confusion

I wrote a long drawn out post and then accidentally deleted it , I believe i am around 5 weeks pregnant , SO of 2 years has already told me that if i go on with the pregnancy we will be done. The planned parenthood in my area does not put you under if you get an in clinic abortion. I dont want to feel any pain i want to feel like the kid in the video that says " is this real life". I am so scared of how i will feel after i terminate this pregnancy, will i resent SO for making me feel pressured ? Will i regret it ? I dont want to be a single mom with two babies by two different men. Its taken me so long to finish school and finally have a career . I know that i don't have the means to support a second child . I really wish i could keep this baby and i am not terminating the pregnancy because i dont want him or her , i am doing it because i dont want to have to raise two babies alone and loose my career.

I love my SO but i am feeling like i want to slap him in the face and hug him at the same time. He says things like " its so early in the time its like a grain of sand"

I just feel confused in general

Maybe adoption. Don't have an abortion unless it's what you want.

Quoting *Zander's mommy*:" Maybe adoption. Don't have an abortion unless it's what you want."

I have already talked to him about that he is against someone else raising his child .  

((hugs)) do what YOU think is best.

but as far as the relationship goes... do you still want to be with him? I could never be with someone who gives me an ultimatum over anything. I want someone who is there through the thick and the thin.. not only when I make choices that he agrees with.

If they dont put u out they put you in a zone and u wont remember it... However i would not do it in less ur 100% for it.

I would think about adoption as well. But good luck and best wishes to you.

My BD said the same thing whenever I got pregnant. I refused abortion, then he asked me to do adoption and said if I didn't then he didn't want to be with me. Well, I still refused and he loves DD to death!

But goodluck in whatever you decide!

Quoting I can see you:" ((hugs)) do what YOU think is best. but as far as the relationship goes... do you still want to be with ... [snip!] ... over anything. I want someone who is there through the thick and the thin.. not only when I make choices that he agrees with."

Thanks for the Hugs  

I do love him , but i do feel like he is only being supportive because i am leaning more towards terminating the pregnancy. I really cant help but wonder if after all of this is said and done if i will want to be with him .

When SO and I first found out I was pregnant he wanted me to get an abortion. I was tired of him telling me he would resent me and tired of him telling me he didn’t want this so I left. Moved back in with my mom for a week and he called crying telling me he made a huge mistake. Now he is such a great father to our son. He loves him so much. Maybe leave and give him some time to think about things. There was no way I was aborting my child for a man(although I loved him so much)

I feel for you but @ same time really think you should take into account your true feelings. I think you really want the baby, your just worried you wont be able to do it solo. I think hes just scared and if you decided it to keep it would come around. And think its really selfish hes not taking your feelings into account  .

I'm sorry your going through this. Honestly though, no matter what, it's your body and your choice. It's not fair of him to put that kind of demand on you. Good luck!

It's upto with what you want do but dont do something because someone pressuring you to do it. Do it because it's what you feel is right for you. My husband now when I got pregnant with our first we loved each other alot but he didnt want baby , and wanted me to do abortion and I left because it wasnt something I could do personally. And he came around after couple months and was glad I didnt listen to him. Now we have a really strong relationship been married almost 3 years this coming up december. We have 4 year old daugther and 2 year old son and a little girl on way. If you want abortion thats completely upto you if that what you feel is right. But if you are not sure dont do it outta of pressure. I wish best for you and what you decide.

You guys are all so great , thank you for taking the time out of your days to respond . I feel very alone right now and have not told any friends.

I am not sure what i am going to do at this point i really dont want to get rid of this baby , i am pro choice for everyone else but just dont know for myself . I think what really gets to me about SO is that he thought abortion was gross and everything planned parent hood stood for was wrong until i came up pregnant. I really never thought i would be in this situation .

(((Hugs))) I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.  
I would talk to your SO. Him forcing you to do this isn't right. If you don't think you can go through with this then you shouldn't.
What ever decision you make you will have to deal with the rest of your life. Sit him down and talk to him. Explain to him your feelings.
Who knows. Maybe in the end you will feel the same as him? Or maybe you will both decide to try this thing.
Either way. The best of luck to you mamma. This is a horrible thing to have to decide.

OP if you feel like you are going to resent him because he is wanting you to do it, then dont. Most of the time guys dont stay after they tell their girlfriends to get an abortion.

If you want to keep the baby, please do it and leave him. It doesnt seem like he is very considerite of your feelings, he is the one that is putting himself first before you.