re: I can't get my point across without yelling.

I've had this pinned for future reference:

http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/discipline/tips/ways-to-stop-yelling/?page=3

My mom was a big time yeller and I refuse to let the cycle continue after recognizing all of the psychological and emotional damage being yelled at did to me...but I did become a yeller because of all of that (I notice with my dog, and other relationships), so I want to be super prepared for the future.

Quoting Mrs.Mud:" You're welcome.   My older boys are 7.5 and almost 6. I swear hearing our own voices over n over n ... [snip!] ... for an hour, til he started crying that his legs hurt... funny, his ears started working a little better though. Ugh... kids."

When I told my son to clean his room today, 5 minutes into it he starts crying that his hands hurt and it's just too hard to clean his room. Everytime I ask him to clean his room, he gives me that crap. lol.

At 6 he understands consequences.
In my book, "because it's late and you need sleep to grow and be good tomoroow," is an adequate reason for having a set bedtime.
You COULD say, I will tell yu twice "for free." if i have to tell you a third time, it will cost you ________. The _________ is whatever his currency is like playtime with a toy or a favorite show. also, you could say that after the first 2 "free ones," it will cost him 15 minutes of earlier bedtime the next night. So, if you have to tell him 3 times, tomorrow night he goes to bed at 8:45 instead of 9.

Quoting [[Breezy]]:" I've had this pinned for future reference: http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/discipline/ ... [snip!] ... a yeller because of all of that (I notice with my dog, and other relationships), so I want to be super prepared for the future."

Those are awesome tips.

Quoting TheNuge:" At 6 he understands consequences. In my book, "because it's late and you need sleep to grow and be good ... [snip!] ... of earlier bedtime the next night. So, if you have to tell him 3 times, tomorrow night he goes to bed at 8:45 instead of 9."

Those are great tips, as well. I think the bedtime thing would really get his attention. I'm gonna try that in about 30 minutes. I'll let you know how it goes for me  

Oomg....is this what I have to look forward to with my son???????????????

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rydicule91:</b>" He wont!! I don't look back on my parents and think they were horrible. We had our problems but the ... [snip!] ... functioning adults. Your only a child for so long, you're an adult a lot longer and he has to know how to survive out here. "</blockquote>




Not only will a kid think HE can do whatever he wants, but that anybody else can also do whatever they want....even to him. Boundaries teach them (or should teach them, in a perfect world) how to expect to be treated as well as how to treat others.


Or so I figure. I could be talking out my ass, IDK.

Sounds like my son to the T. He's 4 and will peck at me like a bird over and over again to try and get what he wants.  

Quoting Destinite:" Sounds like my son to the T. He's 4 and will peck at me like a bird over and over again to try and get what he wants.  "

It's so infuriating.