am i doing the right thing

im not sure if this the right area to post. but i have 3 kids. my first with my x husband. she ia 10. her father is very controling, wants things his way, i just told him that she will no longer be involved in karate after this month because i think we need more time together. we have 50/50 custody. so on my time, her time spent with me,im not allowing her to do karate., which he signed her up for, im not trying to be selfish, but my daughter has alot of issues, mainly i think because my other 2 kids much younger a 3yr. old and a 8 month old are from my marriage now, and she still hasn't adapted. i feel as tho i need time with her. i go to school and take care of my kids, but in a sende shse is almost neglected cause i dont have time. she is the only child of her dad and is completely babied to the point he sleeps with my daughter still his wife cant. its alot of drama. my QUESTION is, am i being wrong for this or am i right cause her karate doesnt fit my schedule and when i have time i dont want to be just dropping her off somewhere,

Quoting momhappy:" im not sure if this the right area to post. but i have 3 kids. my first with my x husband. she ia 10. ... [snip!] ... or am i right cause her karate doesnt fit my schedule and when i have time i dont want to be just dropping her off somewhere,"

i find parts of this odd

<blockquote><b>Quoting momhappy:</b>" im not sure if this the right area to post. but i have 3 kids. my first with my x husband. she ia 10. ... [snip!] ... or am i right cause her karate doesnt fit my schedule and when i have time i dont want to be just dropping her off somewhere,"</blockquote>


He sleeps in bed with his daughter, but not his wife? Da fuq?

Frankly, if she enjoys karate, you're being very selfish.

i would see about switching days so half the time she is in karate its your days and half the time its his

Your 10 year old daughter sleeps in the same bed as her dad? That's disturbing...

Quoting Christina2011:" Your 10 year old daughter sleeps in the same bed as her dad? That's disturbing..."

thats what im thinking. my daughter is welcome in our bed anytime at any age especially if she has a nightmare or something. but its odd his wife cant sleep there either and that she isnt adjusting.

he is very odd. used to ground me, told me what to wear. i cant change thats hes my daughters father but at the same time, i need to stop his behavior on my part. she loves karate, but i think its only cause thats what she enjoys and she would never speak bad about her dad cause she is a dadys girl. im ok with that, but im so tired of him telling me what i hjave to do on my time, and i know she is really hurting inside and needs mom time

Quoting momhappy:" he is very odd. used to ground me, told me what to wear. i cant change thats hes my daughters father ... [snip!] ... but im so tired of him telling me what i hjave to do on my time, and i know she is really hurting inside and needs mom time"

wow. he isnt like grooming her is he?

Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" thats what im thinking. my daughter is welcome in our bed anytime at any age especially if she has a nightmare or something. but its odd his wife cant sleep there either and that she isnt adjusting. "

That is VERY unnerving to me. I would be VERY concerned upon discovering that.

Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" wow. he isnt like grooming her is he?"

My thoughts exactly...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" wow. he isnt like grooming her is he?"</blockquote>

That's what it sounds like. I'm so disturbed on so many levels by this post.

Why is she upset?