re: confusion

<blockquote><b>Quoting ThingsGetBetter:</b>" I wrote a long drawn out post and then accidentally deleted it , I believe i am around 5 weeks pregnant ... [snip!] ... at the same time. He says things like " its so early in the time its like a grain of sand" I just feel confused in general"</blockquote>




You have a lot of valid reasons to question continuing your pregnancy. It's a choice only you, not SO, can fully articulate.

Whatever decision you make, it's going to be hard. And if they don't put you under, it won't make that much of a difference because the procedure is over very quickly.

Hi ladies ,

I just wanted to thank everyone for the kinds words and support it meant a lot to me. I have decided to go on and terminate the pregnancy , it was not an easy decision to come to and took some soul searching , weighing the pros and cons and just sitting down with SO. I need to make sure that my career is on the right track before i bring anymore children into this world , with or without SO i need to think for the LO i already have and i want to be able to solely provided for him without worrying about it , having two would make that impossible. I am going in friday for the termination and am pretty nervous but at the same time relieved . I will be updating in another thread afterwards to help anyone else that ever has to me such a hard decision.

Quoting ThingsGetBetter:" Hi ladies , I just wanted to thank everyone for the kinds words and support it meant a lot to me. I ... [snip!] ... time relieved . I will be updating in another thread afterwards to help anyone else that ever has to me such a hard decision."

That's good hun   I'm happy for you that you found the right answer for YOU. Good luck and I will be looking for your update post.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I can see you:</b>" ((hugs)) do what YOU think is best. but as far as the relationship goes... do you still want to be with ... [snip!] ... over anything. I want someone who is there through the thick and the thin.. not only when I make choices that he agrees with."</blockquote>




This! I man should support his woman regardless not make you choose between him or your guys child!

Its been almost 3 weeks since i terminated my pregnancy through medical abortion , i would be 9 weeks 1 day this coming friday. I just kept thinking about ways to get up and leave the clinic but i just couldn't bring myself to do it. I passed the pregnancy at home , i have not been able to get the image out of my head. Every single day i cry and some nights i just cant go to sleep or i wake up during the night with extreme anxiety. I regret my decision 100% Last night SO said something on the lines that we could get through anything. If thats so true why couldnt we raise our child? In some ways SO and i are closer then ever and in some ways when i really think about things i quietly resent him. SO loves to win and be right and in some ways i cant help but feel like he just had to get his way and now he is acting great because he got exactly what he wanted.

Probably a lot of what i am feeling is displaced anger , i should of been stronger and gone with my heart. I don't think this hurt will ever go away.

Quoting ThingsGetBetter:" Its been almost 3 weeks since i terminated my pregnancy through medical abortion , i would be 9 weeks ... [snip!] ... i am feeling is displaced anger , i should of been stronger and gone with my heart. I don't think this hurt will ever go away."

  I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Maybe you need go him and sit him down and explain everything your feeling. It's not good to hold it all in until you finally break down. A descion like that never easy and it does hurt alot but dont beat yourself down about it. You might need go to a consular too, help you get pass this. I know you dont know me but if you ever need vent someone feel free send me email , dont hold this in. Nobody deserves to suffer in dark alone.

Quoting ThingsGetBetter:" Its been almost 3 weeks since i terminated my pregnancy through medical abortion , i would be 9 weeks ... [snip!] ... i am feeling is displaced anger , i should of been stronger and gone with my heart. I don't think this hurt will ever go away."

I'm sorry. *hugs*