i feel like such a failure as a mom...

i feel like i let my son down   i just came from an early dinner with him, his dad and his new stepmom (   ) and he looked happy so maybe its the right decision to let him stay. his stepmom is so stuck up and thinks she's better than everyone i dont know if i like her.. she's definitely not his dad's type. i dont know what to do about this and i have to make up my mind tonight. what would you do? and why would you do it? idk, i might find a good enough reason here since my mom isn't helping me at all.

There is nothing in the world that could make me leave my kid behind, especially not a 10 yr old.
I couldn't do it.

If he's happy I'd let him stay with dad. How old is he?
You are going through alot right now so it may be best for him. Good luck.

He wants to keep his son?

Honestly, in your situation, I would let your son stay with his dad. Your life is so unstable right now.

let him stay but make sure he calls you if they are mean

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i feel like i let my son down   i just came from an early dinner with him, his dad and his new stepmom ... [snip!] ... what would you do? and why would you do it? idk, i might find a good enough reason here since my mom isn't helping me at all."

Let him go live with his dad. You have so many kids and he will get far more attention at his dads and if he is happy there and taken care of then there's no reason he can't live there.

And you don't know his dad's type. You were (past tense) but people change. My husband now is completely different then my exhusband and I'm a complete 180 from DH's exwife.

I would leave him behind with his dad and stepmom.

What do you mean by "leaving him." Are you not taking care of him anymore? Would they be his primary guardians? How old is he?

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" He wants to keep his son? Honestly, in your situation, I would let your son stay with his dad. Your life is so unstable right now."

    You don't want your son growing up mad at you because of how unstable your life is there for making his life the same.

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" There is nothing in the world that could make me leave my kid behind, especially not a 10 yr old. I couldn't do it."

me neither and my husband knows that. My kids come before ANYBODY and ANYTHING! but that is just me.

Also, what does your son want?

He is old enoguh to have a say

I would never let my child go to live with their father permanently. I would miss them too much, I just couldn't do it.

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" There is nothing in the world that could make me leave my kid behind, especially not a 10 yr old. I couldn't do it."

my mom is saying the same thing. she's pissed that i'm leaving and not taking him with me.

If he happy with his dad I'd let him stay with him. I wouldnt pull him away from him unless you think he'd be better living with you. Your not a failure as mom with either choice you decide make. Just make sure you make best choice for him in the end.

Could his father provide for him better than you can? Do you think his father would be able to give him a more stable, structured life?