Is sadness at this stage normal?

It's been around a month and a bit since I had a surgical abortion. I was 13 weeks.

After I had the abortion I felt that it was indeed the right thing and didnt have doubts or seconds thoughts.

Is it normal to only start feeling sad now?
I cried for the first time today.. And I don't know why.

Anyone else felt this way?

i have never had one, but it's normal to feel sadness a while after making a hard decision. Grief doesn't always hit right away.
I hope you feel better and find peace knowing you made the right choice.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" i have never had one, but it's normal to feel sadness a while after making a hard decision. Grief doesn't ... [snip!] ... a hard decision. Grief doesn't always hit right away. I hope you feel better and find peace knowing you made the right choice."</blockquote>




I wish i didn't have to feel.
I know any mum will know that when your pregnant you have a feeling, that's a different feeling to when your not expecting.. I miss that feeling..
Don't get me wrong though.. I don't want a baby just yet.
But I feel like anyone who ever had an opinion of me when I was pregnant, I'm resenting during this stage of grieving if that's what it is. And I can't help it :/

There is absolutely no right or wrong way to feel after something like that.
Everyone copes differently.
I'm sorry, though.

I guess time heals all wounds.

Sorry to hear you are hurting

Just remember why u made the choice u made because u wanted to give your child the best life possible in the future.

You will have your chance to be a mum in the future

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarahgwdm:</b>" Sorry to hear you are hurting Just remember why u made the choice u made because u wanted to give your ... [snip!] ... because u wanted to give your child the best life possible in the future. You will have your chance to be a mum in the future"</blockquote>




Thank you lovely. This made me feel a bit brighter   xo

I just want you to know that I have said a prayer for you.

There is a book that might help with the healing process - http://www.families.org.au/store/default.aspx?prodid=BD228A Solitary Sorrow, by Teri Reisser.

Xo you're welcome

i had felt the same way. i had one where they suctioned it, i was around 9 weeks. i told myself i could never get one done.. i had my daughter by who i thought i was gonna be with forever n marry..thru my pregnancy with my daughter i was abused n yelled at.. a few months b4 i had her it stopped n after..that was in dec 2011, around april 2012.. it got worse n i ended up pregnant again.. in may... he tried making me crash my car.. n pushing me down the stairs.. i was scared that if i have his next child he would actually kill the baby in me which he had told me he would try n suceed cuz he didnt with my daughter.. or what if he kills me n both of them ? i would have felt so much worse if he did that.. it didnt take me a few days or so to figure it out if i should get one.. it was a long n hard process... finally i realized if i have another bby by him he has more obligation to be around or chances to take em and who knows what would happen. i was crying thru the whole thing.. i just felt numb. a few days went by i felt relieved then more weeks n a month n all i did was cry n feel like the worse person evr.. i still do.. but thats something i chose to do for certain reasons.. n i just keep telling myself the reason ..for safety .. it helps ease a lil.. some ppl may not agree. eventually itll ease a lil. just try to remind yr self why.

Kendra -- I'm so sorry you've been through all that, I was in tears as I read your post. I wanted to ask you... are you still with this man?

I had an abortion two years ago at 8 weeks, and I will admit I still have issues with it. I don't think anything is "normal," everyone is different, but sadness is not a bad thing. If you need someone to talk to feel free to chat anytime. If your sadness becomes too much to handle, talk to someone. The past is the past and you must move on, but it is not bad to cry or miss your little one. Feel better

Thankfully no, I found a nice man. Whom I'm very happy with

I've never had one, but I'd say that what you're feeling is normal. I hope you find comfort soon, and are able to heal. If you feel like made the right decision, then you did, just remember that.