re: Broke up with my baby dad

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" drug charges were dropped from BD but that doesn't mean he wasn't guilty. "

I know he is guilty as smurf. Mr. I will rat out people and put my kids in danger so I dont have to get jail time... He is a doucher.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Im sorry you are an idiot. Yeah I asked for it when I asked him to leave my house and hepulled me ... [snip!] ... then a couple days later if I didnt get back with him he could come in my house and kill me.. Oh yeah I really asked for it. "

I'm sorry you had to go through that.
My dad beat the Hell out of my mom for many years. She worked two jobs to support us because he wouldn't work, and he almost slit her throat in front of us because he thought she was out cheating.
She was providing for her family, and almost got killed for it.
She TOTALLY deserved it.  

Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" I'm sorry you had to go through that. My dad beat the Hell out of my mom for many years. She worked ... [snip!] ... she was out cheating. She was providing for her family, and almost got killed for it. She TOTALLY deserved it.   "

Damn her pushing his buttons by providing for her family. How dare she.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyingWithGrace:</b>" My grandfather cheated on my grandmother and his second wife. He has *never* cheated on his 3rd wife. ... [snip!] ... a month after they met. men can change. Just because he hit his previous wife, doesnt mean he would hit his current wife."</blockquote>




None of that had to do with abuse. No smurf some men change from being cheaters, but abusing?, yeah okay. Until his new wife or gf does something to piss him off right, since it's her fault, she shouldn't have pushed his buttons. Seriously?

<blockquote><b>Quoting J+K=Bri :</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommyingWithGrace:</b>" My grandfather cheated on my grandmother ... [snip!] ... new wife or gf does something to piss him off right, since it's her fault, she shouldn't have pushed his buttons. Seriously?"</blockquote>




Ive pushed his buttons but he knows i wont take his smurf like i said not hand has been laid on me or my son or daughter in 4 years he need meds he got on them he has not had inshurance but does now so he will be getting back on them this week we hope.

So, if the wife doesn't know that you're pregnant how is he going to get the child support past her without her finding out? What about the court dates?

I read through this entire thread and wow...

So, I think that op is an idiot with very low self esteem and no self respect, because she should feel her child is more than that.. it's NOT an embarrassment or something to hide, a GOOD father would proudly boast about his newborn baby, not give HUSH money so no one knows what he did.

And secondly, Women push buttons?!

WOOOWWWWW.. I've made my struggles with my ex on here open and completely honest so women that have never been in a relationship like that could see what it was like, and women going through it could feel like they weren't alone... I had so many pm's when I posted about locking myself in the bathroom while my SO banged on the door, me cowering in the corner with my laptop.. all saying they had been through the same thing...

It's a slap in the face.. that we did it to ourselves, when you say that some women push buttons.

Maybe some guys do change, but it's not changing the women that made the difference.. there was a change in THEMSELVES, maybe with counseling, finding religion, dropping whatever vice he had at the time...etc...

but most men don't stop, the verbal abuse, mental abuse, physical abuse usually stays.. it might lay dormant, but it comes out.. you just have to give it time.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:</b>" I read through this entire thread and wow... So, I think that op is an idiot with very low self esteem ... [snip!] ... abuse, mental abuse, physical abuse usually stays.. it might lay dormant, but it comes out.. you just have to give it time."</blockquote>




<3 how are u.... But like i said it was a pled for help and when hes on meds he is fine he was on them when i got with him and will be going back on them tuesday....btw did they ever find him?

Quoting Click Me Click Me!!!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:</b>" I read through this entire thread ... [snip!] ... hes on meds he is fine he was on them when i got with him and will be going back on them tuesday....btw did they ever find him?"

Yup, like I said, if there's a change it can happen.


And I'm good, struggling like a smurfer though..   But still good, I have my girls, and that's what matter.

I have no idea what happened because I told police where he was at, and it turns out there is NOOOOOOOOOO warrant for his arrest or anything from that night. I can't even press charges, it's like it never happened.

I have no report number or ANYTHING... and it doesn't show up on ANY records. I wish I would have kept the paper they handed me because as of right now I look like a crazy woman telling them my ex tried to kill me and there is absolutely NO record of it.

And if the meds are working for your husband then make sure you never run out! lol

Quoting Carla DiFiore:" I guess my thing is if wife knew then he wouldnt hide the baby. And wouldnt try pay her off so she wouldnt tell. Something missing from this whole thing."

But there's a bunch of possibilities as to why that is. Maybe they agreed on an open relationship to date other people aslong as you don't get knocked up/ or get someone knocked up. We can't really assume that because he doesn't want the wife to know about the baby, that she doesn't know about this girl period.

Quoting * Sara *:" SHE says the wife "has to know" about her because she can't be that stupid. She also said it was an open relationship which is a lie."

Ohhh so she's not even 100% sure that the wife knows and is just assuming because it's obvious the man is cheating?
well that changes everything.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Love of His Life:</b>" Well we weren't really in a relationship per se but we broke up. He wants to know what he can do to keep ... [snip!] ... about the baby. I wasnt planning on snitching but since he wants to pay for my silence fine by me. How much would you charge?"</blockquote>




No man like that could afford me, sorry ;-)

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyingWithGrace:</b>" My grandfather cheated on my grandmother and his second wife. He has *never* cheated on his 3rd wife. ... [snip!] ... a month after they met. men can change. Just because he hit his previous wife, doesnt mean he would hit his current wife."</blockquote>






I took that chance once and ended up in a nightmare. Your marriage might not end up like my relationship but at some point, it probably will. I hope not but statistics don't seem to be in your favor. Good luck.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyingWithGrace:</b>" I never said it was the woman's fault. I wasnt speaking for all women either. Some men are just repeat abusers. I am saying that just because he hit one woman doesnt mean he will hit another."</blockquote>




From how you word it, are you saying your husband flipped his smurf one time, hit his wife, then realized he smurfed up and went to therapy, anger-management, ect?

in all honesty? 300K. Other wise tell and then sue for child support.