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<blockquote><b>Quoting Veronika Karn:</b>" it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks if you want to try and be a mom and be the best mother you can ... [snip!] ... want to keep your baby, dont let anyone but yourself make that choice because you can and most likely will regret it later on. "</blockquote>

I don't think anyone is trying to tell her exactly what to do.
At 14 I'm not sure if you can wrap your head all the way around the idea of bringing a baby into the world. And without her parents being 100% supportive she's going to have a really awful time. But yes the decision is hers to make because no one can ever tell you what you should or shouldn't do when it comes to what do with your child...we're just trying to bring her to the reality of the situation.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Colton's Mommy ❤:</b>" I agree with the other ladies. Though, it is very possible that you two could make it & be good parents ... [snip!] ... hope everything works out for you & your LO. Don't make your decision based on what we had to say, but please keep it in mind."</blockquote>



Bullsmurf. I couldn't make it on minimum wage full time with one kid. She is not raising three kids working 12 days a month.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 12.21.07¤04.18.13:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Colton's Mommy ❤:</b>" I agree with the other ladies. ... [snip!] ... Bullsmurf. I couldn't make it on minimum wage full time with one kid. She is not raising three kids working 12 days a month."</blockquote>




Well, that's you. She has made it 7 years, with 3 kids, on her own, working 3 nights a week. Every once & a while she will pick up an extra shift. She makes very good tips the nights she works & she manages her money very well. She recieves food stamps & that is it. No child support or anything. It may seem nearly impossible, but it isn't.

I Know it will Be Extremely Hard to Raise a baby Especially at 14. My Boyfriend is being so Responsible, He Got a Job and asked me to move in with him and his Family. His Family been sooooo supportive. But I cant just lean on them, I Applied to This Job and Hopefully I will get accepted . So far things are going in the right direction, but I have to prepare myself for the Hard work I have to do in June , when my baby arrives. Adoption is Still an Option But we will have to wait and see if it still will when my baby arrives .

Quoting Kesha Charlostin:" I Know it will Be Extremely Hard to Raise a baby Especially at 14. My Boyfriend is being so Responsible, ... [snip!] ... , when my baby arrives. Adoption is Still an Option But we will have to wait and see if it still will when my baby arrives ."

You need to decide right now before the baby comes whether or not you are going to do adoption. I wouldnt be surprised if your boyfriedn didnt stick around.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" You need to decide right now before the baby comes whether or not you are going to do adoption. I wouldnt be surprised if your boyfriedn didnt stick around. "</blockquote>



Truth.
Little boys at 14 also have no clue what having a baby is til it's here.

Yes were Still Thinking about the Adoption Decision. Btw My Bf is 16 . He really wants to keep the Baby, but my parents really dont want us too. Its sooo Hard to pick a decision . I just need more time to think about it .

OP you don't have to decide right now.
The choice is 100% yours, and although we can give you advice, don't let negative opinions make the decision for you.
I got pregnant at 15 and had no support whatsoever, and also had my boyfriend coerce me into abortion, I later found out he was cheating after I had gone through with it to keep him and his mother happy.
You might not be aware of the psychological effects being pregnant has on you.
I think you should do a bit of research, talk to your boyfriend, his parents and your parents. Weigh up the positives and negatives and then make your decision for yourself, because ultimately it is your body, your baby, and your life.

Quoting Kesha Charlostin:" My Parents Are Putting A Lot of Pressure on Me about me Being Pregnant. They think I wont be Able to ... [snip!] ... Baby in a Adoption Center, But I dont want to Me and My Bf are working hard to be Great Parents . Please Give Me some Advice !"

It's YOUR decision! I'm 15 and have a 3 week old baby. and let me be the one to tell you ITS NOT EASY I can't get a job because Im a full time mom and still going to school.. your not financially stable to support your baby.. Thank god my boyfriend has 2 jobs and I have a supportive family.. But I know what it feels like to have everyone think Im not going to have a good future ahead of me. I tell everyone that having a baby pushes me into wanting a good future so I can support her.. Anyways if you have any questions please feel free to ask  

Personally,I believe it's your choice and I advice getting out from your rents because thats unjustifiable behavior at best,to stample themselves as to rid you due to the expectations of a future generation is disgusting.
I'm lucky that my family's supporting but when ever I read posts of younger mums to be not having the support of there families it makes me sick.
Your Parents have no rights or word on any descion you choose to make and you should let them know how they've made you feel noone in your immediate families or friends or on this page have the rights to tell you the their idea of a right descion ,the right descion is yours regardless of wich ever one you make.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Colton's Mommy ❤:</b>" I agree with the other ladies. Though, it is very possible that you two could make it & be good parents ... [snip!] ... hope everything works out for you & your LO. Don't make your decision based on what we had to say, but please keep it in mind."</blockquote>




I don't believe this for a second. That is not possible. H
She has to receieve some kind I assistance and/or child support. Something. Three evenings a week in minimum wage cannot support a family of four.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kesha Charlostin:</b>" Yes were Still Thinking about the Adoption Decision. Btw My Bf is 16 . He really wants to keep the Baby, ... [snip!] ... the Baby, but my parents really dont want us too. Its sooo Hard to pick a decision . I just need more time to think about it ."</blockquote>





You don't have to decide now but you should absolutely have a plan before baby gets here. If you choose adoption you want to set up a detailed adoption plan. You want to have a family of your choice picked out for our child so you know they will have a good life. You can't just wait until you're in the delivery room to decide it you want baby or not. Because at that point if you choose adoption, your baby goes into foster care until (if ever) they find a family for him/her.
Honestly I KNOW that you have no idea what being a parent is like and how hard it is. You legally can't work enough hours to provide for a baby and babies need more than love to survive. And as supportive as your boyfriend is being right now, you can't depend on him to provide for the three of you. I really think the best option for you and baby right know would be adoption or abortion. If you keep the baby it's because thats what YOU want, and the baby and you will have a very hard life ahead of you. If you choose adoption it will be because you want YOUR BABY to have a great life, which you are not capable of giving them right now. You have the option to make a fantastic and selfless parenting decision and give your baby a more privelidged and stable life with a family who wants and can provide for them.