Need help ASAP

Hi so my son is 2 now and I took his father to court to get child support and to get custody so he can't keep him from me. His visitation is one weekend s month and one Sunday. This guy is very abusive in every way. I just found out that he beat up a girl when our son was / months old. When he takes him he doesn't feed him put him down for naps and my son won't sleep till 10 or 11 at night because he has to sleep in a room with his half sister and grandmother. His father sleeps in the dining room. I was telling my therapist all this and about him sneaking and taking him far away to a party and told me when he brought him back. The custody agreement says he has to discuss it with me first. Well my son came home really tired it was in the 90s that day in the beginning of September! I gave him a cup of milk and put him to bed at 8 pm. He was extremely hungry and thirsty the next morning but didn't have a wet diaper untill 10 or 11 am. He almost never eats or sleeps good when he is with him. If his father didn't live with his mom still I don't know what would happen. Anyway. My therapist told me she has to report him to dcfs. She thinks they will give emergancy supervised visits. I'm afraid the he is going to think its me and do something. Or say horrible things about me. Sorry this is long and all over the place. I'm freaking out!

Oops. My question is what is going to happen? What is the process like? Can they take my son from me? Can they change his visitation?

the most important thing is the welfare of your child. Who cares what he says or thinks about you. If he puts his hands on you get a restraining order!

Id report him your son is too young to be going through all of that and i would trust him around your kid either that stuff sticks with them wether you realize it or not my older sister let stuff like that happen with her son and his father and hes such a emotionally disturbed child and acts out all the time

i can relate to this momma, my son has been going with his dad since he was 4 months, thank god his grandma took care of him when he was there, but then my sons dad moved from his moms place and on his own..there were many girls looking after my son, my sons dad is abusive to his one baby mom and my son had witnessed the fight, apparently(baby mom said) but i do believe it cuz my son came home hitting and so much anger in him...I took him to court and i have full custody but no child support because his deadbeat ass is on welfare..also when hes with his dad he must be with family members ...my son's father NOW has 3 other children after my son, all within a year...he sickens me to see the way he is and dont want my son to be anything like him..i now dont talk to him or see him, my son hasnt seen him in a few month( i moved away) lol

Thanks for the replies! My therapist told me that she called DCFS and that they took the report. I'm scared because I don't know what is going to happen. He is such a good liar. He is going to say all sorts of things about me. Has anyone been through this? Can they take my son from me? Can they stop his visitation?

They can not take your son away from you! NO matter how good of a liar he is, he has to prove you to be an unfit mother, now you can ask them for supervised visitation while they are doing their investigation. Good luck and dont stress out about it.

Quoting **WyattsMumma**:" Thanks for the replies! My therapist told me that she called DCFS and that they took the report. I'm ... [snip!] ... to say all sorts of things about me. Has anyone been through this? Can they take my son from me? Can they stop his visitation?"

how old is your son, they might question him depending on his age, i dont see them taking him from u

Thanks! My son just turned 2 last Saturday. My therapist sent a fax letter to them explaining the situation explaining the situation. I'm such an anxious person mostly when it comes to him because he scares the smurf out of me. I'm fake to him because if I am not nice or don't pay attention and compliment him. He gets really mean even makes threats to me. I know that is wrong of me but I don't know what to do.

Quoting **WyattsMumma**:" Thanks! My son just turned 2 last Saturday. My therapist sent a fax letter to them explaining the situation ... [snip!] ... and compliment him. He gets really mean even makes threats to me. I know that is wrong of me but I don't know what to do."

i as scared of my sons dad also but not any more, i have over comne the scaredness and over powered him lol sounds bad, but its all about control

I do not mean this in any way bit to help you , but you really need to grow a back bone and not be scared of him. Show him that you can be just as crazy. even if you are scared as hell. I dont condone domestic violence but the next time he make a threat to you make one right back and dare him to try you. You have to protect you and your son. Get a gun license (even if you dont get a gun) and tell him you are licensed to carry and will not hesitate to shoot him!!! lol! NO but seriously, you do need to take back your life. he will always have that control over you until you take a stand. My son father is afraid of me because I will not hesitate to call him out on every single threat he's made. Good luck, I know you have to handle this the in a way you are comfortable, My only point and hope is that you not be afraid of him and take a stand!!!

i agree FULLY

Thanks for the replies. I know I need to grow a back bone and stand up to him.

If you are doing what is best for your child, which obviously is getting supervised visits, and you contact DHS then they are going to work with you. If you continue to let your ex take him and someone else calls, the state isn't going to be so nice about it. I think you need to do what is best for yourself and your child and not worry about what your ex says or thinks, he doesn't seem like someone that you should worry a whole lot about, your main priority should be taking care of your kid.

Quoting **WyattsMumma**:" Thanks for the replies. I know I need to grow a back bone and stand up to him."

its hard, i know, iv been though this lol took me 2 years to stand up to him