He hates me :( *long*

My nephew is almost 3, I lived with him for ober the first 2 years of his life. We spent almost every day together after 18 months and we were very close, he loved me and I loved our bond. Then last November my dad died and in January I found out I was pregnant. We moved out in April and so did he and his parents. I didn't see him often in my pregnancy buy when i did usually he warmed back up to me. Since I've had Aria he barely comes near me. Today I watched him while his dad hauled wood in my backyard with SO; he cried all but 5 min and finally my mom took him to his dad   he was diagnosed with autism recently and he's always made really strong bonds with certain people. I was one., but now he really loves my SO which is fine-that's his uncle. But I feel bad when SO says X probably thinks I've abandoned and replaced him with Aria :/
Does this sound like he does think I just left him? Is there anyway to bond again and maybe even let him bond with Aria so he doesnt blame her for me leaving? I just miss my buba   I lobe my baby but I feel guilty now for getting pregnant even though it definitely wasn't planned.

i was going to name my daughter aria =] but id say just be near him and your SO and he will warm back up =]

I think you should spend time with him as much as possible and remind your nephew that yu love him and that your daughter would love to have someone like him to help care for her. Kids like to be told they are needed to help

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nell_Nell0:</b>" i was going to name my daughter aria =] but id say just be near him and your SO and he will warm back up =]"</blockquote>




Awe   its becoming pretty popular lol. But I've been trying, we go visit as much as possible but its getting colder out so I don't like taking the baby out. Buy I guess I'll just be patient and keep trying

<blockquote><b>Quoting Babiee Miller:</b>" I think you should spend time with him as much as possible and remind your nephew that yu love him and ... [snip!] ... and that your daughter would love to have someone like him to help care for her. Kids like to be told they are needed to help"</blockquote>




It's funny I did that earlier and it helped for a minute. She was crying and I told Jim she loves him and since he's the big cousin he could come help me make her feel happy again. And I make sure I tell him auntie loves him every time I see him and when we say bye.

see that is a good start I am 21 and I am a step mom and I am constantly being asked if I am my 12 year old sisters mom. In a way I am also afraid my sisters or step kids will think I love baby more so maybe we can do ths together

<blockquote><b>Quoting Babiee Miller:</b>" see that is a good start I am 21 and I am a step mom and I am constantly being asked if I am my 12 year ... [snip!] ... old sisters mom. In a way I am also afraid my sisters or step kids will think I love baby more so maybe we can do ths together"</blockquote>




Maybe if they're all old enough to understand, I would try to explain priorities will change but you still love them. I try telling him that but its hard because he's young and autism doesn't help his understanding  

Yeah just remind him that you love him no matter what and you love him and your daughter the same besides your little one needs a good person to be her lay buddy when she grows up just remind him that he is important and that the fun times you guys hve wont change your daughter will just be a prt of it