When two people split up who do you think should get the kids?

The Mom?
The Dad?
Or to the one who has the job, home, and other means to care for them easier.

I think the one who gives them more hands-on care should be the one to get the kids. Not the money or house or car. You can GET those things later.

I think it depends on the situation, and who is most fit to be primary provider.

I'd like to think that if I were ever in that situation, things could be done as fairly as possible. My husband is a great father, and I would never deny him access to his kids, no matter how ugly things got.

My heart would say mom, but if I were homeless, jobless, carless and what not I would want her with her dad where he could take care of her until I could get stable.

depends how old the kids are. When my parents divorced i was like 3 but as i got older i wanted to live with my dad, I started wanting to when i was like 10 and my mom wouldnt let me she said when you this age you can decide and when i turned that age i still wasnt allowed... Well eventually it was too late and i was living on my own. I used to hate my mom for making me stay with her. Im a daddys girl

My kids will never be without me ever. If I was ever in that bad of a place I'd be using all the government programs avalible until I got on my feet.

The better parent. And by better I mean the one who is most emotionally stable and who is more loving and caring with the kids as well as financially stable.

which ever person takes care of the child my uncle had custody of his kids because his ex did drugs and never took care of the kids same thing with my SO hes the one whos been there for his LO not his LOs mom the money shouldnt be the only determinant

If both parents are willing and able I say split custody..My ex and I have split with our daughter,,She has always been happy and well rounded child..These custoday battles are a joke and in majority of cases its all about control and power..and not giving a rats ass about the childs feelings

Well Garrett and I never went to court when we split,we worked it out in her best interest. He gets more days with her then he would if we went through court. He gets her 2-3 days a week most weeks because of my work schedule. I would say i am the primary parent but we do a lot of stuff 50/50

Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" If both parents are willing and able I say split custody..My ex and I have split with our daughter,,She ... [snip!] ... are a joke and in majority of cases its all about control and power..and not giving a rats ass about the childs feelings"

I agree. That is why we decided to figure it out between us. In my opinion it's not fair how when you go through courts,the dad usually only gets every other weekend. That is not fair to my daughter who loves her daddy

I think it is complete crap that courts tend to still the Mother. It should never be based on the gender of the parent. Many states are adopting father's rights laws, and are finally starting to consider father's as equals. More and more studies have begun to surface about the importance of fathers in a child's life. It should be based on who has the means, and desire to provide the BEST for the child. Who is more financially and emotionally stable. The parent who puts their children's needs over their own wants.

My issue right now is that I have no income. I'm actively seeking workd but don't have anything yet. I've been a SAHM for the last 2 1/2 years.

DH has the income and the apartment. He's a good dad, although too strict in my opinion, but the kids do listen to him and love him.

I feel like I'm unable to give them the care they deserve right now.

Whatever is in the best interest of the child.

Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:" My issue right now is that I have no income. I'm actively seeking workd but don't have anything yet. ... [snip!] ... opinion, but the kids do listen to him and love him. I feel like I'm unable to give them the care they deserve right now."

I was in your shoes. When Garrett left,I had been a SAHM since I was pregnant with Juliannah(4 years) and had to completely start over. Iit took me a few months to find a job but slowly I have got back on my feet