I feel like I cant do this

I just got married, moved into a house. Our house isnt prepared. For example we only have one pot, no pans, we just bought silver ware, we need a washer and dryer still and to pay off our bed and couch.. I feel like I cant do this. My husband acts ready but I doubt he is. We just started all of this in August. Im excited but so overwhelmed. This isnt how I pictured it. I am against abortion and I believe that I am blessed with a miracle baby.. I just feel helpless. Its hard to not have family around. & my husband is supposed to be getting deployed 3 months after the baby is due.. that alone stresses me out so much. D: They say god doesn't throw something your way if he knew that you couldnt handle it.. I really have my doubts now. I just need advice I guess. I just feel alone and very overwhelmed during this pregnancy.

Youre not alone and you can do it! Stay strong mama and keep your head up.
Do you have any friends in your area?

I'm sorry hun! I know how you feel! When me and my DH got married we were no where near ready! For the washer and dryer I would look on craigslist, a lot of people "upgrade" when there is nothing wrong with them. Also I went to big lots to get my kitchen stuff until I could "Upgrade" lol I hope this helps. You can do this mama!

Quoting Adrienne +1:" Youre not alone and you can do it! Stay strong mama and keep your head up. Do you have any friends in your area?"

no, i just moved from michigan to north carolina in august and im trying to stay strong but its so hard, adapting to a new place, new family, and now a baby. its very overwhelming and stressful. More stressful then just having a baby. /:

I'm going to assume you're military by the Ft.Bragg and moved 700 miles. Keep your head up. It will get better. Maybe get a part time job to pass time? Join the FRG to meet people?

Quoting It's Delivered:" I'm going to assume you're military by the Ft.Bragg and moved 700 miles. Keep your head up. It will get better. Maybe get a part time job to pass time?

Sure did! and I would but I am pregnant, and the husband has the car from 6am, to 6pm if not later sometimes. Plus I STILL need my license. We are just a mess.

Quoting mommyashley!:" I'm sorry hun! I know how you feel! When me and my DH got married we were no where near ready! For the ... [snip!] ... with them. Also I went to big lots to get my kitchen stuff until I could "Upgrade" lol I hope this helps. You can do this mama!"

yeah its just getting the money together basically. christmas is coming up and our 12 hour trip back home. EEEK! but thankyou i hope so. Ill be a first time mom, and im freaking out x)

Calm down it will be okay it's always hard starting out at first and no matter how prepared you are something always has a way of derailing things and having complicated situations. i got married at 18 and was scared to death because my husband moved across the country to live with me and we had nothing but after a lot of sacrifices and struggling we have built a happy life together. i know you guys will to! congrats on the baby and just enjoy these moment because 2 years from now you will look back and be super proud of what you have accomplished.  

You are not alone. We got pregnant and married soon after. We are living with MIL because she can't care for herself... So soon I will care for her and LO. We have more bills than we can afford to pay. We have no dishwasher, washer/dryer... We own 2 pans. And we can't even look for a place because we can't afford it; DH's credit is too bad and I don't work. I get overwhelmed all the time! Life is hard! This isn't what I pictured... Me DH and soon LO are all in one little room. MIL is chronically ill, so dealing with the stress of caring for her, and doing my best to keep LO healthy is crazy. (She chronically ill because she dosnt eat right, and she refuses to wash her hands. She can't use the bathroom without... 'Making a mess' to be polite, and she dosnt ever get out of bed (by choice) so she is losing all her muscle and creating a real problem) I honestly feel like in losing my mind. DH is trying hard to work longer, which he does. He stays at the office an extra 3 hours, but with no OT...(not what I need right now! i need him here!) He does all this so we can make more and pay off bills, to raise credit scores, to possibly get a place of our own next year or so. I just need to stay sane till then 0_o and to put a cherry on top DH's niece just moved in... Then got pregnant, and she is hungry all the time!! I understand that, but even I had to take less and give more cause we can hardly afford food. But she dosnt mind eating everything! Since she moved in I lost 15 lbs, and that's in my last 10 weeks of pregnancy. Baby measures in at 35 weeks and I'm almost 39 weeks. Ugh.... Sometimes life sucks.

Quoting Baby Brooklyn coming soon:" You are not alone. We got pregnant and married soon after. We are living with MIL because she can't care ... [snip!] ... that's in my last 10 weeks of pregnancy. Baby measures in at 35 weeks and I'm almost 39 weeks. Ugh.... Sometimes life sucks."

I hope things get better for you and your little family sounds very stressful! take care of yourself  

Quoting Baby Brooklyn coming soon:" You are not alone. We got pregnant and married soon after. We are living with MIL because she can't care ... [snip!] ... that's in my last 10 weeks of pregnancy. Baby measures in at 35 weeks and I'm almost 39 weeks. Ugh.... Sometimes life sucks."

wow its hard for both of us then. i feel bad for his mom D: that has to be hard on him let alone you. so youll be taking care of her, and a baby. thats crazy. i hope all works out for you. i truly do. life does suck lol but after we hold our babies we will realize anything and everything was worth it. the stress is killer though. ugh!

Quoting Andrea0510:" I hope things get better for you and your little family sounds very stressful! take care of yourself  "

thankyou, you too  

I can't wait to hold my little girl! Yeah, MIL does it to herself... She's depressed and makes herself sick like that. And I guess we tend to every need she has, even when she capable of helping herself, so I guess we're not helping as much as we think. But she gets pneumonias on average 8 times a year. And he won't wash her hands and I'm just scared for LO being in this environment. I just keep telling myself this is only temporary. DH did just get an amazing job, he has potential to make $100k a year in about 4 years time, but he just got the job so he has to start from the bottom... 36k a year. It's tough, but were getting by. Everyone says not to stress, it's bad for LO. But I'll tell you a good cry every now and then really helps. You let it all out.... And then gather yourself and move on. I never agreed till I hit rock bottom from stress and now I just have to let it out. It's all we can do in situations like these. Just remember, they are temporary.  

Quoting Baby Brooklyn coming soon:" I can't wait to hold my little girl! Yeah, MIL does it to herself... She's depressed and makes herself ... [snip!] ... stress and now I just have to let it out. It's all we can do in situations like these. Just remember, they are temporary.  "

she should talk to someone about whats bothering her. your SO should make her go to counseling for her own good. It would help her a lot. I hope everything works out and he makes that much a year. I dont even know how much my new husband makes in a year I think its only 22000, still not enough. Army sucks but he will get promoted in a few months and thatll increase his pay. Just cant wait to go home. Crying once in awhile really helps, I am usually not emotional but this baby makes me crazy lol. Its only temporary, your right.