re: i feel like such a failure as a mom...

I think that you should ask your son what he wants to do... I honestly could not live without my son but if i knew that i could not provide for him at the time and his dad could i would put my selfishness aside and let him go temporrely but i would do what i had to to get back on my feet and get my son back as soon as possible

Quoting Moses.:" I am going to go against the grain here. OP, I think leaving him here is for the best, for HIS best. ... [snip!] ... situations, except you have a vagina and not a penis. If we wouldn't chastise a man in this predicament we shouldn't a woman. "

agreed.

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Moses.:</b>" But what about his siblings, or future siblings ... [snip!] ... "</blockquote> Siblings that you are raised with trump any other siblings, regardless of degree of blood relation."

I slightly disagree. If one of the children would be best off with the other parent, that's where they should be.

I think you should let the boy decide where he wants to live. I remember when my parents split no one asked me what I wanted, it was all decided for me because I was "too young", I guess. As long as his father can provide a healthy environment, that is.

This whole thing made my skin crawl. How could you ever as his mom leave him somewhere without thoroughly discussing it with both him and his dad? His feelings should matter to you. That isn't how you do this. You can't just drop him off and decide to leave him there and then book a flight across the country knowing you weren't going to see him for a couple of months. I don't understand that at all. I could never ever imagine doing that to any of my boys. I don't care how many i had.

If none of this stuff even crossed your mind before you booked a flight, you don't deserve custody of your son.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i feel like i let my son down   i just came from an early dinner with him, his dad and his new stepmom ... [snip!] ... what would you do? and why would you do it? idk, i might find a good enough reason here since my mom isn't helping me at all."

What exactly do you need to make up your mind about. I need more info. about the situation.

i am be very honest if u leave your son u are a failure he came out of u he grow a bond with u not that step mom ..... i wouldnt allow my song to call no other dirty female step mom period ..... my dad had a wife i called her by her real name she wasn't step nothing .. she was bad at everything .... i would rather have real mom be there then some lame step mom and plus the step mom let the kids get over on them just to please the dad to make it look like the kid likes her thats your child not hers be the women u are and take your child with u do not leave him no were period if the dad want to see him tell him get on a plane or drive ....u got to be strong as a women and have pride in your self u are the provider for this child u carried for 9 months dont give up when it gets tough stick it out and everything will be okay best of luck!

Quoting Toya12:" i am be very honest if u leave your son u are a failure he came out of u he grow a bond with u not that ... [snip!] ... for this child u carried for 9 months dont give up when it gets tough stick it out and everything will be okay best of luck!"

That child has a better future and a more stable home with his father... She's doing the right thing letting him stay. She's not a failure for letting him stay where he has a better life and future. She'd be a failure if she dragged him back and forth across the country with no stability. Besides that, you have no idea who the stepmom is or what she's like. You have no place to judge her when you don't know her. Also it's not the stepmom's fault that her husband has a previous baby mama, how does that make HER a dirty female? I'm not even a stepmother and that whole post was offensive to me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Toya12:</b>" i am be very honest if u leave your son u are a failure he came out of u he grow a bond with u not that ... [snip!] ... for this child u carried for 9 months dont give up when it gets tough stick it out and everything will be okay best of luck!"</blockquote>




You're ridiculous. I'm a stepmom and a damn good one. The stepmom in question could also be, we don't know her. Calling another woman a dirty female because they choose to be with a man who had kids is absolutely horrible. Really how dare you put a woman down like that.

And btw it's also the FATHER'S child. He has the same right to his son.

Smfh

Quoting Toya12:" i am be very honest if u leave your son u are a failure he came out of u he grow a bond with u not that ... [snip!] ... for this child u carried for 9 months dont give up when it gets tough stick it out and everything will be okay best of luck!"

well my my my, aren't you a judgemental smurf

there are so many women who are amazing step mothers out there. Sorry your situation sucked but how dare you call a stepmother a "dirty female"

She is trying to put her son's happiness above her own. That is what makes a good mother. Not just being there

<blockquote><b>Quoting Toya12:</b>" i am be very honest if u leave your son u are a failure he came out of u he grow a bond with u not that ... [snip!] ... for this child u carried for 9 months dont give up when it gets tough stick it out and everything will be okay best of luck!"</blockquote>




And FYI gud isn't a word. Try spell check

Quoting Toya12:" i am be very honest if u leave your son u are a failure he came out of u he grow a bond with u not that ... [snip!] ... for this child u carried for 9 months dont give up when it gets tough stick it out and everything will be okay best of luck!"

Also, did you even read the posts?

OP is about to have her 6th child, no way to support any of her kids. So she should keep her son with her, even though she cannot provide for him and has no kind of stable home life?

The boy will be better off with the dad, who CAN provide for him and meet his needs

Quoting Toya12:" i am be very honest if u leave your son u are a failure he came out of u he grow a bond with u not that ... [snip!] ... for this child u carried for 9 months dont give up when it gets tough stick it out and everything will be okay best of luck!"

A dirty step mom ?? Thats mess up you can just judge everybody you dont know. I know alot of good step moms out there , none of them are dirty. Just because dad married someone else doesnt make that woman dirty. If that case then all women who remarried men would be consider dirty step dads and there not.
You dont know her back ground she doing what she feels is best for her son. That does not make her failure in anyway. She cant take care of him way he needs to be right now and the boy is happy with his dad. There nothing wrong with him living with his dad. She being very unselfish and putting his needs before her own to make sure he has stable and good life.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Toya12:</b>" i am be very honest if u leave your son u are a failure he came out of u he grow a bond with u not that ... [snip!] ... for this child u carried for 9 months dont give up when it gets tough stick it out and everything will be okay best of luck!"</blockquote>


You are a moron. Sounds like you're a jealous bitch because your child's father is married to another woman. How do we know that you weren't the " dirty female" and that's why he isn't with your ass?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:</b>" That child has a better future and a more stable home with his father... She's doing the right thing ... [snip!] ... previous baby mama, how does that make HER a dirty female? I'm not even a stepmother and that whole post was offensive to me. "</blockquote>




Me too. It takes a lot of maturity and patience to blend a family and any woman willing to step up and be a mother-figure for the children her husband had in a previous relationship should be respected.

They should be called "step-UP moms".