Do you think you overcompensated

Not sure if that's the right word. But for teens do you think you tried too hard to prove that you could be a good mom. I know I did..I got pregnant at fourteen and I never went anywhere or did anything without my son. I've breasted him for four years. I never went on a date or even really talked to anyone. I was trying so hard to prove to everyone that I could do it that I lost myself

I had LO at 21 and felt like this the first couple of years. Still lost.

So I know what you mean,lol

I'm 18, so I don't consider myself a teen mom. But, I'm a young mom. And I definitely try way too hard in every aspect of my life just to prove to people that I can do it. I keep my house spotless constantly, I cook dinner for my SO every night that he's home, and I'm putting myself through college too. I work a million times harder on any given day than most people I know. Just to prove that I can do it and so that no one can ever talk down to me or make me feel like a bad mom or girlfriend. I wonder when I'll get to slow down a little bit.

I just took care of my kid and never worried what anyone else had to say.

In my situation, i don't think i am overcompensating, or trying too hard or whatever. I just think that having a child has changed me, period. I'm different because before I was caring for only myself, and now i have a family to care for. I didn't lose myself necessarily, just evolved. I got pregnant a week before my 20th bday.

Not really. I was motivated to be a good mom because my daughter deserves the best. Other people have no effect on the way I parent.

Quoting Mama♥Sweetpea:" Not really. I was motivated to be a good mom because my daughter deserves the best. Other people have no effect on the way I parent. "

this too!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♥Sweetpea:</b>" Not really. I was motivated to be a good mom because my daughter deserves the best. Other people have no effect on the way I parent. "</blockquote>


Oh no I wasn't saying that I was only a good mom because of what people thought! I hope my post didn't come off that way

Quoting Tavi:" I had LO at 21 and felt like this the first couple of years. Still lost. So I know what you mean,lol"

Same here. Im 25 and I had my youngest last year and I have not gone on a date and or really gone out. Because I feel like I put him up for adoption so I need to stay home and work on myself rather than having "fun".

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Same here. Im 25 and I had my youngest last year and I have not gone on a date and or really gone out. ... [snip!] ... gone out. Because I feel like I put him up for adoption so I need to stay home and work on myself rather than having "fun"."

Yea, you wouldn't be giving him up for adoption though. You said "youngest" so I know that means there's more,lol. If you have the option of getting a break, just try to relax. I know it's easier said than done, but give it a shot.

Quoting Tavi:" Yea, you wouldn't be giving him up for adoption though. You said "youngest" so I know that means there's ... [snip!] ... more,lol. If you have the option of getting a break, just try to relax. I know it's easier said than done, but give it a shot. "

lol yeah. I only have one other son so he is the oldest. lol.

I actually had 2 guys that wanted to take me out and I turned to be the biggest bitch to them. Its hard. Becuase I know if I go out my mom is going to complain about it. And if its with a guy then omg, she will complain even more because "you need to get yourself together before adding a guy".. It sucks. I know I need to get out and I deserve it. I dont know.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" lol yeah. I only have one other son so he is the oldest. lol. I actually had 2 guys that wanted to ... [snip!] ... "you need to get yourself together before adding a guy".. It sucks. I know I need to get out and I deserve it. I dont know. "

Yea. I wouldn't tell your mom then if she's just going to make you feel guilty about it. I'm just saying, I only have one...and it's hard to find time to "find yourself"....so with 2, yea....you deserve a nice little break. Even if it's just by yourself....at a park...with a sub sandwich....enjoying peace and quiet  

Quoting Tavi:" Yea. I wouldn't tell your mom then if she's just going to make you feel guilty about it. I'm just saying, ... [snip!] ... deserve a nice little break. Even if it's just by yourself....at a park...with a sub sandwich....enjoying peace and quiet   "

lol. I think you misunderstood me lol. I have 1, but I placed my youngest when he was born last year... lol.

I think I am going to do that one day when my son is at school is walk a mile to get something to eat and walk back.

No. I had her at 16 and did what made sense to me without giving a flying smurf what anyone else thought. I co-slept and was an attached parent because that's my parenting style, not because I had anything to prove.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" lol. I think you misunderstood me lol. I have 1, but I placed my youngest when he was born last year... ... [snip!] ... lol. I think I am going to do that one day when my son is at school is walk a mile to get something to eat and walk back. "

Ooooh, yea, I totally misunderstood you. Sorry about that.

And I think that's a great idea. It's crazy how little things like taking a nice walk can turn into something awesome when you're a mom,lol Either way, I hope you get a little time to yourself