re: FAKING AN ORGASM. HELP.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" Do not tell him.... You will forever smurf his ego."</blockquote>




Agreed! I've been with DH for 9 years and I fake it for 7 years. Then I just decided to stop. A lot of women can't orgasm from sex. Hell I never orgasm from oral. I can only get off with a vibrator. I will never tell DH that I faked it. It would ruin his confidence.

Quoting masonsmommy1311:" see that makes me feel like smurf.! i shouldnt have faked it in the first place, but the first time you ... [snip!] ... ive never been to reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation....i just....havent told him that :/ does that make me a bad wife??"

I don't think so, I've faked it in past relationships so I know how much pressure it is to keep the lie up, that's why I didn't with my husband now. But if I hadn't already known how much that situation sucks, I'd likely have done it with my husband.

It's hard, you don't want them to kill themselves trying to get you off if it isn't gonna happen, and you don't want them to feel like smurf. Lol, I get it.

Are you pregnant now? Blame it on baby hormones, stop faking and say "I don't know whats wrong babe..i guess its all these crazy baby hormones..how about we try x, y, z?" Help him help you. Faking an orgasm is cheating yourself lol Men, bless their hearts, are not usually going to just break out the new tricks if he thinks everything is working. Why fix what (he thinks) isn't broken? If you let him think whatever he is doing is making you happy and it isn't he'll probably never get there on his own.

Just experiment and enjoy yourself. DO NOT tell him though..by god.....you'll deflate his penis quicker than popping a birthday balloon with a needle that way.

Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" Do not tell him.... You will forever ... [snip!] ... never orgasm from oral. I can only get off with a vibrator. I will never tell DH that I faked it. It would ruin his confidence."

Have you tried propping your hips up so he goes in on an incline? Or getting on top and kinda like.. bucking?

That's the only way it works for me.

Usually, we just do it doggy style with a vibrator.

I would NOT tell him, thats all he'll think about forever every time you have sex. Just stop faking and tell him that you're having an issue now.

Gah, I couldn't imagine lying to my HUSBAND, the man I married about anything. Heh. Even if he wasn't getting me to orgasm. How will that ever make it better?

Quoting máthair draíocht:" Are you pregnant now? Blame it on baby hormones, stop faking and say "I don't know whats wrong babe..i ... [snip!] ... DO NOT tell him though..by god.....you'll deflate his penis quicker than popping a birthday balloon with a needle that way."

LOL! funniest thing ever. hahaha.but thank you so much. yes i am 8 months pregnant, and that is VERY good advice.!

Quoting masonsmommy1311:" LOL! funniest thing ever. hahaha.but thank you so much. yes i am 8 months pregnant, and that is VERY good advice.!"

Call me evil for using my unborn child in that way ... but I say use the excuse if you got it. ;-) It'll save his ego and hopefully get you better sex!

Quoting Riley+2:" Gah, I couldn't imagine lying to my HUSBAND, the man I married about anything. Heh. Even if he wasn't getting me to orgasm. How will that ever make it better?"

i didnt diliberately LIE. i was hoping that it was originally from me being "nervous and tense" during sex, and that eventually it would get better...but it hasnt. i'm thinking there is something wrong with me.

Tell him you've been faking it and about your orgasm issues. Women are a sexual mystery, so any knowledge that you can give to him will only help both of you.

Quoting masonsmommy1311:" i didnt diliberately LIE. i was hoping that it was originally from me being "nervous and tense" during ... [snip!] ... and tense" during sex, and that eventually it would get better...but it hasnt. i'm thinking there is something wrong with me."

No, I understand. I mean, just how people say to continue to lie. Yeah, when my husband doesn't get me off, it bums him out. But we just try different things and make it fun and interesting. Maybe don't tell him it's been as long, but I think it would be a good thing to tell him before too long.

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Have you tried propping your hips up so he goes in on an incline? Or getting on top and kinda like.. ... [snip!] ... on top and kinda like.. bucking? That's the only way it works for me. Usually, we just do it doggy style with a vibrator. "

bucking??? ...further explain please   lol . and yes, i have tried to get on top. that ALMOST gets me there. but i would deff have to try the vibrator and doggy style ordeal  

By the way, I only get off in two positions. With my hips up in the air, him holding my ass basically...and me on top kind of rocking back and forth. Women are difficult. Ha.

Quoting masonsmommy1311:" i didnt diliberately LIE. i was hoping that it was originally from me being "nervous and tense" during ... [snip!] ... and tense" during sex, and that eventually it would get better...but it hasnt. i'm thinking there is something wrong with me."

Nothing wrong with you at all. Sex is a wonderful thing but its a little more complex when we start factoring in pleasure and not just baby-making. Most women have issues with orgasms. We are very sense-based individuals and if one thing is just a little off it can ruin the whole process. Also...try touching yourself while he is at it (god I feel sort of kinky talking about all this) - that always helps me. I can't seem to get the O without extra stimulation. My oh my what we'll talk to strangers about on the internet, eh?

I agree with everyone else. Don't tell him. Just start experimenting with other ways to help yourself.
Seriously...since I started taking a more active roll in my own sex life, it has gotten a million times better. I highly recommend it