re: All Booked.

I was telling her about my experience Angela so smurf off I didn't want the abortion anyway so why are you fighting with me about it

Quoting Mrs cree:" I was telling her about my experience Angela so smurf off I didn't want the abortion anyway so why are you fighting with me about it"

I wasnt fighting with you. And Im not angela.

Quoting Erin & Mike:" Sorry didnt mean to offend anyone, still new to this sight and not on that much- Obviously she didnt feel I offended her though or else she would have deleted my comment or flagged it."

She cant delete it, neither can the mods or the super mods. And I was the one that flagged it because I asked the other mods.

OOPS! My mistake big time because I didnt realize I was in this forum -- sorry ladies- I just realized clicking on the side posts takes you to different forums and not just pregnancy issues forum like I thought I was in. Like I said, still getting used to all this since I just joined a few months ago and not on a lot.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Erin & Mike:</b>" Sorry didnt mean to offend anyone, still new to this sight and not on that much- Obviously she didnt feel I offended her though or else she would have deleted my comment or flagged it."</blockquote>




rules are rules.

Op, only you can make this decision, but know you are NOT a bad person, regardless of what you choose.

I can see you have your place as UK so you will probably go through the same process as what I would've. I've noticed from on here America is quite different in regards to the medical abortion and such so if you want to speak to myself about the actual process you go through here you can. Anyway I was the same as you 23, never in a million years thought I would be in the situation and thought I would regret it. I don't, I never have which truly shocked me as I thought I would never be able to live with myself. You do what is right for you.

I feared regrets when I had mine, even though I didn't want a kid.
And even though I've shed a few tears during the first year after my abortion, I never, never regret it. It was the most responsible choice I'd made as an adult up to hat point, because an unplanned pregnancy effects everyone.

Believe me , you won't be the only one dealing with it if you bring a life into this world knowing you'll be asking family to regularly help you out.

They didn't ask me if I wanted to see it 6/7 years ago in the U.S. I saw the embryo it looked like a bean so I asked how big it was and the nurse said the size of my thumb finger nail. She asked if I wanted a printed picture and I told her no. It was hard but I had really thought my decision out already. I don't regret the abortion I regret getting pregnant in the first place.

Thank you for all your replies and kind words.
This is the hardest decision of my life I've ever made and will be something that affects me emotionally for the foreseeable future if not forever.
TJ I'd be grateful for any info you can give me.
Many thanks guys.

I'm unsure if you are going through the hospital or a private clinic, mine was done through the hospital. Seeing as you're booked I assume you have been to your Doc and been signed off by 2 Doctors and referred? As you are so early on I assume you will have opted for a medical abortion, the pills? My experience was going to the hospital and having an initial meeting with the Nurse who asks a number of questions to establish why you want the abortion, to make sure you aren't being forced or coerced, etc, to make you aware they have additional support available such as counselling before or after and also you can discuss future contraception which they can arrange and do for you after the abortion. At this point they will do a scan to date the pregnancy also, as it was in the hospital the ladies doing the scan aren't specifically from the abortion unit, they normally just come from maternity so they will all be very different. You will be sent home and given an appointment to come back for the first pill. For me it was couple of days, you just pop into hospital and you take one pill orally and you take it whilst there in front of them. This is the start of the abortion and you cannot change your mind after this as the process while have already started. You must return to the hospital 48 hours later. Some women will start to bleed in this time, some don't, I personally experienced bleeding. On returning 48 hours later you will be asked to come in as early as you can that morning about 8.30/9am and signed into the unit as a day patient. They will check what symptoms you've experienced and then you will have 2 pills inserted vaginally. Also be given some pain relief. You remain in the hospital unit until about 5/6pm, throughout the day everytime you go to the bathroom you must use on of those hospital bowls and then alert them as they examine the contents to check what you have passed each time. If at the end of the day they are happy you have passed everything then that is the end of the process although not all women do. I personally didn't, I only passed regular looking blood. In this case you are sent home to pass and given an appointment to come back in 2 weeks for a scan to check everything is gone. You will experience cramps throughout that day, I can't say how bad they will be because everyone is different but some say not much more than a bad period. The pills basically bring on miscarriage so in that sense it is looked at as a much more "natural" process your body goes through, it is nothing your body won't be able to handle. I personally took 10 days off for the entire process just to deal emotionally, mentally, physically but I had a wonderful manager who I was able to tell what was happening and she quickly rearranged my rota in order to give me as many days off as she possibly could. You don't really need all that time but if you can it is good to have, even if you can take a few days off just to relax. I'm not sure how different it would be at a private clinic but I can't imagine much. Legally the process has to be 2 days before the first pill and the 2nd 2 and as you can take them at home in America legally you can't here in the UK as you need to remain as a day patient under "observation". Are you going to a hospital here or a private clinic?

Hey!
I'm going to the hospital at 8am on the 31st where I will be assessed and given the first pill that day, on the 1st/2nd (depending on their appointments I guess) is when I will have 4 tablets inserted into my vagina she hasn't told me I will need the second day off work as well she told me ill only need the first day off and the morning of the second day.
I think I much prefer surgical it's over and done with, ergh.

I don't know anything about surgical so I couldn't share any experience or advice but if you want surgical can't you have it?? I was offered the choice of medical or surgical but I chose medical.

Went to the hospital today, I had my first pill, got my insertation tomorrow, I'm absolutely wracked with guilt, I haven't felt anything towards what I've done until now.
I know I haven't made the wrong decision but I feel guilty for taking away his/her life.
Nvm, it's done now I can't change it.