curiosity

Im seriously so curious to why people are such put downs on teen moms/ young moms. because i came to this site for more information and some support because even though i have my SO and his family and part of mine i still wanted to talk to people going threw and who have gone threw pregnancy; "teen moms"/ young moms, or not i wanted to know more about whats going to happen, whats going on, what things that are normal, and what are not. To me that's not that big of a deal especially when younger moms to be then i am are asking for advice and help from a older crowd? so why does everyone love to bitch and moan about teen pregnancy?

Because "teen moms" make a big deal about being "teen moms" and sometimes they act more like a teenager instead of a mother.

and i can understand that to an extent but some of these girls are simply asking understandable questions and are trying to figure things out and people are just smurf's

Coming from a teen mom( hate the term but I got pregnant at 17 & 19) don't call yourself a teen mom. Act mature and you will get mature responses

Teenagers are defiant by nature. Rarely will you even see a teen mother ask older mother's for advice. They tend to "know it all". Having a child in your teens is irresponsible and they don't like to hear that.

If it bothers you so much, just leave. No one is forcing you to come on this website.

Quoting Veronika Karn:" and i can understand that to an extent but some of these girls are simply asking understandable questions and are trying to figure things out and people are just smurf's"

Yeah, I don't know. I got pregnant as a teen and I loved hearing advice from mothers of all ages.

Quoting Sophia's Mommy♥:" Yeah, I don't know. I got pregnant as a teen and I loved hearing advice from mothers of all ages."

and that's how i am. im 18 and there's a lot going on that im not used to and that im scared and afraid of and when i ask a question i get rude remarks constantly and ive got it drilled in my head that its not going to be easy and i dont expect it to be, but to me its going to be worth it all in the end.

but with some people yes i can understand the rude remarks because of some of the situations but i dont get when someone who is asking about pain, labor, or if somethings normal in the pregnancy i see "should of aborted it your to young" to me i just find that cruel and heartless to say to someone who is trying to get things figured out and understand whats going on.

Quoting Veronika Karn:" and that's how i am. im 18 and there's a lot going on that im not used to and that im scared and afraid ... [snip!] ... i just find that cruel and heartless to say to someone who is trying to get things figured out and understand whats going on."

Yeah that's pretty smurffy if they're saying stuff like that.

I don't know why people bother to come on a teen pregnancy board if they're going to act like that. Also, obviously if you post on here everyone is going to know you're a teen mother so what's it matter if you state it or not? Can't people see your age anyway?  

Anyway, for every bitchy comment there's usually someone willing to be more supportive, so just ignore them.

Because teenagers are idiots.

People make being a teenage mother such a big deal , because they feel as if we haven't fully matured or really have been through any real life experiences therefore we can not do what needs to be done. They think since we are teens all we worry about is partying and doing things to get in trouble; now don't get me wrong we have a handful of teenage mothers that act like that. But everyone is not the same ; when us young women realize that this is another life we have to provide for we get scared just at the thought, but do tend to come to realization that we made the choice to lay down with whomever unprotected even though it wasnt our intentions to get pregnant, but these are the consequences we have to deal with after that stupid decision we made.

Honestly Im happy that i conceived a child instead of some kind of STD or even AIDs. I mean my situation couldve been 10 times worse. Ive couldve been laying on my death bed fighting for my life, because I wouldve had some horrible disease taking our my entire body.

Well it really doesnt matter what happened , what really matters is what you choose to do with what happens. We have young women all over the world that haven't even hit there teens yet having babies and get married. So please when people badger Teen Mothers its just them being ignorant and petty because they do not know how we are really feeling deep down on the inside and whats our story behind it all.

Some young moms are open to suggestions, that's good. On the other hand, some girls don't seem to understand the gravity of their situations. Pregnancy is the easy part, once that pregnancy becomes a helpless human being that you are 100% responsible for, it's a whole new ball game.


There are a lot of knowledgable women on here and if you stick around, you'll find the support you need. Good luck!

I'm a teen and a week before my.due date but I can't stand for any woman to classify them selves as teen moms were all mothers and usually when these mom's classify them selves as teen moms its usually because there immature teenagers who think they know it all

Quoting Veronika Karn:" and that's how i am. im 18 and there's a lot going on that im not used to and that im scared and afraid ... [snip!] ... i just find that cruel and heartless to say to someone who is trying to get things figured out and understand whats going on."

I'm 18 as well and have NEVER, not once gotten a response like that to any of my posts. If you don't make a big deal about being a teen mom, people won't treat you like one. You don't need to inform everyone that you are young in your posts [not saying you do, I have not checked any of your older posts.] but just in general I see alot of teens come on here and the first thing they do is tell everybody they are a "teen mom" and they are young and blahblah. Act like a mother, not a child, and you will be treated as such.

I am not a teen mom. When my son gets here I will just be his mommy, and that's all that matters.