I want to be alone for the rest of my life

I've decided that I want to be alone for the rest of my life. I was with my ex husband (first love) for five years. I gave that marriage everything I had, and almost lost myself after the fact. Ever since then, i've been alone...

I know that if I stay alone for the rest of my life, then I don't have to live in fear of being hurt again or disappointed. I don't have to live fearing that my son might get attatched to someone, only to have his heart broken. I don't have to be scared of someone running me into debt again. I don't have to be afraid of someone cheating on me behind my back. That was one of the worst feelings I have ever felt. Being alone for the rest of my life ensures that I can give my son all of myself, all my attention, all my patience, everything. I don't have to cry over hurtful words being said to me. I won't have to share my comfortable bed. I won't have to waste time arguing or crying over something that probably isn't worth it in the end.

I prefer security. I know that by being alone, no one can ever hurt me or break my heart again. I can just take care of my son and myself and i'll be content. I'll be secure. Most of all, i'll be safe.

Do you think it is possible to volunteerily live the rest of your life single and be happy or is this part of my healing phase (even though it's a year and some later)?

I think at some point once your child grows up and becomes more independent then you will probably want someone to be around to share you life with. But there is nothing wrong with having time for yourself!

I think that's part of the healing process for you.
Cos i've been there before, where i thought i could be happily single for life (and was happily single for 2 years) but it wasn't for reasons like "not being hurt, not being attached to someone, not having your heart broken"

I think you have to want it for truly feeling like you could exist with just you and your kids and later in life, just you.
Not just be doing it to avoid potential pain/heartbreak.

The only reason i'm no longer single is because i'm back with the father of my daughter. If it wasn't him, i'd still happily be single. And even now, i miss being single sometimes.

I'm feeling the same way, I can totally relate. I have wonderful friends and I never knew how unhappy I was when I was with my ex-husband until I was out of the marriage. I feel so disappointed in that somene who had professed hs undying forever love to me treated me worse than any friend that I have ever had. Maybe time will help and I'll want to try again with someone else...or not. I really am satisfied with who I am now to worry about what I NEVER want back in my life.

i sure as hell am doing good trying lol itll be two yrs since he left on dec 9th and i have yet to date. iim ok w this thou my son takes up all my time, i go out when he sleeps have fun come home to my love waiting for me asleep. no need for any man

My mum has been single by choice, since I was 2, for all the above reasons. (Thats 22 years, btw). I don't think things have always been the easiest and she's dealt with depression (but hey, I'm part of a couple and deal with deprrssion, as do many). It couldn't have been easy raising 3 kids alone (especially with my bro having ADHD, ODD, anxiety/separation disorder), never asking anybody for help but she did it and these days since we've all grown up, she seems content. Her whole life was about us, so I still try to spend a lot of time hanging out with her and she adores my babies and she's thrown herself into being a very hands on grandma. I don't want her to be lonely.

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Quoting .Solange.:" I've decided that I want to be alone for the rest of my life. I was with my ex husband (first love) for ... [snip!] ... live the rest of your life single and be happy or is this part of my healing phase (even though it's a year and some later)?"

I'm actually doing a version of this right now. I have no interest in a relationship right now.....or ever. I used to love sex. Not anymore. Haven't had it in months. I miss it. But I don't want to deal with the drama anymore. My wife and I are strangers in the same house. Only still together for the kids. Don't sleep in the same room....only the same house.

Quoting Queen Aries Baby:" i sure as hell am doing good trying lol itll be two yrs since he left on dec 9th and i have yet to date. ... [snip!] ... my son takes up all my time, i go out when he sleeps have fun come home to my love waiting for me asleep. no need for any man"

wait.....do you leave him alone when you go out?