Moving on.

To all you single moms out there, How did you find it in yourself to pick up the shattered peices and move on with things.. I totaly intend on bettering myself for my childs benifet and making the best life i can for her. At this point (Wich i guess is normal) I have good days and bad days, i still cry and have to chase those thoughts (Good and bad memories of her dad) out of my head..But still they get the best of me..I know over time it will eventually get easier to deal with the seperation.. Also (Not that im looking or even intend to look for anyone else) but if the time ever does come...how do you...i guess take that leap of faith again.. i have been down this road to many times.. twice i gave my full self over to a man and it crashed and burned.. this time leaving me with a child to praticly raise on my own.. How do you pick yourself up to beable to trust a nother man again.. to beable to give your heart out again for the sake of finding love and happyness.. at this point (NOT trying to sound dramatic) but im not sure this is gonna be possible, i dont want the waste of time, and the heatache that always seems to follow at the end..

You just have to remember that life goes and gets better. The more you hurt the stronger you will come out in the end. Took me 3 years to take that leap of faith again and I am so glad I did.

First of all, please love yourself completely before you can try to love someone else.

As much as it sucks, let time heal your wounds. Trust your gut instinct. Take care of yourself and your child. Do things that make you happy, or that you've always wanted to do. Accomplish a personal goal. Go outside as much as possible. Cry every time that you need to. Let yourself greive. I've been there, still am. PM me if you want to talk.

You'll be okay. You're strong.

Quoting .Solange.:" First of all, please love yourself completely before you can try to love someone else. As much as it ... [snip!] ... that you need to. Let yourself greive. I've been there, still am. PM me if you want to talk. You'll be okay. You're strong."

And you know i plan on doing all these things..Im not even worried with finding someone else at all.. becasue i know right now, it just cant happen.. im not emotionaly strong enough, i cant even stand on my own yet.. I do love me, and every day it gets easier and i refuse to let myself beat myself up and i wont convince myself that all this was my fault....but when i can..stand on my own again.. i cant help that my one dream in life is to find someone to grow old with..to share a life with..is it delousional to think that there is my own personal prince charming out there some where and that a life , a house, a buncha kids and a dog is possible?

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" And you know i plan on doing all these things..Im not even worried with finding someone else at all.. ... [snip!] ... there is my own personal prince charming out there some where and that a life , a house, a buncha kids and a dog is possible?"

oh honey, I can tell you one thing for sure, all of what you are describing and saying is exactly word for word everything that i have felt and said. I'm sure a lot of other women also. You are emotionally strong enough, you're too hurt to see it right now but you are. Stop thinking about price charming and what you want in love. To re-build yourself, you need to take it day by day. Do lots of activities with your child. Join a gym, a dance class, a scrapbook club, whatever it may be that you enjoy doing. think of yourself. be selfish and do things you want to.

Then you can think about prince charming. I promise you he's out there, just give yourself time to heal. Things in life can change in a moment, in a day. You never know when someone or something great is about to enter your life. Remember that

Quoting .Solange.:" oh honey, I can tell you one thing for sure, all of what you are describing and saying is exactly word ... [snip!] ... can change in a moment, in a day. You never know when someone or something great is about to enter your life. Remember that"

Your right.. Thanks. I sent you a parenttank. If you have a facebook, and your cool with adding me, then message me your name there and ill send you the add. I really need a lot of support, esp from someone who has been through it.

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" Your right.. Thanks. I sent you a parenttank. If you have a facebook, and your cool with adding me, then ... [snip!] ... message me your name there and ill send you the add. I really need a lot of support, esp from someone who has been through it."

Of course. We can support each other. i'm still going through it actually so I know exactly how you feel. I'm here for you as much as you need me. My name on facebook is Émilie-Solange Blanca

Quoting .Solange.:" First of all, please love yourself completely before you can try to love someone else. As much as it ... [snip!] ... that you need to. Let yourself greive. I've been there, still am. PM me if you want to talk. You'll be okay. You're strong."

This made me cry; your words were so strong & it really seemed like you meant them. Sorry i'm overly emotional this week