Sick sibling around preemie baby

Hi guys!!! I could really use some help! My fiancé and I just welcomed our daughter September 1, 9 weeks premature. My fiancé has a daughter from a previous marriage and gets her on his days off. Since she is sick I ask him to hold off getting her due to the risk of Madison( our preemie) contracting RSV or any other illness from her. How do I get him to understand the severity of a preemie getting ill? He just isn't understanding!

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DO NOT ler her around your prem!! My preemie (10 weeks early) almost died from getting sick shortly after we brought her home. I know it sounds mean but baby's life could depend on you keeping her as far away from sick people as possible. It is very serious for a preemie to get sick, I believe it's a 90 percent chance that baby will end up in hospital due to breathing issues (they don't know how to breath from their mouths for awhile). Good luck, keep baby girl safe. If worse comes to worse, pack up the baby and go somewhere else for a week or so.

have him talk to the doctors.

Quoting *Cade*Mak*Col*:" Is his daughter sick? If not, there is no reason that he shouldn't have his daughter and get to have ... [snip!] ... was discharged from the hospital she is fine to be around other people. Just have her sibling wash up before getting close."

She said she is sick.

Whoops I didn't see it in the OP.. I saw it in the Title but not the post so I was confused. Now I see it.

Quoting *Cade*Mak*Col*:" Is his daughter sick? If not, there is no reason that he shouldn't have his daughter and get to have ... [snip!] ... was discharged from the hospital she is fine to be around other people. Just have her sibling wash up before getting close."

NOT true!! Preemies are much more likely to become deadly ill if exposed to illnesses that may seem like a mild cold to others. Preemies have very low immune systems. It is NOT recommended that preemies be brought around many people sick or not. Don't take the chance. My preemies lungs collapsed from being sick.. I can't stress enough how important it is to keep baby away from sick people.

Quoting Layla-and-Faith:" NOT true!! Preemies are much more likely to become deadly ill if exposed to illnesses that may seem ... [snip!] ... My preemies lungs collapsed from being sick.. I can't stress enough how important it is to keep baby away from sick people."

Okay. First of all... I misunderstood. I didn't realize her SO's daughter was already sick. I misread.

But regardless... if his child WASN'T sick she is fine to be around the preemie if she was discharged and brought home. I understand that they are a lot more fragile but honestly, you don't ship your other kids away when you bring a preemie home. That is still his daughter who needs to meet her sister and be with her Daddy... of course, when she is better.

I'm not trying to cut any ties between him and his other daughter. But his daughter is SICK and we just brought our baby girl home. She still isn't even supposed to be here

Quoting *Cade*Mak*Col*:" Okay. First of all... I misunderstood. I didn't realize her SO's daughter was already sick. I misread. ... [snip!] ... preemie home. That is still his daughter who needs to meet her sister and be with her Daddy... of course, when she is better. "

Yes, when she isn't sick it is fine!! My two year old caught a cold and the leading doctor at the chest clinic DID tell us to send our other child away, not even joking. We didn't actually send her anywhere but we had to keep the baby in our bedroom at all times and not let the two year old around her plus wear masks when around the baby.. it was an awful week. (This isn't the same time as when she ended up in the hospital with collapsed lungs) baby was a bit older. They really take preemies getting sick seriously due to lack of immune system.

Vanessa, the NICU will give you a note to explain to your husband how important it is for baby's health that sick people stay away. I know it's a hard place to be in when it's another child that is sick but there is too much risk involved. Don't feel bad that you want to keep your baby healthy. I'm sure the NICU already told you upon discharge to be careful so that's probably why you are so nervous about it. You have right to feel this way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" Vanessa, the NICU will give you a note to explain to your husband how important it is for baby's health ... [snip!] ... told you upon discharge to be careful so that's probably why you are so nervous about it. You have right to feel this way."</blockquote>



Thanks so much for responding with your experience! I'm not trying to be mean and ugly or trying to keep him from getting his daughter. I just have to be her activist and keep her safe.