Venting about my grief bullsmurf.

We buried the rest of John today. Its been 4 months since he died. John is my son's father. He died unexpectedly and suddenly, although we weren't together, its still extremely difficult to deal with. My son is 3, and he asks about his dad every day.

I'm glad that the whole anticipation of the burial ceremony is over now, but at the same time...its not like it makes me feel any better. We had the funeral a few months ago, but his family practices a lot of native american beliefs, and we buried the rest of his ashes today and performed a proper burial in their eyes.

A guy that I went out on a few dates with told me that today was his friend who died's birthday. He said he went and sat at his grave and drank and cried...  okay...I'm burying the rest of my kids dad today. Could you just let me have that?

I was like...cool. Thinking; I honestly don't want to smurfing hear about your issues today. Today is my day to be sad. I always feel that I am catering to everyone else's emotional needs. All I wanted was one smurfing day with someone not dumping their minute smurfing issues on me.

Its okay that he wanted to be sad...but smurfing really? ^I said that whole rant to him in a somewhat toned down manner...oh smurfing well.

You think I give a smurf today? You think I'm the person that needs to hear about how sad you are that your friend died?

If you're going to criticize me for being selfish with my grief, smurf off. Today is my day, I get to be sad. I spend every other day being strong for my son and holding it together for him.

Quoting **milfshake**:" We buried the rest of John today. Its been 4 months since he died. John is my son's father. He died unexpectedly ... [snip!] ... smurf off. Today is my day, I get to be sad. I spend every other day being strong for my son and holding it together for him. "

What a smurfer.

You did deserve one day, FFS.

I'm sorry dude, and I'm sure it was just FANTASTIC for you to have to sit through months of burials, nothing like a little bit of prolonged suffering.  

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" What a smurfer. You did deserve one day, FFS. I'm sorry dude, and I'm sure it was just FANTASTIC ... [snip!] ... it was just FANTASTIC for you to have to sit through months of burials, nothing like a little bit of prolonged suffering.  "

I shouldn't have been so abrasive, I should have just ignored him.

And right...that has been hell.

Maybe he wanted to let u know hes going through a loss too... And that u have someone who understands if u need to talk.
U know how guys are... They dont know how to say things sometimes.

NOT making excuses.. u do deserve your time of sadness... Not just a day. Take the time u need to heal and help your son heal.