my perineum to naturally stretch
Needless to say, I will never birth in a hospital again