Stronger

Backstory here - http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2351739.html


Alright so, my parents have a loft, There are three bedrooms and then the half wich is the loft.. Up untill last night.. SO was still sleeping in my room, well i packed all his smurf into a duffle bag and moved him up into the loft where i set up the spair twin bed.. He is pissed. But you know honestly, just after ONE night of sleeping alone..i feel SO MUCH BETTER..Maybe he is mad becasue im done crying and spinning my wheels. Nightly i have come to him and cried and poured my heart out, well lastnight he told me regaurldess he is leaving, so ..im taking a step back and picking myself up and working on making myself better and whole again.. He said he will stay till the first of the year, thats fine with me.. becasue im moving on with my life.. Maybe hes mad becasue he is the one on the sidelines now..im not sure..whatever the case.. im getting stronger. I have made a personal choice to NEVER put my self in a situaiton ever again where i depend on someone, For anything.. this go round i will stand on my own ..and i will make the best life for me and my kid.. No one is gonna ruin it for me..Its not that i dont love him.. because i do.. he is the father of my child.. and im not saying all hope is lost for things between he and i eaither.. but im not gonna be dragged around like this.. its not fair to me or my kid.. Thanks BG for the support.

Ok so this is my take! You are doing the right thing!! If he is going to be immature and act this way you need to be strong and do what is best for YOU and your little girl!

Its funny how similar your situation is to mine....i was told the same thing by my SO, the whole career thing, the only difference is im currently pregnant with his second child and even thats not enough to make him want to stay( not that i would want him too stay just because of our kids but still...) we've been together for five years and like you im okay with the idea of him going to school and all that but why does he feel the need to leave his family behind to do this? Its very hard to understand him and im kinda getting tired of it all...your post has me thinking that maybe its time for me to do the same and just concentrate solemly to my kids and just leave him behind...

Quoting yoh1027:" Its funny how similar your situation is to mine....i was told the same thing by my SO, the whole career ... [snip!] ... has me thinking that maybe its time for me to do the same and just concentrate solemly to my kids and just leave him behind..."

Im not really trying to "leave him behind" Im just tired of being sad and depressed, i cant be the mom i want to be like this.. I love him with everything i have, and i have given him everything i could possibly give to a person, And im not looking to ever do it again.. If he goes out there and finds that his family is what he needs, then hes welcomed to come back and we can start again.. if he goes out there and never looks back, then hes the one that is missing out..*PS. NEVER EVER have someone stay just becasue you have kids together, its not worth it.

Quoting It's another GIRL!!:" Ok so this is my take! You are doing the right thing!! If he is going to be immature and act this way you need to be strong and do what is best for YOU and your little girl!"

Thanks.

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" Im not really trying to "leave him behind" Im just tired of being sad and depressed, i cant be the ... [snip!] ... then hes the one that is missing out..*PS. NEVER EVER have someone stay just becasue you have kids together, its not worth it."

when it comes down to it leaving him is not something i want to do either...i still believe him to be the love of my life. But the vibe i get from him everytime we talk is like thats what he wants from me you know so i feel like i have no choice but to just give him what he wants...im also tired of being depressed and crying all the time. Its not good for my son, this new baby, or me and to be honest i dont think i could take him back after this because there are times in which i start to think that the whole career thing is just an excuse and that he has someone else i guess it would depend on the situation weather i take him back or not if he ever changes his mind but right now i've been hurt badly enough to say that my answer would be no....and your right staying with someone just for the kids is not worth it but i just think i would be something he would at least consider before making a decision like this you know...i know i would.